King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 This may be self explanatory, but I want to hear what some have to say. On one hand I'm stunned On the other, I'm not TOO surprised So about 3-4 weeks ago, I met this woman on a dating website (not your normal one, it was a lot more sexually oriented). We had a back and forth conversation on the private message function, and then eventually started kik messaging. This all happened on ONE day. On a Sunday. Then we talked about meeting up, and instead she invited me to her house that Tuesday. Remember, my goal initially of being on this site was just to meet girls and eventually have relationship and or sex. I told her I was a virgin (which is true) and she said she'd initiate me (I will not say her age, but I will say she's over 45) So I went to her house that Tuesday, and I lost my virginity (I don't think I need to explain more here). For the week and a half or so, we talked a little every day on kik. She got to know me pretty well in that she knew about my health conditions and family life, and she seemed like a very nice woman. Fun and easy to talk to. So we have a quality conversation last Sunday, then we don't talk for another week and a half (up to today). In all seriousness, I have been very busy at work, have long days, and she carries on conversations to long periods. Now, she's blocked me on kik, blocked me on the dating site, and blocked my phone number. I'm just wondering why she did this
preraph Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Because she didn't want involvement. She just wanted a hookup. If you don't just want a hookup, then you should really just avoid hookup-type dating sites and also be clear you want a relationship. 5
Gloria25 Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Also, maybe cuz you blew her off for over a week? In this day and age, a quick text or email barely takes a minute to do. I prefer texting or other forms of messaging cuz on the phone sometimes there's moments of awkward silences (cuz I ran out of stuff to talk about)...and, with my busy lifestyle, texting/messaging is quick and convenient. But in the initial stages of dating (even for casual situations), if someone doesn't know your communication preferences/styles - they may mistake it for lack of interest, game playing, rudeness, etc. So next time you should have sent her some text or message here/there. And, let her know that you're not big on phone time cuz of your schedule. An example: "Hi Jane, how's it going? How's your dog? I've been having a busy week, so sorry I couldn't call you. Ttyl. 4
Art_Critic Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Who cares, don't look a gift horse in the mouth.. you're no longer a virgin and that is most likely why she took it to the point of sex, your virginity... I think she blocked you because she did the only thing that she wanted you for. Smile and look at this as a gift, next... 3
MidwestUSA Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Don't you people think it's sinful for such a older woman to have sex with a teenage? ??????????????????? KB is not a teenager. Congrats, KB! My husband lost his at 17, to a mid 30s woman. I thank her to this day, whoever she is. 2
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 Who cares, don't look a gift horse in the mouth.. you're no longer a virgin and that is most likely why she took it to the point of sex, your virginity... I think she blocked you because she did the only thing that she wanted you for. Smile and look at this as a gift, next... You're right. She got what she wanted (I suppose?) and I got what I wanted. I got everything I wanted. It just seems that she cared about what was going on in my life, maybe not after all (evidently).
