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Okay, my suituation is quiet odd and embarrassing but I really hope you guys to read it and help me.

Me and my ex (not sure she really is my gf) met at Instagram (sex chat) two and a half months ago.

She got a really slim body, which I'm obsessed with, but she is not pretty at all.

 

We were having a great conversation about kinky stuff and sending pics and talk about the things about ourselves. I also told that I want her to be my gf and said many romantic stuff to her and shes into it. Btw, she's 17 (high school) and I'm 22 (college). And 2 weeks later I invited her to my home and we did all the naughty stuff except for having sex with her because she said she's virgin. After that, We had a great day, we went to a Japanese buffet and a walk at seafront and was holding hands all the time. It was romantic. But she still not willing to commit to our couple relationship, she told me she was not sure about it.

 

After that, we still dated almost once a week because she is too busy for studying and meeting her friends kind of stuff and her schedule is quiet full. But HEY if a person truly loves you, he/she will make time for you no matter what right? Everytime it was me to initiate the conversation on Whatsapp and the dating. She's being responsive in texting during the first month of our relationship. But being more like indifference to me in realife and texting afterwards.

 

I knew I fked up...I acted too clingy and obsessed with sex during the time of dating and constantly check her out with text messages. When I try to make commitments to her, she always said she's not sure whether we are suitable for each other or she just want to stay with me as a rebound ( She broke up at 8 months ago).

 

Each time we were dating I voluntarily brought her a little gift and get a good dinner, because I really want to show her my affection and sincerity towards her want her feel good. She never asked me for money or buying stuff for her. Because she said she's not sure if it's right to fall in love with me. She even rejected my will to give her gift during this two weeks.

 

Until two weeks ago, she's acting not responsive ( reply my text messages in 2-4 hours or more). It really makes me nevrous, and I stepped it up by calling her when she's not reply to my message.

 

Today, I manned up and directly confront her on Whatsapp. She said there are things that she doesn't like.

 

1)She doesn't like me to hug or kiss her in the public, and lots of time I didn't listen to her. And I acted too clingy and obsessed with sex.

2)She doesn't like me always checking her out and called her when she's with her friends. (She was trying too hard to hide our dating from her friends and family)

3)Our values and preception of love are different. (She want a bad boy and I treated her too good)

4)She think that staying with me can build up feelings but she realize it is wrong and still has no feelings for me.

5)She was holding on because she don't want to hurt me feelings and I treated her too well, she will felt guilty.

6)She want a lot personal space and want to be alone sometimes and I can't give her that (but she likes to hang out with her boy and girl friends a lot?)

 

Is she using/ playing/ holding on/ playing hard to catch or just want another wingman to her? I'm having a feeling that I'm being used. But she said that she was not using me. She told me that I'm a good guys and treated her so well and was so sorry for telling me these.

 

Now, she just want to be friends with me, I agreed, and I told her if she need me or for a dinner, I'm always here for her. She saids OK. I find out that I really obsessed with her and don't want to lose her. Btw I am trying my best to move on and removed her on my Instagram( the only Social media we are linked) and her contact. I'm planning to initiate No contact until she reach out for me again...

 

Maybe I'm just really want to person to love me and get back that feelings and sexlife in my previous relationship( first love, dumped me 1 year ago ) u can check out my previous posts for that. SO I did so many stupid things.

 

I really need any comments or suggestions what should I do now, should I cut the chord or just be friend-zoned by her and holding on the hope that she will change her mind on day.

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She doesn't want you. Move on. She's a teenager.

 

Find someone your own age and don't be so clingy in the beginning. It scares us.

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RecentChange Established Member

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Dude, time to move on a grow up a bit.

 

While 5 years isn't much of an age gap, at let's say 30, between a teenager in high school, and a man that should be ready to graduate college - it's huge. You two are at different points in your life, and I certainly hope maturity.

 

I am a little concerned about a young virgin girl who discusses sexually explicit things with strangers off Instagram...... rest assured, you are probably not the only one.

