ThisisIt606 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 I had a great first date with a guy I met off an app. He picked a really nice ( expensive!) restaurant for dinner. It was tapas style, we ordered some drinks, and split a dessert. He was easy to talk to and we found we both like a lot of the same things. We also had some different interests/hobbies that we asked each other about. He seemed a bit nervous at first and then definitely loosened up. He apologized if he was " being awkward" as he said he hasn't dated a lot recently. His last relationship was about 5 years and he's been single for over a year. He asked what I do for fun and one of the things I said was trying new activities in the city. I mentioned a themed city tour that I've always wanted to do and he said he would be up for it. He said he really liked museums, city history etc. When the bill came he reached for it to pay and I thanked him and told him it was a really great place. He walked me to the trains and we sat and talked for a bit while waiting. He asked me what I thought of tattoos ( he has one). I told him I don't have/ don't want one but don't mind them on other people. He said he was just checking Bc he went on a date with a girl who expressed how much she hates tattoos . He said it became a bit awk and that was the end of that/ no 2nd date. He would sometimes just stare at me I noticed and I'd ask what? And he said " what are you thinking, tell me what you're thinking" . I said I'm thinking that I'm having a good time and we're just waiting for the train. Earlier in the date he wanted to know how I would describe myself I told him I'm a bit of an introvert. He said he is too but was shocked and wouldn't guess that about me Bc I was so talkative during the date. He jokingly summarized the date being like " hmm well I guess you had a terrible time, showed no interest " and I said " oh really, you think so? " and then he just smiled and laughed. So he struck me as lacking some confidence. I felt like he wanted me to concretely say, "this is a great date! I really like you!" But I was definitely portraying all that from my facial expressions, talking and laughing, and the sheer fact neither one of us was trying to end the date early. I also told him I had a fun time and really like the restaurant. We hugged goodbye when my train came and he said he would talk to me later. I smiled and said that sounded good and for him to have a good night. I was wondering If I should text the next day. to my pleasant surprise he texted first thing the next morning! Him: " hope you got home safe last night. Thanks again for getting dinner with me, I had a great time!" Me: I had a great time too and (restaurant name) was a fun restaurant. hope the old ladies don't talk your ear off too much today haha ( he mentioned where he works, he gets a lot of that from customers) we go on to talk about some other things including this radio segment called "second date update" he listens too. Basically it's when guys call in for help after a great first date, confused why the girl didn't text them back. The stories are usually funny and ridiculous. He shared that the guy who called in this AM wore a fake body brace to the date (didnt tell his date prior) and asked to be fed. The next day she saw him on FB with no brace and knew he was lying. Turns out this guy just has a thing for being fed.... So we laughed about that and i told him " glad you didn't go the body brace route ;)" HIM: didn't work out well last time haha, though i would just bring my regular awkwardness ME: I decided to bring my regular awkwardness too \_(ツ)_/¯ ME: oops his little hand broke off on the left HIM: hahah first time seeing that one ME: yeah it's the old fashioned shrug emoji before the fun ones came out HIM: do you have an iPhone? bc I can't find that piece for the mouth ME:yeah I do, i just copied it off a website once and saved it. but managed to have a hand malfunction this time. Anyways, I definitely had a good time and would like to see him again. He seemed to need a little coaxing on the date from me to assure him I was having a good time. But he still texted first and said he had a great time. Should I just wait for him to text again and ask me out for date 2? Or should I ask him to do the city tour that I brought up during the date and he said he was interested in?
