mikeylo Posted August 7, 2016 Posted August 7, 2016 One of my friend's is a single dad.His wife cheated on him , they divorced and he got full custody of his kids, both boys. He hasnt dated in many years as he sent the time to bring up his sons.Now they are 15 and 18.The older one is moving out soon. The younger one is a still at home. Now, my friend wants to go back into the dating scene but he is sh@t scared ! He tried OLD, he finds desparate women.He is 49, looks good and has a good paying job. After trying for a few months, he is about to give up. He thinks he is too set in his ways to be with a woman again but feels like having a partner now. Any single dads here or any women dating single dads? How and where did you meet and how did it or did not workout? IMO, having one son at home and that too a nice teenager,who doesnt need dad around too much, my friend has a lot of time to share his life with someone.He believes the same. Anyone?
k2girl Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I've been dating a single Dad for almost 3 years now. It has worked well because I'm a single Mom and our kids are similar ages. We met on OLD and what attracted me to his profile was his how much his kids meant to him. It really works that we are in a similar place in our lives and can understand each other. OLD is scary but there are some good ones out there.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I've been dating a single Dad for almost 3 years now. It has worked well because I'm a single Mom and our kids are similar ages. We met on OLD and what attracted me to his profile was his how much his kids meant to him. It really works that we are in a similar place in our lives and can understand each other. OLD is scary but there are some good ones out there. Absolutely. Do you have exes to deal with?
Shanex Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I've dated single mom and yes it does work. It's about finding the right match ready and willing to accept the fact their partner have offspring already. Yep, some won't tolerate it for some reasons, either childless women or men. So choose the right one.
k2girl Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 Absolutely. Do you have exes to deal with? Yes, we both have exes to deal with. We both have reasonable relationships with our exes. Again I think it helps that out situations are similar. We both know that there is another parent in the picture and we both respect that.
bubbaganoosh Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 When my second wife and I got divorced, we had a daughter and in my first marriage I had a daughter and she went with her mother to another state and I didn't get to see her that much but with my youngest I made sure that I had a 50/ 50 split. Shr lived with my ex but I could see her when I wanted. I spent as much time with her as I could and put dating on the back burner and her mother was dating. One day when my kid was maybe 12, she asked if I dated and I told her a couple times but that's it. Nothing serious, just something to do once in a while. I left it at that and I could feel her eyes staring at me and finally I looked at her and said "What?" She said, "Dad you need a life". I told her that I like my life and have no regrets. Nothing gave me more happiness then seeing my daughter grow up and I could be part of it. It paid off. She's now 30 years old and were thick as thieves. It was worth it. That's just me. 2
k2girl Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I think you can have both - takes a bit of balance and your relationship might progress slower but it is worth it. In my case because we are both in joint custody situations and both place high importance on our kids and both have demanding careers, we only see each other 4-6 times a month - 2 times are our every other weekends together when we both don't have the kids. After just over a year of dating we introduced all the kids and now we are starting to do vacations and some weekend stuff together. We are serious about each other but also love our time with our kids so we've agreed any talk of living together will wait till the kids have left home. I think it is important for my kids to see loving relationships and how they function. They know I have a committed relationship with someone and that it is serious. My older teenage boy loves mocking me about it but we've also had some serious talks about relationships because of it. Their Dad is also in a committed relationship and my older son has told me he is sad we are divorced but loves the fact that there are so many more people in his life.
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