Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Posted August 5, 2016 No, if she is happily responding and talking to you, no reason to back off. Backing off is only necessary if you are the one doing all the talking and are obviously the one who is more interested. If she is interested and you are interested, keep going! True, I've told her a lot of things about me that are a bit personal & would turn off a lot of women probably & she still enjoyed talking to me even afterwards.
Michelle ma Belle Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 I guess I'm confused about what the problem is. So she's likely NOT a catfish or scammer or fraud and you like her and she seems to like you. Are you offended that she sent you the sexy pics? Are you still interested in her and moving forward? If so, RELAX! Stop overthinking and just go with the flow and see what happens. If you are put off or offended in some way then have a conversation with her about it and let the chips land where they should. It's impossible for any of us to interpret what those pics and mood change really mean. Only she knows.
jen1447 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 No, this was last night she sent the photos. And I responded to her about them in a positive way of course. Ok good, then text her rather than wait around. Please avoid playing the cat and mouse game that some ppl like to promote and just communicate however it feels right. The only time you have to worry about over-texting is if it feels like you're starting to obsess. Just have fun.
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Posted August 5, 2016 I guess I'm confused about what the problem is. So she's likely NOT a catfish or scammer or fraud and you like her and she seems to like you. Are you offended that she sent you the sexy pics? Are you still interested in her and moving forward? If so, RELAX! Stop overthinking and just go with the flow and see what happens. If you are put off or offended in some way then have a conversation with her about it and let the chips land where they should. It's impossible for any of us to interpret what those pics and mood change really mean. Only she knows. No not at all. I was just a bit blindsided by it I guess since we didn't chat about anything sexual at all throughout our entire conversations previously than out of nowhere she started talking about sexual things to me than asked if I want some hot photos. I think it was after she found out I never had sex is when she mentioned about the photos a little after.
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Posted August 5, 2016 (edited) Ok good, then text her rather than wait around. Please avoid playing the cat and mouse game that some ppl like to promote and just communicate however it feels right. The only time you have to worry about over-texting is if it feels like you're starting to obsess. Just have fun. Yeah true. I just texted her now. And I guess my inexperience is making me a bit obsessed about this. Like you said I have to try to calm down. Edit: She's responding fast again. So I guess she rather me initiate the conversations. Not sure if that means anything as if I'm looking into it too much. Edited August 5, 2016 by NJ123
Omei Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 I'm still with she simply possible is turned on by the thought of taking his v card and is being a tease Invite her out for drinks She sounds like a fling girl
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Posted August 5, 2016 (edited) She just said she dated a few dozen guys in the past year & that a lot of them were first dates. That's a whole lot of people to see in a full year. Seems as others have said I wonder if she sent those photos to other guys. Edited August 5, 2016 by NJ123
jen1447 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 She just said she dated a few dozen guys in the past year & that a lot of them were first dates. That's a whole lot of people to see in a full year. Seems as others have said I wonder if she sent those photos to other guys. Would they only be worth it if they were sent to you alone? If she's been active on OLD I could see having that many dates.
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Posted August 5, 2016 Would they only be worth it if they were sent to you alone? If she's been active on OLD I could see having that many dates. She said she was seeing someone since March but it wasn't a boyfriend situation. Than has dated over a few dozen guys in the past year & that a lot of them were only first dates.
jen1447 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 She said she was seeing someone since March but it wasn't a boyfriend situation. Than has dated over a few dozen guys in the past year & that a lot of them were only first dates. Is that all bothering you?
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Posted August 5, 2016 Is that all bothering you? Well it's a bit surprising since I didn't expect her to be that sexual but had my thoughts about it after she sent me the photos. I guess it just feels that way since I have no experience & she has a lot. I guess I'm just confused on why she likes someone with no experience. She did say that it's very unique to meet someone like me since I haven't had sex at an older age.
jen1447 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Well it's a bit surprising since I didn't expect her to be that sexual but had my thoughts about it after she sent me the photos. I guess it just feels that way since I have no experience & she has a lot. I guess I'm just confused on why she likes someone with no experience. She did say that it's very unique to meet someone like me since I haven't had sex at an older age. Well if it's all too much you should just cancel her. If not, forget about it. Just don't torture yourself in the middle.
Author NJ123 Posted August 5, 2016 Author Posted August 5, 2016 Well if it's all too much you should just cancel her. If not, forget about it. Just don't torture yourself in the middle. I guess as corny as it sounds I'd just want to feel like I'm the best guy she's ever been with.
