Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 I personally find such a copy and paste training idiotic(not to offend my friend) what does she want to achieve? there is nothing we can do. we are not doctors. Does it help easy our pain if we share with other people? It just makes people who saw it sad and unhappy. but nothing we can do about it.
basil67 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Oh, drop it now. I think you are over the top. I think I probably better than many people. Who doesn't have some 'anxiety' under certain circumstance? it's easier for you to say when you are not affected. I do get anxiety under certain circumstances. But I also can see the difference between times when my anxiety is valid or irrational. This one of yours was very irrational and I'm worried for you. But I will drop it.
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 I do get anxiety under certain circumstances. But I also can see the difference between times when my anxiety is valid or irrational. This one of yours was very irrational and I'm worried for you. But I will drop it. OK. Maybe you have a point. Any idea I can do about it? what's your diagnosis, to be precise?
Redhead14 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 OK. Maybe you have a point. Any idea I can do about it? what's your diagnosis, to be precise? There isn't enough information here to make a diagnosis and most people are not qualified to do that. However, this kind of overthinking relative to a man's interest suggests desperateness . . . in this case, wanting a man's interest to the point of abandoning logic You're fine, just relax and let him come to you if he's going to.
basil67 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 OK. Maybe you have a point. Any idea I can do about it? what's your diagnosis, to be precise? I cannot diagnose. I'm just saying that your reaction wasn't in the realms of logical. If this is a one off case for you, don't worry. But if this kind of overthinking is not uncommon for you and causes you problems, please seek help.
basil67 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 (edited) I personally find such a copy and paste training idiotic(not to offend my friend) what does she want to achieve? there is nothing we can do. we are not doctors. Does it help easy our pain if we share with other people? It just makes people who saw it sad and unhappy. but nothing we can do about it. As the parent of a disabled child, I would argue that sharing of some items on social media can have merit. I don't share "put this on your wall for an hour" type posts, but some of my friends do it ...I think they do it so that I don't feel alone. While it's not my style, I acknowledge their kindness. That aside, there's actually a lot we can do to help and sharing of social media posts can prompt it. On a passive level, posts increase our knowledge of just how common disabilities are and how many people are affected by them. On a more active level, exposure and increased awareness may lead us to help someone who needs it. Without awareness, we're more likely to be uncomfortable and ignore the individual. With MS for example, becoming more aware would perhaps stop us being uncomfortable with that person and remember to invite him out with us when we do stuff. We can also be reminded to donate to research. Did you know that the money raised from the Ice Bucket Challenge helped make research breakthroughs for ALS? It was a perfect example of social media campaign doing good stuff. And I think that knowing you've got a lot of supporters out there can help ease the feelings of isolation. Or knowing that those supporters may come and help with stuff. Lastly, when a disabled person or someone immediately affected by the disability shares something to help them feel better, it's not about the reader. We should not have to hide disability because it may make a person sad. Edited August 4, 2016 by basil67 3
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 There isn't enough information here to make a diagnosis and most people are not qualified to do that. However, this kind of overthinking relative to a man's interest suggests desperateness . . . in this case, wanting a man's interest to the point of abandoning logic You're fine, just relax and let him come to you if he's going to. Yes, I know. I told myself there are plenty of fish, and he is not all that, etc... I told myself I am too fixated. I kicked myself after seeing him doesn't even like my post, and there was a guy friend with a great body who used to like almost all my posts until I didn't say happy bday to him and he found a gf eventually. I regret all those guys that actually took the initiative, but I brushed aside. So, I asked what is wrong with me? why I have to take the hard way(and seems no way)? I should do the flanneling. You know this guy is adding women to his FB constantly (but he seems a serious guy though). Yes, if I were him, why do I think he even notice me with all these 'options'? He is not really handsome in the conventional way. I just feel some kind of mental connection... So I definitely need to change my thinking and ways of doing things. I know... I know... 1
basil67 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Yes, I know. I told myself there are plenty of fish, and he is not all that, etc... I told myself I am too fixated. I kicked myself after seeing him doesn't even like my post, and there was a guy friend with a great body who used to like almost all my posts until I didn't say happy bday to him and he found a gf eventually. I regret all those guys that actually took the initiative, but I brushed aside. So, I asked what is wrong with me? why I have to take the hard way(and seems no way)? I should do the flanneling. You know this guy is adding women to his FB constantly (but he seems a serious guy though). Yes, if I were him, why do I think he even notice me with all these 'options'? He is not really handsome in the conventional way. I just feel some kind of mental connection... So I definitely need to change my thinking and ways of doing things. I know... I know... Most people don't "like" the awareness posts unless they are interested in the cause. Him not liking the post is not about you. Or perhaps he didn't even see it. When one has a busy feed, not everything makes it through....especially if we go deleting those posts! The guy who liked all your posts? It means nothing unless he asks you out or otherwise tries to interact with you. There may have been nothing to ruin. If he stopped talking with you simply because you forgot a HB on social media, then he's either too sensitive or wasn't into you. Either way, no loss. Basically, social media is not a good gauge of a person's interest. And acknowledging posts isn't "taking initiative". Asking a girl out is taking initiative. How old are you?
