I'm a man...and I think my male co-worker may be interested in me

[wele0123]

I'm a guy and there's this married guy with a wife and kids that's a leadership role at my job. I've been getting a vibe from him that he may be interested in something.

 

-He glances and stares alot.

 

-He laughs at and remember's the little things I say and will make references to them during future conversations

 

-He's let out a sigh a few times while walking behind me.

 

-He strokes his goatee alot and maintains eye contact whenever we chat

 

-He always pats me on the back and shoulders and pokes his finger on my back and hand

 

-He's aggresive when giving orders to others, but when it comes to me he speaks softly and asks if I'm OK with doing what he's asking me to do.

 

-There's times when he's talking to someone and he'll stop in the middle of the conversation and stare, wave or say hi to me

 

-I work in a big place with about 200 people and he'll always find me and tell me he just came by to say hi. I haven't seen him do this to anyone else.

 

-He apologizes if he's unable to reach out to me during the shift.

 

-He told me that other day that i looked "refreshed" and will tell me when he likes the shirt I'm wearing.

 

-He vents to me alot about his family and home life

 

-One time I was walking out at the end of the shift and he called me over from across the room and told me he just wanted to say bye.

 

I may be reading too much into this, but I just feel like some of things I listed are not your typical guy to guy interactions. He's a really nice guy and also very friendly so that may just be part of his personality. But I also feel like he doesn't act like this to everyone else.

 

I'm not gay nor do I have any issue with it. He's a really cool guy and I just want to make sure I don't send the wrong signals or lead him on in any way.

[spiderowl]

It does sound a bit more 'caring' and involved than guys usually are with each other. I think you may be right. He may be bi. I think you can only be yourself and stick to that, not encouraging anything more than professionalism and friendship. The only concern is that if he is interested in you as more than a colleague, then it could get a bit awkward once he realises you are not interested in him in that way. If he's a decent guy though, then he will hopefully maintain self control and treat you with respect all along.