E-Squared Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Have you ever gone through something like this? Say if you have been with someone for a while and then all of a sudden you go through a period of not talking. When you haven't talked to this person for a long period of time, do you ever wonder if it had ended or if you are still with this person? And then when you do talk, the person may have met someone else in the process? Or is the rule that in order for a breakup to happen, someone will have to call it off by saying so?
Gloria25 Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 (edited) Isn't that called "fading" or "ghosting"? Both of which are forms of being broken up with. I've been there - usually in the early stages of just meeting someone where I just don't put any more effort into it and neither do they. I consider it a break up cuz if either of us wanted it to continue, one or both of us would have busted a move to reconnect. Edited August 6, 2016 by Gloria25
Larryville Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 if you have been with someone for a while and then all of a sudden you go through a period of not talking. called "fading" or "ghosting"? Both of which are forms of being broken up with. Yes putting you on the back burner or just being too much of a B**ch @$$ to be mature enough to say WTF they want… yes L is being touchy today… I mostly deal with women my age (52) or older. I’m very up front about what I am looking for and I don’t have a problem communicating. Several women in the recent past, solid starts, email, and text talk a few meets. I apply the “mirroring” technique talked about in another thread. They stop communicating all together so then I have to send the freaking obligatory “is everything cool text” still interested? They jack around and don’t really say and then I just say F it! I don’t have the patience or time to navigate someone’s emotional mindfield. I don’t have any hard feelings heartburn if someone changes their mind, we all do it but don’t be an immature @$$ about it. Why so many here keep talking about what flakes people are these days. NOW having ranted, let me be honest, there are signs early on in conversations and if you are in tune with these can save yourself headaches. If I get LOT of comments about how seemingly such a nice guy I am…. Hint #1 If I hear too much information regarding family or health issues or some current crisis from convo #1…. Hint #2 Example… lady #1 immediately talked she had Lupus, #2 another recovering from a BAD car accident, #3 pending surgery, #4 in profile major hair color and style changes yes went against my own rule of red flags but she looked hot and was curious. Listen carefully… One lady after a few long seemingly really good phone conversations flat out said “you really sound like you are ready for a relationships, I truly hope you find that” I repeat LISTEN. Too many personal “hard luck stories” TMI right away... Do they actually ask questions about you? Do they really inquire about YOU in more depth that just superficial crap. The types that will ghost on you will almost always have these characteristics. the person may have met someone else in the process? Always assume especially if you meet online that they are still shopping, no matter how great things seemed right of the bat, they will still shop. 1
preraph Posted August 8, 2016 Posted August 8, 2016 I used to get into situations where the guy knew it wasn't going to work out long-term and we'd have the talk and then he'd try to leave for 2 weeks and go having sex with other women and then come back. Then during one of those, one slept with my oldest friend, and then they're both saying "you were broken up." But meanwhile they're going through the roof when they see you with someone, even if it's just a friend. What you do on what might be a temporary breakup can keep you from ever getting back together, so keep that in mind. But don't sit still twiddling your thumbs for too long either. 1
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