I Keep Dreaming About Ex

[PerryK]

Its been a few months now since the breakup but recently ive started having lots of dreams about her.

 

Day time, i feel over her if i can keep her out my mind, sometimes i see things that remind me of her, things we did together, things we brought, places we went etc and it brings her back and i feel awful.

 

Now though ive started having dreams about her, and i wake up and now shes just in my head and thats all i think about all day.

 

For example last night i dreamt i was watching her snapchat stories while i was stuck on my own at work and she was on a holiday with a new boy who was pretty much the opposite of me and she looked so happy as if she was fully over me.

 

The night before we was in bed on a holiday and she was telling me she needs to go, but i held her in bed and we started having sex and i wouldnt let her leave.

 

When together she wasnt good for me, she was pretty vile towards me, doing what she wanted not caring how it would affect me, starting arguments to make me feel guilty over nothing and me come crawling back and tell her how much i love her, pretending i didnt exist to her friends so they didnt think differently of her etc.

 

But it takes a lot of my effort to remember the true way she treated me because after the dreams i keep having all i think about was that we were so happy together.

 

Its making it even harder, im talking to other girls but think "your not her" and struggle to maintain a convo further.

[Captivating]

Hi, what you are experiencing is normal rather common actually.

This is a part of the "withdrawal"....yes, it is hard to move on, your brain plays tricks on you. The brain is obsessed with pain, analyze, re-analyze everything to learn so that this pain won't happen in the future. It tries to protect you.

 

It's in this video, please watch it :

 

 

Take care!

[smudge21]

You're going through what most of us do, especially the whole seeing her in a perfect light when she actually wasn't. It's the hardest part that, accepting that this person who we truly loved and continue to think about, isn't actually all that nice a person. We slap loved ones up on a pedestal and worship them. We also find it so hard to remove them from that height because it feels wrong that we could possibly love someone who is so bad for us. Even now I can tell you that it's been 6 months since I last saw mine and despite being over her, I still think about her in a positive light from time to time. It's only through healing and plenty of time that this will change. You need to see what it is you're actually doing (or not doing) to get over her. Are you spending a lot of time alone, especially just before you go to sleep? I always found those alone quiet times were the worse. It does get easier and the dreams do go away, but we all heal differently and at different times.

[mg4514]

The two previous posts nailed it. I was going to say the same thing. All I can add is to reemphasize what has already been said:

 

1. This is quite normal.

2. The reason this is happening is because you had an ideal image, an ideal dream ending for this relationship I.e. Living happily ever after, picket fence, blah, blah, blah. And when it didn't work out...your brain is working overtime subconsciously to mend that image.

 

Hang in there. This will pass. You'll likely encounter moments of weakness where you'll want to reconnect with her. Don't lose your dignity. Just know that you made the right decision.

[Charlie99909]

Hang tight, I've been having dreams recently of my ex as well. What's a real ball breaker is I've been attracting a few women that share her name and her general appearance! That's not healthy for me and I have to move past it. Stay strong!