Cmech11 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Hello all, first post. Well I'm 38, divorced 3 years ago. I tried the online dating. A women messaged me, saying she liked what I wrote and pics I posted. We went out on a date, place of her choice. A cool industrial themed bar. Had 2 drinks, then walked around outside for about 2 hours just chatting. Things were going well. We kissed and it was short. Walked to her car and had a good bye kiss. We texted a bit, and planned on another casual date 2 days after. This time we went to in and out and had a great time, she came back to my place to chat. We sit on the couch and start to kiss. It was like 5-6-7 small kisses instead of a lil longer make out session. I kiss her neck and she sort of wiggles back and says it tickles. She leaves and I walk her out, she leans in for a small kiss. Prior to the dates we had texted at night for a few hours. Now, she barley texts, if they are its " hello:) how are you". She tells me that she likes me and wants to see where things go. Yet the texts or phone calls have dwindled down. She does have a 5yr old boy, tells me it's hard to find time. I get that, I understand. Yet the communication is lil to nothing. I feel a lil lost on her... Do I just sit and wait? I go on my day with things but I do think of her. Any advice?
sam light Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 She's communicated well that she is clearly interested. Have you been as clear in your communications? She's been clear and would be put off if you didn't respond that you are as interested as she is. If you're interested, say so and set up the next date
sam light Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 She's communicated well that she is clearly interested. Have you been as clear in your communications? She's been clear and would be put off if you didn't respond that you are as interested as she is. If you're interested, say so and set up the next date
Author Cmech11 Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 Yes I have told her that I really like her as well. A few times actually. It's just hard when we used to text more and then just came to a very slow pace. I guess if would know what she thinks or feels. I've been told by friends that I wear my heart in my sleeves and I love to easy and hurt to easy
Zippy2000 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 She's communicated well that she is clearly interested. Have you been as clear in your communications? She's been clear and would be put off if you didn't respond that you are as interested as she is. If you're interested, say so and set up the next date She is NOT interested as she "barely" texts and her texts have dwindled. Have you actually read the post?
clia Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Have you asked her out again? When was your last date?
ChatroomHero Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Sounds like her interested maybe waned. I think sometimes when you start dating it's cool but after a few dates you start to remember it takes a bit of work and takes away from your free time. If you are in love at first sight, it's not a chore. But even if she is interested she might have enjoyed the dates but the "busy because of my kid" might be more like, "If this gets serious, it will be a bit of a burden and hard to manage seeing him and fitting it in my schedule". ...And texting a few hours a night, after a bit I find myself running out of things to say and I look at it like, man, I spent 2 hours texting and I had all this other stuff to get done. It can get to be a burden pretty quick. Maybe keep the communication, don't push much to see her but let her know if she wants to get together you can arrange it. 1
introverted1 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Does she have full-time custody of her child? Is it possible her call/text behavior changed as a result of her obligations with her child and/or work? Your dating should take place in person, not over the phone or in text. Set up a date and see what happens. 1
katiegrl Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 (edited) ...And texting a few hours a night, after a bit I find myself running out of things to say and I look at it like, man, I spent 2 hours texting and I had all this other stuff to get done. It can get to be a burden pretty quick. For me, when I'm really clicking with a guy, our thoughts just keep bouncing back and forth with effortless ease. Even over text or email. We don't even have to think of "what to say" it's just an easy flow of communication. Hardly a burden. If you think it is, then something's off imo. If you have to think of things to say... or are afraid of running out of things to say... then you're not truly clicking. You can't force true chemistry... things should flow easily and effortlessly. When it's "right." It doesn't sound like that is happening in the OP's situation ... at all. In fact just the opposite, it sounds forced and awkward. It sounds to me like she is not all that interested. Sorry. Edited August 4, 2016 by katiegrl 1
smackie9 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 (edited) She suggested a cool industrial theme bar for the first date, then for the second date you take her to an in and out? The industrial bar is....how to say it..... Shows she enjoys funky places, trying different things....adventurous.....you take her to an in and out....I bet she feels you two are not on the same compatibility page. Time to amp it up and make things a little exciting for her....increase flirting, figure out a more interesting place to take her. Edited August 4, 2016 by smackie9 1
sam light Posted August 5, 2016 Posted August 5, 2016 She is NOT interested as she "barely" texts and her texts have dwindled. Have you actually read the post? She tells me that she likes me and wants to see where things go. Have you read the entire post Zippy?
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