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 Most people don't "like" the awareness posts unless they are interested in the cause. Him not liking the post is not about you. Or perhaps he didn't even see it. When one has a busy feed, not everything makes it through....especially if we go deleting those posts! oh, no....I meant he doesn't like any of my posts, not this one. That stupid post doesn't even want you to like or share. it asked you to copy and past in your status so it looks like you wrote it. why my friend doesn't even want me to like her post or share but directly paste on my status? I hate her now and I hate myself too! me stupid trying to be loyal to my friend. and I just saw the guy logoff 15min ago, so I thought no way in hell he will logon again in another hr? stupid me forgot he might follow me. and there he go, 20 min I realize that possibility and he indeed was there online!!!!!!!!! so I deleted the post. and he went off, and then I wrote something on friend's post saying I did it for her. and he went back online again right there after 3 min! I turned off chat, so he won't see me online, but I can still see him. when it says 1 minute besides someone's status, it means that person is online. so can I blame myself thinking he following me?
TunaCat Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Wow, OP you need to relax. You are way overthinking every single action on a social media site and to be honest you really don't seem like much of a friend. All she wanted you (and her other followers/friends) to do was keep that MS awareness (because that's what it is, awareness) post for ONE hour. And yet you take it off because of what some guy you're into may think? Hating her for something like this is absolutely ridiculous. You didn't HAVE to cut and paste that post. You made that choice and instead of EXPLAINING it to him (if he ever even ASKED) you just take it off. Hating yourself won't do anything either. I'm genuinely trying to understand your mindset, but my logical brain is completely lost as to your mindset. 2
basil67 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 You hate your friend and you hate yourself??? *Hate* is a really strong word. Springsummer, that post wasn't worth a second thought, let alone getting upset over it. Not being rude, but I really can't understand why you're upset about it. Each time this guy logs in, is it after you've just make a new post? 1
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 You made that choice and instead of EXPLAINING it to him (if he ever even ASKED) you just take it off. Hating yourself won't do anything either. . Now, that is CRAZY! why would I actively seek out to explain it to one of my FB friends who hardly know me? That, he will think I am the most nutty person on earth.
basil67 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Now, that is CRAZY! why would I actively seek out to explain it to one of my FB friends who hardly know me? That, he will think I am the most nutty person on earth. The comment was that you could explain IF he asked.
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 Each time this guy logs in, is it after you've just make a new post? not to be rude, if that's what you come up with after reading my posts, I really doubt if you understand logic.