Redhead14 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 I had a great first date with a guy I met off an app. He picked a really nice ( expensive!) restaurant for dinner. It was tapas style, we ordered some drinks, and split a dessert. He was easy to talk to and we found we both like a lot of the same things. We also had some different interests/hobbies that we asked each other about. He seemed a bit nervous at first and then definitely loosened up. He apologized if he was " being awkward" as he said he hasn't dated a lot recently. His last relationship was about 5 years and he's been single for over a year. He asked what I do for fun and one of the things I said was trying new activities in the city. I mentioned a themed city tour that I've always wanted to do and he said he would be up for it. He said he really liked museums, city history etc. When the bill came he reached for it to pay and I thanked him and told him it was a really great place. He walked me to the trains and we sat and talked for a bit while waiting. He asked me what I thought of tattoos ( he has one). I told him I don't have/ don't want one but don't mind them on other people. He said he was just checking Bc he went on a date with a girl who expressed how much she hates tattoos . He said it became a bit awk and that was the end of that/ no 2nd date. He would sometimes just stare at me I noticed and I'd ask what? And he said " what are you thinking, tell me what you're thinking" . I said I'm thinking that I'm having a good time and we're just waiting for the train. Earlier in the date he wanted to know how I would describe myself I told him I'm a bit of an introvert. He said he is too but was shocked and wouldn't guess that about me Bc I was so talkative during the date. He jokingly summarized the date being like " hmm well I guess you had a terrible time, showed no interest " and I said " oh really, you think so? " and then he just smiled and laughed. So he struck me as lacking some confidence. I felt like he wanted me to concretely say, "this is a great date! I really like you!" But I was definitely portraying all that from my facial expressions, talking and laughing, and the sheer fact neither one of us was trying to end the date early. I also told him I had a fun time and really like the restaurant. We hugged goodbye when my train came and he said he would talk to me later. I smiled and said that sounded good and for him to have a good night. I was wondering If I should text the next day. to my pleasant surprise he texted first thing the next morning! Him: " hope you got home safe last night. Thanks again for getting dinner with me, I had a great time!" Me: I had a great time too and (restaurant name) was a fun restaurant. hope the old ladies don't talk your ear off too much today haha ( he mentioned where he works, he gets a lot of that from customers) we go on to talk about some other things including this radio segment called "second date update" he listens too. Basically it's when guys call in for help after a great first date, confused why the girl didn't text them back. The stories are usually funny and ridiculous. He shared that the guy who called in this AM wore a fake body brace to the date (didnt tell his date prior) and asked to be fed. The next day she saw him on FB with no brace and knew he was lying. Turns out this guy just has a thing for being fed.... So we laughed about that and i told him " glad you didn't go the body brace route ;)" HIM: didn't work out well last time haha, though i would just bring my regular awkwardness ME: I decided to bring my regular awkwardness too \_(ツ)_/¯ ME: oops his little hand broke off on the left HIM: hahah first time seeing that one ME: yeah it's the old fashioned shrug emoji before the fun ones came out HIM: do you have an iPhone? bc I can't find that piece for the mouth ME:yeah I do, i just copied it off a website once and saved it. but managed to have a hand malfunction this time. Anyways, I definitely had a good time and would like to see him again. He seemed to need a little coaxing on the date from me to assure him I was having a good time. But he still texted first and said he had a great time. Should I just wait for him to text again and ask me out for date 2? Or should I ask him to do the city tour that I brought up during the date and he said he was interested in? Sit back and let him lead for the first few dates . . . be responsive/receptive. After the third date, you should start initiating a little more but keep it balanced. Make sure you leave opportunities for him to initiate too. 1
BaileyB Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Sit back and let him lead for the first few dates . . . be responsive/receptive. After the third date, you should start initiating a little more but keep it balanced. Make sure you leave opportunities for him to initiate too. Sounds like a great first date. I think this is good advice. A man who is interested will ask - just be responsive and give him the signs that you are interested in seeing him again too. Good luck! 1
Versacehottie Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Sounds promising so far!! Just try to take it step by step. Don't jump too far into the future (nothing you've indicated suggests that you are doing so)--but it's a good tip. Keep things FUN! Also when you go on the second date, I think it would be ok that you could say: let me take you to the tour next time we go out. Plant that seed on the second date and then you will have something to follow up for and it'd be nice on the third date that you arrange and pay. From your interaction with this guy, sounds like he doesn't totally need to be in the lead. But for 2nd date, I would let him. Good luck! 1
Author ThisisIt606 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Posted August 5, 2016 (edited) Thanks for the responses!I'll start initiating dates if he asks for a 2nd Edited August 5, 2016 by ThisisIt606
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