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Broke up with bf for cheating, why am I the one who feels rejected?

ld1223

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I'm 25 he's 36, Recently found out that my boyfriend of four years was living a double life with a secret girlfriend for the past two years. Found out all the details from talking to the other girl and couldn't believe the extent of his infidelity. He's already been divorced (he cheated on his wife) and has a child and I thought we were getting serious. This isn't the first time I caught him being unfaithful and took him back but I decided that enough was enough and cant forgive this one. The other girl said she was going to do the same but after a week of his chasing and sob stories and a promise ring to marry her she took him back and asked me never to contact him because shes decided to give him another chance and that she wants to move in with him and have a baby; I'm in my 20s she's in her 30s. She's convinced he's going to change for her and my mind is blown. I was honest and upfront with this girl and thought I was helping her so why do I feel like the victim? Why do I feel rejected while my pig of an ex gets to live happily ever after with the other woman while my heart is broken? Does their relationship stand a chance when mine failed?

Bialy Established Member

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You didn't dodge a bullet --- you dodged a CANNONBALL!

 

This guy is bad news. The only lucky one out of this situation is YOU! You should be breathing easy and have peace of mind --- he's HER problem.

 

You can't build a life with a liar and a cheat.

 

You did the right thing.

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My ex cheated and broke up with me as well. I was crying and very upset. Through trolling Instgram I saw pics of he and this new girl seemingly living happily ever after. Well... About two weeks into their relationship she posts a lot of sh/t about him lying and cheating on her.

 

And my first thought was... I may not have him, but what I do have is peace of mind.

See when dating a selfish serial cheater you never have true peace. You will always wonder IF or, no WHEN that proverbial other shoe will drop.

The thoughts I always had were: " Is he really where he is supposed to be?",

"Who is he texting?".

 

It's not a way to live. You want to be able to trust your partner. He has issues he needs to confront about his own insecurities before he can be in a relationship. Jmo

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