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 The comment was that you could explain IF he asked. equally crazy... why would he ask a near stranger such a question?
basil67 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 not to be rude, if that's what you come up with after reading my posts, I really doubt if you understand logic. I'm trying to understand why you think he's following you. If he has actually followed you, he'd get a notification each time you make a new post and log on to see it. (Hence my question) But if you aren't actually making new posts, then he won't be getting notified that you're online...which means he's just a FB frequent flyer. He's probably one of those people who have FB running in the background all the time and checks it frequently. Unless FB has an app which pings him each time you log on??? I haven't heard of such an app.
basil67 Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 equally crazy... why would he ask a near stranger such a question? He probably wouldn't ask (or even care) - which is why the post you're responding to phrased it as being an unlikely event. 1
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 I'm trying to understand why you think he's following you. If he has actually followed you, he'd get a notification each time you make a new post and log on to see it. (Hence my question) But if you aren't actually making new posts, then he won't be getting notified that you're online...which means he's just a FB frequent flyer. He's probably one of those people who have FB running in the background all the time and checks it frequently. Unless FB has an app which pings him each time you log on??? I haven't heard of such an app. Please read my posts when you are trying to understand (thanks for that) (when someone makes you his close friend and check 'notification' then he will get notification on his machine when you make a new post/comment)
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 He probably wouldn't ask (or even care) - which is why the post you're responding to phrased it as being an unlikely event. He definitely wouldn't ask! even if he cares! please know the context before making comment. man, what's the common sense? much less about logic.
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 Now I feel I am getting nowhere with this threat. When this topic is a personal issue to you, then you can't give an objective opinion.
MidwestUSA Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 He definitely wouldn't ask! even if he cares! please know the context before making comment. man, what's the common sense? much less about logic. I don't think you're even comprehending what basil is saying, sorry. You seem so wound up about this Facebook stuff. It's so meaningless. Why is it causing you so much distress? Such that you have to be rude to her? We understand logic, we just don't understand your thought processes, which seem to defy logic. 6
GunslingerRoland Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Now I feel I am getting nowhere with this threat. When this topic is a personal issue to you, then you can't give an objective opinion. I'm not sure where you want this thread to go. Lets summarize: He doesn't pay much attention to your Facebook posts so he probably didn't even notice it. Lots of people post about lots of causes, at most he is going to think you know someone with MS, not that you have it yourself. You're right, anxiety is common, we all have it to some degree, and many people have it in crippling ways at times. That doesn't mean we should just brush it aside when it is controlling us. If you like this guy this much, do something about it, message him, talk to him, if he rejects you move on to a different guy. Some guy who doesn't even like your facebook posts, is not logging into facebook just because you posted, it just isn't happening, I'm sorry, I bet you think this song is about you, but I'm sure it's coincidence. 1
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 I'm not sure where you want this thread to go. Lets summarize: He doesn't pay much attention to your Facebook posts so he probably didn't even notice it. Lots of people post about lots of causes, at most he is going to think you know someone with MS, not that you have it yourself. You're right, anxiety is common, we all have it to some degree, and many people have it in crippling ways at times. That doesn't mean we should just brush it aside when it is controlling us. If you like this guy this much, do something about it, message him, talk to him, if he rejects you move on to a different guy. Some guy who doesn't even like your facebook posts, is not logging into facebook just because you posted, it just isn't happening, I'm sorry, I bet you think this song is about you, but I'm sure it's coincidence. Good summary! I guess. yes, I thought the same that he doesn't even like my posts. but I don't see him like anybody else's post though. so after I saw him logoff a few min ago, I thought why not just post for 1 hr, forgetting the last time as soon as I hit the post button he went online....as soon as I remember this and came back a few minutes later to my PC, lol behold, he is back there again. what coincidents! I thought he is an extremely high achiver and have a very enviable career and know lots of people. where the hell he has all this time?
clia Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Why are you monitoring when he is logging on and off? Honestly, it seems kind of creepy. I tend to agree, though, that it's all just coincidental. Who is this guy, anyway, and how do you know him? 3
Author Springsummer Posted August 4, 2016 Author Posted August 4, 2016 Thanks for everyone's concerns. No man no cry! I am getting tired of this craziness. Yes, it's creepy. I just couldn't help it! I just need to open up my eyes and my life. I will never gonna make moves with him, so does he, so might as well forget about it. Peace!
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