xdz777 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 This morning I was entering my office building at 9 am and a really cute girl opened the door for me and smiled and I said thanks and smiled back. That was the whole interaction. I saw her enter the office of one of the other companies in my office building so I assume she works there. What would be a good way to ask her out without being creepy?
jen1447 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Without being creepy or without taking risks? There's no risk-free way, but you can do it w/out being creepy just by not acting like a creeper. 1
smackie9 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Just hope you run into her again and introduce yourself. 2
Author xdz777 Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 Would it be OK to go into her office and ask her out? Or is that just too much and my only option is to hope to run into her again? 1
SevenCity Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 (edited) Would it be OK to go into her office and ask her out? Or is that just too much and my only option is to hope to run into her again? Love isn't all chance. Sometimes you have to take a risk. Showing up in her office is bold and risky but you'll have your answer and can either move forward or move on. I've never been a fan of waiting for things. Strike while the iron is hot. Edited August 4, 2016 by SevenCity 1
SoulCat Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Would it be OK to go into her office and ask her out? OP please don't do that. You'll end up putting her on the spot, quite possibly in front of her colleagues. You'll end up making the whole thing an awkward situation for her. Her office is her professional environment, and not a place for setting up private dates. Or is that just too much and my only option is to hope to run into her again? Try to find out what time she starts and finishes work, so you can easily arrange to bump in to her again. When you do, try and engage her in a bit of casual conversation before asking her on a date, just so you can gauge her interest and to see if there's some common ground. 3
Bialy Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Is there a coffee or lunch spot near you? Maybe you can run into her naturally in that type of setting. Say something like, "hey! I recognize you from the building." Depending on her response, you may be able to chat with her for a few minutes. 1
smudge21 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Bumping into her at lunch time would be a good ice breaker. Be polite and talk to her, but then maybe ask her out officialy another time. Like the others said, you will put her on the spot if it's near work and you just walk up, as a stranger, and ask her out. By talking to her a bit first, you'll make her feel more comfortable around you and you'll be able to gather whether she seems interested. Either way, don't overthink it. Everyone's a stranger until you get to the know them. Good luck. Don't be creepy. 1
Grisho Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 I'd be receptive to you coming to my office, so long as noone was around me. Is there any connection between the work done in her office and the work done in yours? If yes, you could alternatively try to get to know new contacts in that office, in order to have a reason to visit often (giving you more chance to bump into her). A man once found out who I am by asking the security guard from the building we worked at. Always treat the people working in security or on reception like gold, as they tend to be a fount of knowledge and tips. 1
Author xdz777 Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 All, thanks for the advice. I went into her office just now and was planning on approaching her but only if I saw her alone. All I saw were a few groups of people sitting together (not even sure that she was there because I only took a quick glance) so I aborted the mission. I guess I will try to catch her on the way in sometime next week. If she arrived around 9 today I'm guessing she does everyday so maybe I'll hangout for 10 minutes downstairs in the lobby around that time on a certain day. I feel like such a creeper but I guess that sometimes you have to force the issue if you want to meet someone 1
jen1447 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Feeling like a creeper is a really bad launching point. 1
preraph Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 She could be married with 3 kids for all you know. So I wouldn't ask her out cold. I'd "run into her" in the lobby and introduce yourself and look at her ring finger. 1
longjohn Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 This morning I was entering my office building at 9 am and a really cute girl opened the door for me and smiled and I said thanks and smiled back. That was the whole interaction. I saw her enter the office of one of the other companies in my office building so I assume she works there. What would be a good way to ask her out without being creepy? Pull up outside the office as she leaves in your old white van with the blacked out windows and tell her she's got a pretty mouth.. lol Joke! Don't do that. Next time you see her make eye contact, smile then go say hello. Be nice, confident and watch her body language. If it suggests she might find you "cute" ask her out. What do you have to lose?
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