What is the worst that can happen?

[Amethyst1]

If I wish to write to a married woman at her home, a polite respectful brief note that indicates my feelings for her,what is the worst that can happen?

 

She knows me and likes me a little and I have had no contact with her for a

2-3 years. I know that this is inappropriate and unusual. Even if I do not sign my name, she would figure who wrote it. I do not want a response, nor do I

intend to go out with her or see her! I simply want to communicate. She will know I am still thinking of her.

 

You will say to leave her alone, I get it. But what is the worst that can

happen with a note?

[PegNosePete]

what is the worst that can happen?

Her husband will find it, force her to tell him who wrote it, break all your limbs and leave you paraplegic.

 

Well, you asked...

[Redhead14]

If I wish to write to a married woman at her home, a polite respectful brief note that indicates my feelings for her,what is the worst that can happen?

 

She knows me and likes me a little and I have had no contact with her for a

2-3 years. I know that this is inappropriate and unusual. Even if I do not sign my name, she would figure who wrote it. I do not want a response, nor do I

intend to go out with her or see her! I simply want to communicate. She will know I am still thinking of her.

 

You will say to leave her alone, I get it. But what is the worst that can

happen with a note?

 

The worst that could happen is her husband intercepts it and then accuses his wife of cheating, when, in fact, she has done nothing wrong, and divorces her and/or finds you and beats the heck out of you.

 

It would be completely and totally inappropriate, not to mention, creepy and stalkerish. I'd also worry about her placing a complaint against you for stalking especially if husband found it.

[Fruitee]

Imho worst is double homicide plus suicide.

[PegNosePete]

I can think of many worse things, but they're not suitable for posting in this forum..... community guidelines, and all...

 

OP so there's plenty of bad things that could happen. What do you think is the best that could happen?

[Amethyst1]

You don't have to take my question literally

what is most likely to happen?

 

he is not the jealous type.

 

Please keep your comments reasonable,

[Poutrew]

My advice is to go ahead and write your note. Put a lot of effort into it. Then, put it in the fireplace and watch the flames consume it. Watch all your hopes and dreams and aspirations, as well as your feelings for this girl turn into smoke and ashes... at the least, it might be a cathartic experience which will help you get over a truly hopeless situation.

[normal person]

If I wish to write to a married woman at her home, a polite respectful brief note that indicates my feelings for her,what is the worst that can happen?

 

[...] I simply want to communicate. She will know I am still thinking of her.

 

The worst thing that can happen is that her husband hunts you down and does whatever necessary to get you to stop. And what's the best thing that can happen? Do you think if she reads your note that she's going to suddenly fall in love with you, divorce her husband, abandon her life, and run away with you? I doubt it. All you're going to do is advertise the fact that she still has power of you, which makes you look weak and ineffectual. Living well is the best revenge. Your only move at this point is to not communicate with her, enjoy life to the maximum without her, and never give her any inclination that she's on your mind at all.

[Lobe]

What do you think is the best that could happen?

 

I kind of feel like it's incredibly selfish and inconsiderate of you to do this. Keep your thoughts to yourself.

[normal person]

I kind of feel like it's incredibly selfish and inconsiderate of you to do this. Keep your thoughts to yourself.

 

I agree with him. There's no reason not to ask this question (I don't see how it's selfish or inconsiderate, either).

 

It's a situation that will yield only bad results. If he does nothing, nothing bad happens. If he writes this note, bad things might happen, but certainly no good things. I don't see any advantage to writing it.

 

edit: didn't realize your post was sarcastic. My post still applies.

[PegNosePete]

what is most likely to happen?

She will smile to herself, think "yeah still got it", and throw it in the recycle bin.

[elaine567]

You don't have to take my question literally

what is most likely to happen?

 

he is not the jealous type.

 

Please keep your comments reasonable,

 

It is very difficult to say, it all depends on the circumstances.

What is your relationship with this woman and why have you not spoken to her in 2-3 years?

 

"He is not the jealous type"... men tend not to like other men sniffing around their wives.

[mikeylo]

Whatever happened to cellphone? Send her as many messages as you want. Call her to hear her voice as much you want.

[Michelle ma Belle]

You don't have to take my question literally

what is most likely to happen?

 

he is not the jealous type.

 

Please keep your comments reasonable,

 

Perhaps it might help providing you with a reasonable comment if your question was as well.

 

It all spells trouble and something teenagers might do, not mature adults.

[preraph]

You have no right to interfere with someone's life like that. She isn't interested and never will be. And you don't love her or you'd never consider doing something that would make her feel this violated and frightened and cause her so many problems. And just because a man isn't jealous (because he looks at you and looks at himself and knows there's NO WAY his wife would ever find you attractive) doesn't mean he won't come hit you in the face if you try it.