Author NJ123 Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 So she asked how my weekend was earlier with texting me first after not hearing from her over the weekend due to her being away on a weekend trip. I haven't heard from her in over 2 hours now since my last text though. I think her interest has dwindled quite a bit compared to last week since we'd be chatting a lot more compared to now but it's my own fault because I keep hesitating to ask her out. To women on here, would you ask a guy you recently just started talking to how his weekend was if you only see him as a friend?
longjohn Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 So I've been chatting with some woman I find really attractive & we've been texting a lot throughout the day for the past few days now. But after she asked if I've ever had sex I said no, than a little after she sent me sexy photos of herself after being in a sexy mood tonight. She sent them on an email she said she never uses or on one she just created since she uses another one. What does it mean though exactly? I was thinking at this point she might be using me for attention but she didn't act sexual at all with me past few days we've been talking just tonight she did when she was in a sexual mood. I think she wants to make a "man" out of you. Ladies in general tend to be selective about who they share their sex photos with. Plus like us women get horny and want some we're all human. If you like her take it to the next stage. Let things progress naturally.
kendahke Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 So I've been chatting with some woman I find really attractive & we've been texting a lot throughout the day for the past few days now. But after she asked if I've ever had sex I said no, than a little after she sent me sexy photos of herself after being in a sexy mood tonight. She sent them on an email she said she never uses or on one she just created since she uses another one. What does it mean though exactly? I was thinking at this point she might be using me for attention but she didn't act sexual at all with me past few days we've been talking just tonight she did when she was in a sexual mood. It means she does this with other men. Proceed with caution.
kendahke Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 I guess as corny as it sounds I'd just want to feel like I'm the best guy she's ever been with. Why are you basing this on what she thinks? You don't know this for yourself already?
Author NJ123 Posted August 9, 2016 Author Posted August 9, 2016 Why are you basing this on what she thinks? You don't know this for yourself already? What do you mean exactly by this?
Lois_Griffin Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 And she sent them on another email because she didnt want to use her work email that she normally uses. She has sent me pics in the past on her work email & those were just regular pics, not anything sexual. She's not a sex worker I'm 100% positive on that. Stop being a naive fool. You don't know ANYTHING 100%. Jesus, you haven't even met her - all you know is what she's allowed you to see. Never forget that. We can all be anyone we WANT to be online. Do yourself a favor and go watch some episodes of Catfish. Some scammers create whole new LIVES they fool people with - and sometimes for years.
Lois_Griffin Posted August 9, 2016 Posted August 9, 2016 So she asked how my weekend was earlier with texting me first after not hearing from her over the weekend due to her being away on a weekend trip. I haven't heard from her in over 2 hours now since my last text though. I think her interest has dwindled quite a bit compared to last week since we'd be chatting a lot more compared to now but it's my own fault because I keep hesitating to ask her out. To women on here, would you ask a guy you recently just started talking to how his weekend was if you only see him as a friend? You keep purposely avoiding pertinent questions. Someone asked how old you were. Based on your posts, I'm guessing maybe 17 or 18 years old. You ask, 'would a girl ask you how your weekend went if she was just a friend?' Jeez, I ask my mailman how his weekend went. I ask the girls at work that question on Monday mornings. It's a simple nicety people ask each other, like, "how are you today?" and has nothing to do with showing romantic interest. Someone else asked why you haven't asked her out yet. Here's another question that's very relevant - have you actually TALKED to this girl on the phone, or has all this "conversation" been through texting and email? Gotta tell you, that's lame and cowardly. Step up your game and call her on the phone, the way guys always did back before 2005. Jeez. 1
Author NJ123 Posted August 11, 2016 Author Posted August 11, 2016 Well in an update it turns out she hates me now since we couldn't come to terms for a date. She didn't want to drive near my area since she said she didn't know my area at all & I had no clue how to get to where she lives. I just can't believe this is the reason that it ended with her.
clia Posted August 11, 2016 Posted August 11, 2016 Well in an update it turns out she hates me now since we couldn't come to terms for a date. She didn't want to drive near my area since she said she didn't know my area at all & I had no clue how to get to where she lives. I just can't believe this is the reason that it ended with her. What do you mean you have no clue how to get to where she lives? You obviously have access to the Internet. Look it up. Google Maps. Waze. Etc. Check out Yelp for coffee shops, restaurants, or bars near her, pick one, and ask her out. This is not difficult. 1
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