LadyZ Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 I don't know if you could call it a break up we were more FWB for almost five years. And today he tells me he doesn't want to argue anymore and he's tired of listening to me complain about him only being with me for my money. It has been a problem for a while and it doesn't help that he stopped making time for me. If he's tired of hearing me complain then shouldn't the solution be to stop asking for money? He also said he is going to continue with his life in finding a good woman and start a home because he doesn't want to do it alone. I may not be live close and I know we probably never would be able to be a real couple because we live in different countries but I have always been there even when he had girlfriends. for it to end in such an awkward way feels like a betrayal. I don't know how I am going to cope with this I can't talk to anyone about this seeing as none of my friends or family don't even know he exists. I need help, advice, criticism, anything to help 1
JewelD Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 so to clarify, is he with you for your money? I'm going to assume that's the case since you complain about it and he continues to ask you for money. What yall have going on is more than FWB, you're a sugar mama. And that's a crappy situation to be in unless you're incredibly wealthy and don't mind tricking off on men. You don't have to give a guy money to be your FWB, it's supposed to be free. In fact, it's probably an unwritten rule that you don't spend money on your FWB as you would for a gf/bf. Sounds like you want a relationship and a guy who messes around with you for 5 years, even while he has girlfriends, and does not try to start a real relationship with you isn't going to be what you want. Now that he is out of the picture, you can find a new FWB who doesn't ask you for money. You could find a sugar daddy who gives you money. You could be in a real relationship with a man who feels the same way about you. 1
Satu Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 I think I would let this relationship go in a dignified manner. No drama, no huge bouts of emotion, no blame, shame, and regret. It doesn't have to be traumatic. You can part on good terms. Let it go, so that something better can take its place. Take care.
Author LadyZ Posted August 3, 2016 Author Posted August 3, 2016 Thanks for the feed back. Yes it was brought to my attention early that I was just a sugar momma but I guess I try to find the good in people. I don'tknow if that's a strength or weakness. 1
Satu Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 snip Thanks for the feed back. Yes it was brought to my attention early that I was just a sugar momma but I guess *I try to find the good in people. I don'tknow if that's a strength or weakness. *I do the same, but I'm also very pragmatic and realistic, which is a necessary counterbalance. Now would be a good time for you to think about your needs. What they are, specifically, and how they can be met in a healthy way. Give some thought to Maslow's hierarchy of needs. Take care.
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