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 KB is not a teenager. Congrats, KB! My husband lost his at 17, to a mid 30s woman. I thank her to this day, whoever she is. Thank you! Glad I finally got to do it, it was surreal, but I handled it like a champ. Few things I need to work on though, lol! 5
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 Also, maybe cuz you blew her off for over a week? In this day and age, a quick text or email barely takes a minute to do. I prefer texting or other forms of messaging cuz on the phone sometimes there's moments of awkward silences (cuz I ran out of stuff to talk about)...and, with my busy lifestyle, texting/messaging is quick and convenient. But in the initial stages of dating (even for casual situations), if someone doesn't know your communication preferences/styles - they may mistake it for lack of interest, game playing, rudeness, etc. So next time you should have sent her some text or message here/there. And, let her know that you're not big on phone time cuz of your schedule. An example: "Hi Jane, how's it going? How's your dog? I've been having a busy week, so sorry I couldn't call you. Ttyl. You're probably right here, didn't like I didn't talk for a week. Oh well. On to the next one. My BIGGEST gain from this was the confidence boost. No mountain too high now! 1
MidwestUSA Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Losing it to a 19 year old model doesn't make you anybody or anything extraordinary. Older women do it better. That's right. Glad my 40s were spent well and appreciated by a few. Who's up for mid 50s? 1
Haydn Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 with someone who can be your mother? (sorry if it sounds blunt and rude, but I that's how I feel) I lost mine to someone much older.... Wonderful. No worries. 1
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 with someone who can be your mother? (sorry if it sounds blunt and rude, but I that's how I feel) I don't see it that way. I see it as I'm an adult, and she's an adult. You believe what you want, as will I. 2
spiderowl Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Because you seem to have ignored her for a week. At first she would have wondered why, then she would have been upset, then she would have got annoyed and given up. Leaving it a week is just not maintaining a relationship. Most women would have given up by then and probably felt pretty hurt by your behaviour. 2
xxoo Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 I'm smiling for you She just doesn't want to be friends or date. It's all good. Take the memory, the experience, and onto the next adventure. 3
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 Because you seem to have ignored her for a week. At first she would have wondered why, then she would have been upset, then she would have got annoyed and given up. Leaving it a week is just not maintaining a relationship. Most women would have given up by then and probably felt pretty hurt by your behaviour. Oh well. Lesson learned. I wasn't looking for a real relationship anyway, she is too old for me in that regard.
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 I'm smiling for you She just doesn't want to be friends or date. It's all good. Take the memory, the experience, and onto the next adventure. And that's ok. I don't think it would have worked anyway. Felt a bit weird to me after I had relations with her. Would have been weird to see her again. 3
MidwestUSA Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 I think it's very possible that you ghosting on her for that week or so is what lead to you being blocked. She may have felt that you got what you wanted and were not interested in sticking around. Maybe she jumped the gun a bit but what's done is done. Okay, you know why I'm rolling here? KB?
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 I think it's very possible that you ghosting on her for that week or so is what lead to you being blocked. She may have felt that you got what you wanted and were not interested in sticking around. Maybe she jumped the gun a bit, but what's done is done. I Think you nailed it there
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 Okay, you know why I'm rolling here? KB? I do not, lol She did jump ship early, though
MidwestUSA Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 I do not, lol She did jump ship early, though Guns, buddy, guns. I thought you were into guns. Never mind. She may have been up for round two if you'd kept in touch, but you'll put the experience to good use, I'm sure. 2
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 Guns, buddy, guns. I thought you were into guns. Never mind. She may have been up for round two if you'd kept in touch, but you'll put the experience to good use, I'm sure. I should have picked up on that quicker! Been a long day! I think she very well could have, she did start to see other guys I think (not that I care but worth noting) Now I need to take the confidence and experience and put it to WORK 1
Aniela Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Guns, buddy, guns. I thought you were into guns. Never mind. Oh, my mind went a little dirtier - I thought it sounded like a euphemism. 2
Author King Bowls Posted August 6, 2016 Author Posted August 6, 2016 Guns, buddy, guns. I thought you were into guns. Never mind. She may have been up for round two if you'd kept in touch, but you'll put the experience to good use, I'm sure. I will say A LOT of things were satisfied over that one night! 1
Aniela Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 I should have picked up on that quicker! Been a long day! I think she very well could have, she did start to see other guys I think (not that I care but worth noting) Now I need to take the confidence and experience and put it to WORK I wondered if she felt embarrassed - like, maybe it was a new thing for her, as well (sleeping with someone a lot younger than she is), but if it's a hook-up site, then maybe not. I had younger guys hitting on me, when I was on a dating site, and didn't take any of them seriously (although maybe I should have: a friend of mine met her husband when he was 22, and she was in her thirties).
MidwestUSA Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 Oh, my mind went a little dirtier - I thought it sounded like a euphemism. Oh, there's a double entendre there for sure! 1
Springsummer Posted August 6, 2016 Posted August 6, 2016 And that's ok. I don't think it would have worked anyway. Felt a bit weird to me after I had relations with her. Would have been weird to see her again. so it feels weird to have relationship with her ? but not F her? um...
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