Men, is my regimen high maintainence? My bf thinks so.

[quitarynupmyhart]

-She spends 15-20 minutes getting ready each morning (an outfit, hair, makeup).

 

-Every other night, it takes 30 minutes to shower and do outside shower personal care. Alternating days it takes 10-15 minutes.

 

-She spends 4-5 hours a week at the gym. Most weightlifting, some cardio. Gym is 5 minutes away too.

 

I am asking since my live in boyfriend has kept calling me "high maintainence" and complains a lot about my exercise and personal care habits even though I know women who take way longer to get ready than me. First, he started with the exercise, I thought it may have been from him feeling like it takes too much time out of us being together. However, shortly after this started I got a job where I work from home. I have extra hours in my day due to no commute and several days a week I get home from the gym shortly after he gets home from work. So it is not eating up our time together. He still makes comments.

 

I feel its unfair for him to make comments about how I don't need to go to the gym as much as I do and he wants a woman who doesn't need to "get ready" because these things were part of the reason he was attracted to me in the first place. When we first started dating, he made many complimentary comments about how hot my body is and how much he likes my long curly hair. The majority of my shower time and get ready time is for my hair, it is nice and one of my best attributes as countless people compliment it, but takes time to care and if I don't do it the proper way it looks super frizzy and tangled. I don't wear very much makeup on a daily basis, occasionally for a special event I will. He also has made comments about other attractive females and they wear more makeup than me, plus clearly work out, so I kind of feel he is clueless about the female regimen. Moreover, I wouldn't have my hot body without my exercise regimen (which I do not do just for vanity but it helps me sleep better plus I have all sorts of bad genes in my family, both my mother and maternal grandmother died from heart problems)

 

Ive tried to talk to him about this a few times with him, but he is stubborn and says he wishes I was not so "high maintainence" and specifically states my exercise and personal care regimen (not my personality which I thought could be the underlying issue!)

Edited August 5, 2016 by quitarynupmyhart

[BikerAccnt]

That's hardly high maintenance in my book. It takes me longer than 15 minutes to get ready in the morning!

 

As far as the gym thing, maybe your going to the gym makes him either feel bad, or jealous. Does he work out? Is he in shape. Myself I'm at the gym that much, and it hardly seems excessive.