ElevenAndraste Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Hey guys! How's it going? Hope everyone is having a great start to the month! Anyways, I need some feedback... So, I went on an amazing MEET-date. What happened was, I met someone online, we spoke briefly the same day after which he insisted I meet with him briefly for a walk in the park (Central Park, NY) as we both lived fairly closeby. Generally, I don't rush to meet someone so soon and would rather get better acquainted, so I made a pretty lame excuse of being caught up but would possibly go into the city later that night. Firstly, I have Caribbean roots (black), he's French-Canadian and now residing in the US for work with triple citizenship. He had made it known he was to go on a dinner with friends later that night but told him anyways if it's not too late and he's free to give me a nudge. After getting ready to head out that evening for a stroll to unwind as I had planned for myself, knowing he may now be out with friends I received a text as I arrived at the subway saying his plans have been postponed so he'd still like to meet if I am up for it. I responded telling him I was actually headed into the city and he was willing to meet right away, which we did in the park. We truly had a blast!! We spoke about family, work, past relationships, lifestyle etc all while I was intimidated by him, but kept my cool and was nonchalant in regards to showing any physical interest. Later that night, we moved from the park to another location and things started brewing in the air between us. I tried to keep my cool and not to read too much into it as I've been severely hurt in the past... SO HAS HE, as he exited a relationship 7 months back where he PROPOSED to the woman he was with and she rejected him. It puzzled me, I don't want to be naive but his energy was that of a great person, also very handsome and super successful, so, I could not wrap my mind around someone closing the door on him. Later that night we were speaking about music and he was lost about the current popular artists I made mentioned of so I began poking fun at him for lacking taste in music and he turned my face to his and kissed me....... We embraced for a bit after which I told him I had to go, he walked me to the train station, said goodbye and asked that I messaged him when I got in. We hung out for 4 hours that night. Pointers: 1) he seemed a bit shy or possibly guarded sometimes but VERY attentive. 2) he is 12+ years older than I am... 24 and 37 3) the fact that he not too long ago came out of a serious relationship. He did not message me when I got in, neither did I until 3 days after I sent him this text - "Hey hey! How's it going? Hope all is well with you " After a couple hours he sent " Hey, I'm doing well, thank you! Hope you had a good day. Thank you again for the nice evening. It was lovely to meet you" Then me " Same here, t'was nice meeting you as well. I had a good day, hope your week is going well. Just here slowly tryna get some rest." (I KEPT IT SHORT AND MADE SOMEWHAT OF A DISMISSAL AS IT WAS CLOSE TO MIDNIGHT WHEN I STUMBLED INTO HIS RESPONSE) Since then... Nothing but silence... It's been 11 days since we met. I didn't wanna ask him out again as I am super shyyyy to do so and was hoping he would if interested obviously but for now as for me initiating anything else that's not possible. Thoughts? 1
DramaInPajamas Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Happens all the time. Perhaps he didnt have an amazing first date and isnt into you. 2
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Sorry, but doesn't sound like he was as impressed with the date. If I thought the same, I would have asked you out again at the end of the date. I am certain that he has other girls he's waiting to date. 1
CarrieT Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Since then... Nothing but silence... It's been 11 days since we met. I didn't wanna ask him out again as I am super shyyyy to do so and was hoping he would if interested obviously but for now as for me initiating anything else that's not possible. Thoughts? Sorry, but if you didn't hear from him after ELEVEN days, he wasn't feeling it. If you are waiting for him to initiate a second date, it isn't going to happen. 1
Vado Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Unless he had a car accident or a funeral or something terrible like that, he's probably not that interested anymore. 1
Satu Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Best to put this behind you and move on. There'll be other possibilities for you. Take care. 1
HumanMachine Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 Sorry but this made me chuckle- 2) he is 12+ years older than I am... 24 and 37
Bialy Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 It happens all the time. I wouldn't let this get you down -- plenty of fish in the sea! And it sounds like you're cool and go with the flow.
Els Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 He wasn't interested and thus not the right guy for you, definitely time to move on.
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