[Lobe]

I agree with him. There's no reason not to ask this question (I don't see how it's selfish or inconsiderate, either).

 

It's a situation that will yield only bad results. If he does nothing, nothing bad happens. If he writes this note, bad things might happen, but certainly no good things. I don't see any advantage to writing it.

 

edit: didn't realize your post was sarcastic. My post still applies.

 

It wasn't sarcastic. It's selfish because he would be doing it to relieve himself of feelings and inconsiderate because he is dragging her into a situation that she didn't invite and inconsiderate to her husband who shouldn't have to put up with such juvenile acts from a grown man.

[Gloria25]

You don't have to take my question literally

what is most likely to happen?

 

he is not the jealous type.

 

Please keep your comments reasonable,

 

Well, the saucy responses sorta do have a place in reality. Relationships, where cheating and stuff goes on can push people to do weird stuff.

 

I was watching ID/Investigation Discovery (come on, we all know I'm an ID addict) last nite, and this married guy was a douche and cheating with this married woman (she was also a douche).

 

So, one day her hubby calls and she's in bed douche guy and she handed phone to douche and he's like 'your wife's in bed with me cuz I do it better'...or whatever. So, hubby got pissed and confronted both of them. He shot douche and then shot himself. Unfortunately hubby survived and his douchey wife, decided to lie and say hubby acted in self defense.

 

On Nancy Grace, there's an ongoing story about a mum-in-law who killed daughter-in-law, who was taking her son to the cleaners in the divorce..and, it's suspected that daughter-in-law was a cheater too.

 

So, yes, cheating and stuff can provoke people to do scary things. Be careful messing with someone's nest.

[Gloria25]

My advice is to go ahead and write your note. Put a lot of effort into it. Then, put it in the fireplace and watch the flames consume it. Watch all your hopes and dreams and aspirations, as well as your feelings for this girl turn into smoke and ashes... at the least, it might be a cathartic experience which will help you get over a truly hopeless situation.

 

Exactly, why do you feel the need to interfere with this woman's marriage?

[dichotomy]

You will feel selfish and guilty for interfering in someone else marriage ?

[VeveCakes]

I hope you aren't the poster who was going on about that German girl he met one summer...

[GorillaTheater]

You don't have to take my question literally

what is most likely to happen?

 

he is not the jealous type.

 

 

Yeah? Willing to bet your teeth on it?

 

 

Your best bet is to stay the hell out of their marriage.

[Shanex]

Stay away from every women with the diamond ring on her finger.

 

Life lesson here?

 

We have these kind of threads everyday, sometimes the married woman cheat too, not only the husband.

 

All I can tell you is that in the end it will be a clusterf*ck for both parties.

 

Choose, single, attractive, interesting women your age instead.

[normal person]

It wasn't sarcastic. It's selfish because he would be doing it to relieve himself of feelings and inconsiderate because he is dragging her into a situation that she didn't invite and inconsiderate to her husband who shouldn't have to put up with such juvenile acts from a grown man.

 

Ohhh, I get it, I thought your reply was in reply to someone else's reply -- confusing. Whoops. I agree with the poster who thinks OP has nothing to gain, not OP.

 

I agree with you.

 

What're your thoughts on this now, OP?

[Amethyst1]

I am sorry that I posted this now.

 

This subject is closed as far as I'm concerned.

 

You have misunderstood me completely

[Lobe]

I am sorry that I posted this now.

 

This subject is closed as far as I'm concerned.

 

You have misunderstood me completely

 

I don't know if anyone misunderstood your OP, which reads:

 

If I wish to write to a married woman at her home, a polite respectful brief note that indicates my feelings for her,what is the worst that can happen?

 

She knows me and likes me a little and I have had no contact with her for a

2-3 years. I know that this is inappropriate and unusual. Even if I do not sign my name, she would figure who wrote it. I do not want a response, nor do I

intend to go out with her or see her! I simply want to communicate. She will know I am still thinking of her.

 

You will say to leave her alone, I get it. But what is the worst that can

happen with a note?

 

While a lot of people here went for the angle of you on the receiving end of physical retribution, I am sticking by my theory.

 

The worst that can happen is you cause the object of your desire to have niggling feelings about how happy she is in her marriage, she starts an affair with you, and lots of people get hurt including you because she is already married to a man she fell in love with. It would be a purely selfish and inconsiderate act, as your intent is clearly to bait this woman. Otherwise, you wouldn't be so intent that she knew it was you. I'm not sure any of US misunderstood your intent, but perhaps YOU misunderstand it.