Mahalkita143 Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 (edited) Hi I'm new here. I stumble upon this site from reading about stuff about moving on. I dated this guy for about 4 months after not being with anyone for almost 4 years. I fell in love quickly even though we were 400 miles away. He made the first trip to see me and I would visit back also. He didn't have a job at that time so he had plenty of time to give me lots of attention from texting, video calls and late nite chats for hours at times. To make the story short- I think the distance was too much for both of us so we decided to end things but was somehow still texting sometimes but maybe because I initiate the text. Last weekend, I happen to be in his town coz my sister planned our mini vacation to there. I thought I would text him so we can meet. Apparently, after just 3 weeks of no contact, he already found a new girlfriend. It was painful to know how quickly he replaced me. Like he doesn't really care bout my feelings. He told me he didn't have time for relationship when we broke up but next thing I knew he has a new girl. I was pissed off so I texted him back that he was a liar and selfish. I can't believe I fell for his sweet nothings, I was paying for stuff when we would go out since he didn't have a job at the time, but when he needs to buy for himself he would be able to afford. I felt used by this guy. I was even willing to get pregnant. Luckily I didn't get pregnant because he was telling me how he wants a baby too. Omg, I feel like a victim of narcissistic serial monogamist. Now, I'm trying to take my time and do some healing. I've been crying a lot and lucky that I get support from friends. I hope I can move on sooner than later. He was not worth it. What a waste of time . I guess he felt bad so he told me that he goes where the wind blows him to go. What a looser this guy is. I'm probably better off without him since he has lots of personal issues. He really needed to get his **** together. Edited August 3, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Added paragraphs ~6
Poutrew Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 I guess he felt bad so he told me that he goes where the wind blows him to go. What a looser this guy is. I'm probably better off without him since he has lots of personal issues. He really needed to get his **** together. Don't be so upset. Life just handed you a lesson, and I'd suggest learning something useful from it. If you still are agitated, just remember that a Fart is also a blowing wind... and where does that go? Exactly
juniorrocha Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 I'm sorry to say, but thinking about the guy's problems is not going to lead you anywhere. Instead, you should think of your problems and how you can make them better. The excuse he gave you was a common one, when one don't want to stay in a relationship anymore. But the moment he's out of it, newsflash: you DON'T have any right to argue with him about his choices. He's free. He could've find a new girlfriend in a minute after you guys were done. Sure that would make him someone very cold-hearted, but that has nothing to do with you anymore. Another issue I see is that you were thinking about getting pregnant of a guy you've met 4 months ago AND is long distance. Please, re-read this last sentence a few times. That's crazy. Not telling you how to live your life, but you should consider being independent (and your man too), with a stable life, before thinking about putting a child in the world. Be glad you didn't go ahead with that. I hope you'll get through this soon. Take care and see this situation as a lesson.
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