Trauma_Luna Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 I had the most awesome relationship of all, 6 years of pure love, friendship and passion. Everything seemed to be perfect, but one day she just walked away and left me, she got a new job, she knew new people and she lost interest in me, what could i do? nothing, just accept it and try to move on. Since that day i have been feeling angry, mad, sad.. it's been almost 8 months, we haven't had any kind of contact with each other. I never begged for another chance, i never tried to call her, she was the one that called me two or three times and i barely responded. I was starting to feel that i had got over her, that i moved on. I was feeling happy, i tried to date other girls but didn't work out, There was a moment where i didn't feel the need of her anymore, but i was always waiting for her to come back again, begging for forgiveness, for another chance, everyone was always telling me "Just let her alone, she is totally coming back, they all come back". The thing is that i am now convinced that she is no coming back, i won't receive a call. Since i realized that, i am not happy anymore, i am angry with life. How in the hell she forgot me so soon? after 6 years of being together. I wan't to totally move on... i don't want her back anymore, but i still feel angry that she never tried to get back with me.. 1
Blanco Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 It's normal, especially after such a long relationship. It's reasonable to feel like your time together was somehow not as meaningful as you thought it was because of non-action post-breakup. However, it's important to strive for perspective and realize that these thoughts, common as they are, aren't necessarily true. When a relationship ends against our will, I think we are deeply affected at least twice: After the initial breakup and then again when we realize that it's really over. Right now, you're experiencing that second one. Take some comfort in knowing that you're angry because your ego has taken a hit. It sucks, but it's probably nowhere near as hurtful as the breakup itself was. So I say, lean into what you're feeling right now. Don't run away from it. Feel it and then try not to linger too much in that space. You don't want to let this anger fester, but it's better to embrace your feelings now, process them, and continue on with your healing journey. 4
d0nnivain Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 Anger is the middle stage of grief. Eventually it transforms into acceptance. Believe it or not you are progressing in your healing.
Papiyon Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Hi Trauma_Luna I can imagine how you feel. They way you were treated was unfair. It is expected that your feelings would go back and forth from contentment to anger. You invested 6 years of your life to and with someone you loved and trusted. It sounds like you’re on the path to closure. It doesn’t seem like your ex is interested or would be receptive to talking to you about her abrupt departure so I wonder if writing you thoughts down could help you with final leg of closure? Maybe you can address the letter to your ex and pour out your thoughts and feelings in the letter as a form of release. It’s unfortunate that even without her actively being in your life; your still feeling her “presence”. Ultimately you will have to “move-on” so she won’t have so much influence on you. Prayerfully expressing these feelings can help you with that. P.S. if she can walk away that easily then she didn’t deserve you. Thinking of you and praying for you.
sorano Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 sorry this happened man. I know how you feel. One day they love you, then out of nowhere, you are just thrown away. 180. They say so many nice things to you. You give it your all. Then out of the blue, they are your enemy and a stranger. I am going through the same thing. It hurts. 1
Draper Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 You've got my sympathy, man. Seems like of all the things you can lose in life, nothing hurts quite the same as losing someone you care for deeply. The good news is that in my previous experience, when your crappy feelings of hurt and anger start to get replaced by feelings of not wanting to have those other crappy feelings, it's a sign your on the homestretch. Just like the good times came and went, these bad times will go as well.
Emaize3 Posted April 26, 2016 Posted April 26, 2016 Hi there. I totally feel for you too! I'm a female and got blindsided and dumped by my wonderful bf. It's been 3 months and I'm a lot better but I'd be lying if I told you that I don't miss him or that im not still in shock. Just want you to know that I also do not understand how people can do this, especially out of the blue when things are great! You're not alone friend.
Author Trauma_Luna Posted August 3, 2016 Author Posted August 3, 2016 (edited) We were 6 years together and broke a year ago because she cheated on me. When we were together we made a project in college and registered the patent at 50% - 50%, she owned half the project and i owned the other half. The project didn't work and we abandoned it for years. She sent me a text last monday "Hey how are you? i hope you're fine, i just want to tell you that i need you to give me your 50% rights of the project we made, i know you don't care about it anymore" The thing is that i really don't care about the project, but she was a total b*tch with me, cheated on me, betrayed me, days after we broke up we accidentally met on a party, she asked some big guys to kick me out and they beat the sh*t out of me outside the party and one even pointed me with a gun in my head. I haven't responded to any of her text but she is calling me and texting and i am really scared, it's been 10 months since the last time i saw her and she brings me really traumatic memories, i don't want her near me but i am pretty sure she is not going to leave me alone until i hand her my rights of the project which i am totally not doing. Should i respond her or just keep ignoring her? Edited August 3, 2016 by Trauma_Luna
DrReplyInRhymes Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 We were 6 years together and broke a year ago because she cheated on me. When we were together we made a project in college and registered the patent at 50% - 50%, she owned half the project and i owned the other half. The project didn't work and we abandoned it for years. She sent me a text last monday "Hey how are you? i hope you're fine, i just want to tell you that i need you to give me your 50% right of the project we made, i know you don't care about it anymore" The thing is that i really don't care about the project, but she was a total b*tch with me, cheated on me, betrayed me, days after we broke up we accidentally met on a party, she asked some big guys to kick me out and they beat the **** out of me outside the party and one even pointed me with a gun in my head. I haven't responded to any of her text but she is calling me and texting and i am really scared, it's been 10 months since the last time i saw her and she brings me really traumatic memories, i don't want her near me but i am pretty sure she is not going to leave me along until i hand her my right of the project which i am totally not doing. Should i respond her or just keep ignoring her? Away from the drama that is your past relationship with her in the past, I'd try to find out why she has an interest in the patent suddenly so fast!
LD1990 Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 Screw giving up a thing. If you two created it, why should you just give you up your share? Especially considering she cheated on you and treated you like trash. Don't let her take what's yours.
SevenCity Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 It looks like the threads were merged. How did you fine find out she was cheating? I would totally ignore her and involve the police if necessary. Putting a gun to your head is real jail time for that guy.
Cherryz Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 Its sad. But im sure she ddnt forget you. But chose to move on. Take all the time you need to heal from this. And think the good and bads of this situation and move on. You will be ok, dont let this rule your whole love life. Read some christian dating books. Plan your days, do things with freinds and family.
Cherryz Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 We were 6 years together and broke a year ago because she cheated on me. When we were together we made a project in college and registered the patent at 50% - 50%, she owned half the project and i owned the other half. The project didn't work and we abandoned it for years. She sent me a text last monday "Hey how are you? i hope you're fine, i just want to tell you that i need you to give me your 50% rights of the project we made, i know you don't care about it anymore" The thing is that i really don't care about the project, but she was a total b*tch with me, cheated on me, betrayed me, days after we broke up we accidentally met on a party, she asked some big guys to kick me out and they beat the sh*t out of me outside the party and one even pointed me with a gun in my head. I haven't responded to any of her text but she is calling me and texting and i am really scared, it's been 10 months since the last time i saw her and she brings me really traumatic memories, i don't want her near me but i am pretty sure she is not going to leave me alone until i hand her my rights of the project which i am totally not doing. Should i respond her or just keep ignoring her? Wow thats alot. i guess we dont know the whole story here. Either-way, if you text her tell her no and to dont text you again! and block her!Dont go back and forward with the past.
Marc878 Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 No response and block her. Check that project. She's wants your half got a reason. Don't ever give her *****
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