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Should I just let it go?


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So, there was this girl I met years ago when I was just a kid. She was visiting from out of town and we were at a New Year's party together. We spent the whole night outside talking to one another. At the end of the night she gave me her number, but I never made a point of texting her.

 

Fast forward seven years or so, and I meet her at a mutual friend's wedding. A friend mentions her offhand and I remember her. I introduce myself and we immediately hit it off again, talking for most of that night and the next. We both left town the day after that (her Talahassee, me Sarasota) and this time I would remember to text.

 

We texted quite a bit in the weeks that followed. Recently though, I feel I messed things up.

 

She mentioned offhand while texting that she would facetime me later so we could continue an absurd conversation we were having about waffles vs. pancakes (it's definitely pancakes right?) Anyways, she never face timed me, which doesn't really matter in hindsight, but I got stuck on the idea. I HAD to talk to her. I feel like I forced the issue a little bit. And then, here's the bad part, I apologized about forcing the issue. I feel like I just made things weird by taking it too seriously and came off a little needy. We chat on google hangouts, and I see she is still checking on our conversation a few times a day (she doesn't talk to anyone else on it) so I think she might still be interested. But I get the vibe she felt like I was pressuring her to videochat or something. Like it's some big next step.

 

I wouldn't normally talk about my own stuff on a forum like this (not knocking it, just not me!) but I genuinely like this girl and am unsure on how to proceed. She's awesome, but I am in college, so something serious definitely isn't a necessity. What should I do, internet? Give it a few days or weeks and send a text? Wait for her? Or just let it go altogether?

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Don't be an internet penpal it's a waste of time. Stop hiding behind a computer screen and ask her out, only IF you are interested in doing a short time LDR. Remember if you want to get involved with someone LD you need to consider relocating, getting a new job, etc. If that isn't in the cards for you then you need to quit it.

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^ I agree. Unless she initiates, suspend the internet or texting communication. Wait for a semi-special event, like one you'd want to have a date for, and call her on the phone, not text, and ask her to it. Good luck.

 

Remember with face-timing that women are not all made up and dressed nice and ready for it so you can't get mad if they avoid sometimes. She could have had a green mask on her face and her hair up in a shower cap for all you know. No new woman is going to just be ready to skype without advance notice.

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