 

Any way, she broke up with you, take a hint - she doesn't want to be seen with you - she is not proud of you, you arent her BF.

 

Perhaps set your focus on women in their 20's rather than high school girls?

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... Is she using/ playing/ holding on/ playing hard to catch or just want another wingman to her? I'm having a feeling that I'm being used. ...

 

Stay No Contact. Date someone else.

 

You're not being used or played because she told you the truth- she wasn't interested in a BF/GF relationship.

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This doesn't add up...

 

Sexy pics, yet a virgin?

 

And what's wrong with PDA. PDA is actually a good thing if she isn't ready for full blown sex. Cuz with PDA you both can express intimacy without the pressures of going all the way (you can't have sex in public).

 

So, forget her.

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(you can't have sex in public).

 

Oh is that why I got the ticket from the cop last time?

****, I thought it was because he thought I was trying to mime!

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She doesn't want you. Move on. She's a teenager.

 

Find someone your own age and don't be so clingy in the beginning. It scares us.

 

I remember one time she told me that she felt guilty for meeting people online and did the things that normally the girls at her age wouldn't do. Our relationship is doomed and I was blinded by love. Thank you for your advice I really should find girls that at my age, they are mature and being serious and willing to put efforts in my relationship.

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Dude, time to move on a grow up a bit.

 

While 5 years isn't much of an age gap, at let's say 30, between a teenager in high school, and a man that should be ready to graduate college - it's huge. You two are at different points in your life, and I certainly hope maturity.

 

I am a little concerned about a young virgin girl who discusses sexually explicit things with strangers off Instagram...... rest assured, you are probably not the only one.

 

Any way, she broke up with you, take a hint - she doesn't want to be seen with you - she is not proud of you, you arent her BF.

 

Perhaps set your focus on women in their 20's rather than high school girls?

 

It's my fault to consider these kind of relationship as true love. I was really want to find that feelings in my first love so I acted obsessively. But don't worry I will try my best to find the girls at my own age.

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Stay No Contact. Date someone else.

 

You're not being used or played because she told you the truth- she wasn't interested in a BF/GF relationship.

 

Yea actually she admitted that she has mental issues, maybe depression and being too pessimistic sth like that, thinking the only thing she need is friends and maybe forever alone. There is nothing I can do about it, I'm not psychologist and mental therapist. I'm feeling helpless when she acted like this

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This doesn't add up...

 

Sexy pics, yet a virgin?

 

And what's wrong with PDA. PDA is actually a good thing if she isn't ready for full blown sex. Cuz with PDA you both can express intimacy without the pressures of going all the way (you can't have sex in public).

 

So, forget her.

 

Lol. The only PDA she was willing to do with me is holding hands only. And yeah you are right I should forget her and find someone who truly cares about me and our relationship.

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Friend to be honest, a 22 year old guy shouldn't be playing footsy with a 17 year old girl. That's trouble with a capitol "T".

 

Move on and find someone else but stay the hell away from the kids section.

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Me and my ex (not sure she really is my gf) met at Instagram (sex chat) two and a half months ago.

If you're not sure she's your girlfriend, she's not.

 

She got a really slim body, which I'm obsessed with, but she is not pretty at all.

 

Why not go out with someone who you actually like rather than someone for whom your entire description is "nice body, bad face?"

 

We were having a great conversation about kinky stuff and sending pics and talk about the things about ourselves. I also told that I want her to be my gf and said many romantic stuff to her and shes into it. Btw, she's 17 (high school) and I'm 22 (college). And 2 weeks later I invited her to my home and we did all the naughty stuff except for having sex with her because she said she's virgin.

 

This is illegal in a lot of places.

 

Please just move on.

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Guys but what I can do to help me stay in NC for a better way?

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Guys but what I can do to help me stay in NC for a better way?

 

Block her number and don't contact her. theres no learning process to NC you just don't contact.

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Block her number and don't contact her. theres no learning process to NC you just don't contact.

 

I didn't block her number but I removed it from my phone and I unfollowed her on Instagram. Removed all chat/call history.

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