vlokdog Posted August 7, 2016 Posted August 7, 2016 hey guys, So if you are interested in the back story click the link: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/567438-ex-got-gigs#post6753083 So I ended up taking her back and it was great. We were both really happy. I thought that her gigs had finished. All she spoke about was getting marriage and the future we were going to have together. Last Monday out of the blue she told me that she felt it was a mistake getting back together and that she regretted messaging me. She told me she was missing the best years of her life by being in a relationship and that she wanted to be alone to date herself. I tried to make her see that this was the exact same situation as last time but she wouldn't change her mind. I left and haven't contacted her since. She messaged me twice, just trying to arrange when to exchange our things. I didn't reply (NC) I'm not sure if that makes me childish but I honestly want nothing to do with her. I messaged her friend and told her I'd drop he stuff off with her. I've been weirdly ok this last week. I thought I'd be devastated but I feel the same was I did just before we got back together in February which is great! I've seen now that she didn't deserve me and that I'm too good for her. I'm excited to move on with my life! No doubt in a few months she will contact me and try and get me back. I'll happily tell her to go **** her herseself! The advice I'm going to offer is also freely available on this site. Gigs takes a long time to work through and anything less then 6 months I would be very surprised. Also, make them work to get you back. They must feel the pain of the breakup. Any questions I'd be glad to answer. No Contact is the only way! 1
SevenCity Posted August 7, 2016 Posted August 7, 2016 I think you are feeling better because you are no longer in limbo. You've got a clear answer and can move forward with your life. Good for you - remember what you've learned for the future. 1
Giggles666 Posted August 7, 2016 Posted August 7, 2016 I wish you both the best of luck, and thanks for the advice.
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