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I've been talking to a girl for about 2 months. Things have been going great. We always have great conversations and have a blast when we are together. Lately it began to pick up. We were hanging out more and we were texting throughout the day like our lives depended on it. But all of a sudden it completely stopped. She was no longer texting me throughout the day. No more good morning texts or good night texts. She would only reply to a text I would send and the replies were always short and to the point. They weren't flirty like before. . She said she was just having a high anxiety day and she gets this way occasionally and it wasn't something I did. So I gave her space. The last thing I wanted to do was to push her away and be clingy. It's been a week that this has been going on now. I'll send a simple text every few days just to see how she's doing. She always replies. Which is good I'm guessing. I'm just not exactly sure what it all means and how I'm suppose to proceed. I figured she was just stressed and needed a little to breathe and regroup. I backed off but I felt like we really were heading towards something serious and now I'm not sure what's happening. Again I'm not trying to come off as being the needy nice guy but I'd like to know if it's heading anywhere or this is some type of test. I'm a nice guy who knows how to treat a woman well. There have been a bunch of times that she has said "I'm too nice to her". I don't know if this is some type of game she's playing to see if I'm always this way or she just lost interest. I've always just been myself and don't bs people. Most of the time girls just think it's a front and I'm playing a game just to sleep with them. I'm just not sure what to do in this case. I feel if I say something like why did you pull back it will be come off to needy but if I also don't say anything and just wait for her to talk to me then it comes off as if I were just playing games and wasn't being my true self. Kinda seems like I'm screwed either way.

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Its still too early to say. I would give it another week. It's possible she's going through something in her life or she may have met someone else. This just happened recently to me. She was hot and then all of sudden distant. She lied and told me she was stressed but I found out two weeks later she met someone else. Be on the look out for the red flags.

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She got tired of waiting for you to do more than text. She told you that you're too nice... meaning, she expected you to make a move. My guess is that somebody else read the cues correctly and didn't hesitate.

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Is she dating others? Are you?

 

That would be my first guess, that she is dating others and either prioritising others, or having trouble juggling them all.

 

Either way, at 2 months and she's withdrawing, I would try to either lock it down or walk away.

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2 months. "talking" what does that mean?

 

Did you go on dates?

Did you kiss?

Did you have sex?

 

Pro-tip #1 I hope you use punctuation when you texted her. unlike in this thread. :D

 

Pro-tip #2 you don't "treat a lady right" until she is actually your lady and after 2 months she is either in or out unless you have other women you are talking to.

 

You can take her out and such but if you go overboard and treat her like a GF when she isn't they seem to lose interest because they don't have to do any work for you.

 

Men are the same way. if a woman you want a relationship with is acting like your GF when she isn't, it's a turn-off.

 

Also, the constant texting daily (unless it is sexting with her sending you naughty pics) landed you in the friendzone.

 

Or I could be over-analyzing it and she has self worth issues and doesn't think she deserves someone who does treat her good. ha!

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It sounds like someone else has her interest now.

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I don't know what has happened. But, I don't buy the whole "you're too nice to me" thing... Not all girls want to date guys like this... I won't date someone who is not a nice guy who treats me well.

 

I'm sorry it's possible this didn't work out for you. But, don't change who you are or what you do because it didn't work with this girl.

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