GF broke up with me, how do I move on?

[jase112]

Try to make this short. This is the 2nd time we broke up after 2yrs. Same reasons, she was on the fence with her feeling. When something is wrong she won't respond to text or answer calls. We finally talked she came up with multiple reasons. She doesn't think I'm motivated, don't say I love her enough, i don't keep her motivated, intrigued, engaged. She said she wants to be married & have 1 more child. She got mad b/c I said a statement. Most men don't want to talk about marriage & children. I explain to her that it was just a statement & I'm not in that category. We talked numerous times about it & I welcomed it. We argued about these subjects. She came out & said are you ok with casual dating and no commitments? I said no. I told her that disrespectful & I'm not going to be the backup guy just in case. She said I would never have you as backup & can't believe that i would cut her out of her life completely. After more talking, the answer came, said she didn't feel in love but she cares for me. I told her i can't make you love me. So i agreed like a dummy to be just friends. N/C in 4 days. Need everyone's input what should I do? Pursue her, or try the friend thing, move on & how do I cope?

thanks:(

[bubbaganoosh]

Turn the 4 days NC to 4 weeks, then months and move on. You already broke up twice so why do you want to go for a third time

[LastAcorn99]

I’m sorry about your breakup. As painful as this must be for you, it looks like you and your GF seem to have had different expectations from your relationship. I believe that for any relationship to thrive both partners need to have mutual love and respect. You take care, okay?