To no contact or to contact? That is le question 😳

[Junior23]

So I've been in and out of relationships and I always feel like I'm getting better at them (from experience I guess) any way I got dumped in a really weird way to the point I didn't really understand the situation. I was in a long distance relationship for about two months, evrything was going good, but things started to happen her grandpa had passed and she was going thru it. I gave as much emotional support as I could but I also did back away a bit to let her be with her family. She was then texting me saying how much I meant to her and how much she appreciated me in so many ways. Now our relationship was a hot and cold one some days we would talk some days we wouldn't but she was the one to initiate the contact almost all of the time. The day I got dumped I sent her an inside joke between us of how according to Facebook we will live in a haunted house together. She replied saying that she can't wait as long as it's with me and how she misses me and can't wait to see me. Later that night I get back from work look on my snap chat and it's a video of her and some guy cruising to a romantic song and a holding hand emoji the next clip is her saying"don't text me all mad, if it ain't worth your breath don't message me"

So I did just that lol I deleted her off Facebook and started no contact immediately, no begging no crying no pleading. I do want to say I'm hurt but I can't say I'm not guilty (it takes two) looking at the situation I never really did put in effort to talk to her so I could see why she did what she did. She always said the thing that attracted her most to me was my strength (I've been thru a lot of stuff ) But I'm wondering if I'm doing right by not begging; see I won't deny it,I have used no contact many times and gotten exes back a lot more than when I begged and got my heart broken once by my baby's mother. But this situation is definitely something else. I guess time will tell but I would like some feedback

[Giggles666]

I think we have all learned the begging lesson, it's human nature but just pushes our ex(es) away.

 

I think no contact and deleting her from Facebook is the right thing to do if it helps you and her to be fair to one another, do what's best for you. Maybe she expected a different reaction from you like attention but that's just petty.

 

I think you are doing the right thing. It's over, she met someone LDR is tough and frankly it was her choice, she should respect your choice to go NC and move on.

[LD1990]

But I'm wondering if I'm doing right by not begging; see I won't deny it,I have used no contact many times and gotten exes back a lot more than when I begged and got my heart broken once by my baby's mother.

 

The point of no contact is to get over your ex, not get your ex back. Obviously you and your exes haven't stayed together after you got them back, so why keep trying to rekindle things with an ex? Save yourself the time and move on.

 

I don't really see what's the appeal of getting back together with this girl. You were with her two months in a long distance relationship where you rarely initiated contact with her.