Richierich98 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 So a while back ago I finally messaged this girl in my area that I had looked on and off for a year or so. We hit it off pretty quickly, so quickly that after we went on a walk early the next morning, we went back to my place and we made out, she gave me oral, and I did stuff as well. The same thing happened the next morning. I started to really like her and when I complimented her she would enjoy it, at least from what I saw over text. She didnt wanna relationship and then she didn't know about the sexual stuff and thought maybe we should slow down. Then we we meet again we had sex again and during this she says "this is becoming a friend's with benefits". At the time I didn't let it startle me. She's told me she still thinks about her ex and still loves him and that she cares for me but she's afraid she wouldn't love me the same as much as I do. I stood there looking above her head and she looked at me and sorta begged me to be her friend or best friend. I get a sense that she's scared of outtimg herself in a relationship with all of she's been through, which fuels my fire to pursue her. I feel like shes comfortable with me, she would sit on my bed close to me or cuddle with me before natural flow of her being goofy or licking my forehead in a corky way would set things on. I just so see that she cares, or I just really feel like she does. I don't know what to think. Although a girls perspective on this would be nice so I can see what another girl would think if she was in this situation, but a guys perspective will work as welk
ExpatInItaly Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 I'm a woman, here's my input: Abort mission. The fact that she even mentioned her ex is a bad sign; she's still attached to him. She likes the attention and physical affection she gets from you but her heart is somewhere else. If you are hoping for something more than FWB, this isn't the girl. 1
jazzyhands89 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Men seem to think that women cant have sex without attachment which is very untrue just we've had to hide it more than men cuz we're judged more harshly. I don't think she is going to want a relationship with you so if that's what you want I would stop seeing her. Based on what you said it does not sound like she is into you more than a friends with benefits 1
Mrin Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Dude here but Expat and jazzy are spot on. Resist the urge to interpret what she's saying to you as a challenge. It is what it is. FWB or just friends. 1
Satu Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 I'm a female. She has no serious intentions towards you and is still emotionally bound to her ex. She likes you, but thats as far as it goes. Proceed as you see fit. Take care. 1
Shanex Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 (edited) Men seem to think that women cant have sex without attachment which is very untrue Which men? Maybe my dead great grandpa.. or even his ancestors... Unless the men you're talking about live in some backward country where women don't even have the right to drive or walk around alone. I don't know many (any) guys my age who aren't aware that women ''tap it and quit it'' and are wild, just like men. That being naturally NSA sex. OP: your story was a FWB and this usually come with an expiration date. You had a good time and good for ya. You can and should move on from now. Edited August 5, 2016 by Shanex 1
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