Lovehel Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 I have already posted a thread about this ex where he was asking me for sexual favors, in return for a drink, which is so vulgar and disrespectful. Thank you for all the support and help with that. I haven't responded in days. He has since, asked me to go to the cinema. He said "I'm still your friend idiot" Sent me another photo of himself, saying look what your missing out on. All the ladies will be after me tonight He then hours later sent me a long text I don't know what he wants? I would have been fine with not talking to each other for another few months but you broke the silence so now I feel like talking. Probably you've mistaken me. I don't hate anyone, I just don't treat you in a special way anymore especially since you've had no respect for me in the past year. To be honest, it's because of you that the relationship ended. I was sincerely planning to marry you but you made it so complicated and difficult. The fact that all you had going on in your life was me was the reason why you couldn't stand me doing anything other than being with you. I wish you had more friends to introduce me, more hobbies to show me and more interests to talk about. All the interests you had you just copied from me which is why I think you're a fool. How can you say I held you back when you grew so much with me. You were very controlling of my life which supressed my manliness. I feel much freer without you and I finally grew a pair. So why don't you put your stubbornness aside and take control of your feelings. I'm the person you should trust more in your life because I have never and will never screw you over. As things are right now, all I can be is your friend, maybe with benefits. But you need to do some serious work with your life. And I can help you as long as you are not selfish. If you read this you could at least say "ok". bye" The I would never screw you over part really got me cause he did. I don't know why he feels entitled to judge every aspect of my life and character so harshly? I know I have a lot to work on but it feels like I am under examination? I was only ever a normal girlfriend trying to get him to do things with me. What does he want from me? It is like he is trying to pressure me
Simon Phoenix Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Why are you letting him make contact with you? BLOCK HIM. 3
TunaCat Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 He's trying to keep you on his hook and you fall for it hook line & sinker. Delete his number from your contacts & then block it so he cannot contact you. 1
elaine567 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 all I can be is your friend, maybe with benefits. ^^^This^^^ is what this is all about. Converting the ex into a FWB is a win/win situation for some guys. He gets the sex with none of the hassle/work of being in a relationship. Please stop feeding this man, he enjoys making you uncomfortable and he wants his little victim back. Block him for your own good.
Cherryz Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Reading this, it sound abusive for some part,and like he was acting up first because this last email of him was his real issue and hurt. He finally got it out in this last email. And he is really hurt and feel bad it ddnt work out. Cause he holded you high even for marriage. He feel like he offered alot of his time to you but got hurt at the end by you. You sucked alot of his energy. He is frustrated about it. I dont know the whole story. And wont go read back.But: Looking at his reply he may just want you to acknowledged your fault/ you hurting him. And i think for one part its more then clear it wasnt a match either. Since he had to do so much to keep you busy and you ddnt have same drive in life. Is ok, not everyone live same have same goals. You can say what ever you like but no one is perfect. Everyone have some part in doing wrong in relationships. Even people that never stood up for themselves are wrong for that and enable the person to treat them wrong. And every relationship you learn from. How bad it may have been. You learn about yourself and how to treat others and respect them and how to do better in the next relationship. I know you know yourself very well and know where you were wrong in this. And even if you dont, look at what he told you , and at least find it in your heart to let him know that you both did each-other wrong. But you apologize to him for your part in that and hope at some point he will get closure. And move on. After that put a end to it. He may reply a last time maybe to apologize too or so. After that dont reply anymore and if he text again with this stuff block him! He need to find closure and move on. And so do you. Keeping in touch and going back and forward wont help. Beside this type of things will stand in peoples way when they want to date you! So work towards healing and move on. And learn from this. Work on yourself if you see there are things you need to work on.
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