Crazy [baby momma]

[JewelD]

Anyone ever dated a man with a crazy baby momma? Or even vice versa, a woman with a crazy baby daddy? Never married, relationship didn't last long, dramatic breakup, that kinda thing? How did it work out for you?

 

I just wonder how many of these bm's are legit crazy and how many are made out to be crazy by the man? It's so much easier to say "she's crazy" rather than "I keep telling her we're going to get back together and sleep with her for fun occasionally when I have no intentions of being with her." Although I'm sure there are also many women who just can't let go of what they thought was going to be a happy family.

 

and how is a person with a crazy bd/bm supposed to deal with them to prevent drama in their new relationships?

[leogirl876]

Yes, I have! Which is why I don't want to date someone again who has kids. I don't have kids, so I don't want anyone with kids. The BM got into crystal meth, prostitution, into jail and the current husband of her's was beating her up, etc. She'd disappear for a couple of months at a time, and the ex-bf daughter wouldn't see or hear from her mom. Thank God the little girl lived with her dad and not her mom. It was a bad situation, now I choose to date people who don't have kids and baby mama's.

[JewelD]

Yes, I have! Which is why I don't want to date someone again who has kids. I don't have kids, so I don't want anyone with kids. The BM got into crystal meth, prostitution, into jail and the current husband of her's was beating her up, etc. She'd disappear for a couple of months at a time, and the ex-bf daughter wouldn't see or hear from her mom. Thank God the little girl lived with her dad and not her mom. It was a bad situation, now I choose to date people who don't have kids and baby mama's.

 

Yeah, that's my usual rule. But I met a guy who has a daughter but he said his bm was crazy and obsessed with him. I'm thinking it's probably better to just leave it alone.

[phineas]

FYI OP BM usually equals Bowl Movement.

 

I usually ask single mom's in the beginning if their baby daddy pays support and try to find out his scumbag level.

[SoThatHappened]

Anyone ever dated a man with a crazy baby momma?

I dated the crazy baby momma. Never again.

 

Single parents aren't always crazy, obviously. But, sometimes when people say a person is crazy, they're right!

 

I've dated amazing women, and I've dated a couple crazies as well. They're out there...

[Toodaloo]

Currently dating a guy with a crazy baby mamma and oh my days do I want it to end...

 

The attempted kid nappings, the bricks thrown at cars, the lawyers fees, the constant yo yo emotions, the new bloke phoning up and making threats, its only 4 months but most days I wish it hadn't gone past 4 minutes. I enjoy life more when he isn't around because there is no drama...

 

I am tired... really damned tired.

 

Why do people have kids with crazy people? Its just madness...

 

I digress.

 

When/ if I end this I will be taking a LONG break from dating. It has put me off dating men with children. If I do date a man with a child again I will be asking some really tough questions early on and walking if I get so much as a sniff of trouble...

 

Its just not worth it. It really just is not worth it.

[Toodaloo]

Yeah, that's my usual rule. But I met a guy who has a daughter but he said his bm was crazy and obsessed with him. I'm thinking it's probably better to just leave it alone.

 

Don't walk -RUN.

 

To be honest I am now in a situation where I don't actually think I feel anything for this guy at all. I have no idea what to talk about because the ex features so heavily and it has just totally taken over.

 

Oh, he goes on about how much he loves me and adores me etc etc but I just don't believe him any more. Yes I know he couldn't have got through the last 3-4 months with out my support but is that MY problem? Why in the heck should I have to deal with someones crazy ex when I have dealt with mine and sorted it out? Sod that! Its not even as if I have known him all that long.

 

Like I say - I am tired. I am worn out and while it would be nice to see him again I have to confess that if he phoned up right now and said he was never going to see me again I would just feel relief...

 

I need to end it. I have known this for a while but I am bejiggered if I know how. Why? Because every blinking time I finally pluck up the courage and am in the "zone", ready to do the deed some other flipping disaster comes up... then I spend half an hour listening to what she has done now by which point my brain is fried and I just want some peace and quiet...

 

Do not get into this position - its hell on earth.

[Kuchi2]

I have a child and definitely do not treat my child's father like I need him and purposely try to make his life hell. I told him the moment I left him that I won't do child support and court ordered anything if he's willing to meet me in the middle and work it out, so far so good. He is dating now and I have zero issues with that. I leave him alone.

 

Crazy BM/BD are immature adults honestly. My bf's BM is a tad crazy, but by that I mean she wants to control him like she has since they broke up, and he has finally put her in her place and she doesn't like it. She doesn't want him back, just wants him at her disposal. She will have her moments where she sends him an essay worth of rant texts and she still calls me name when she talks about me to him. That doesn't bother me because I know she's miserable and alone, and I don't take it personally.

 

I think it just depends on the crazy. You have to have a clear understanding of how your partner talks and reacts to the BM. What boundaries are taken and so forth. If its not about or for the child, then most times, the convo or action is unacceptable (to a point, it depends what). But if you feel there is too much baby momma drama, then its best to steer clear and save yourself a headache.