OVO07 Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 So I'm interested in this guy on a dating site. By his profile he seems like my type. I added him to favourites this morning (it's afternoon now) and he then added me. I prefer the guy to contact first really, so I waited a while. But then a few hours later decided to msg him. He has his profile set to only upgraded members can msg him! I'm thinking it might be an accident cause he doesn't show up as an upgraded member himself. It's pretty easy to accidentally tick that box. So I'm not going to pay just to send one person a msg lol. But it's frustrating as I really want to talk to him! I guess my question is what might he have added me to his favourite but not msg? Obviously I would usually assume he's busy and will contact later, however he has been on the site since (I only know cause it shows time online, not stalking) have you ever done something like this on a dating site? I guess I feel like if he was that interested he'd msg? Tia!
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 (edited) Tia. You must be new to online dating. It is common practice to file away potential partners for a later time. He favorited you b/c he sees you as a potential, but he has others sitting in his favorites box as well. I am certain he has prioritized them and he is clearly contacting others as we speak. He hasn't contacted you yet b/c, sorry to say it, you don't quite match up to his more preferred favorites. It could be flattering to be "favorited," but it really is not that special. When he's exhausted his other favorites and he gets no response or moves on, he'll then likely contact you....he's creating his a la carte of potential dates to be visited at another time. Edited August 2, 2016 by simpleNfit 4
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 Another thing about OLD, you never focus your energy on one person. You need to keep your options open until you meet someone that has potential. 2
Author OVO07 Posted August 2, 2016 Author Posted August 2, 2016 Yeah I was worried about that being a last option or whatever. Would you not reply if he msgs? Have a time limit on when to reply? I know I don't know him from Adam and am only going off of a profile. The crappy thing is he's quite local, and any other guy I'm mildly interested in lives a lot further.
preraph Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 My advice is to just stop thinking about him and move on to others and if you hear from him, take it casually and don't assume anything. Like everyone else online, he's multidating when he can. 1
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 OLD is a crap shoot, you never know what you are going to get.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 Yeah I was worried about that being a last option or whatever. Would you not reply if he msgs? Have a time limit on when to reply? I know I don't know him from Adam and am only going off of a profile. The crappy thing is he's quite local, and any other guy I'm mildly interested in lives a lot further. You've already contacted him, right? Wait for him to respond back, but don't let it get to your head. If he was SERIOUSLY interested, he would have contacted you by now. Think about it....you favorited him, then he, you, but no email to say even "hi?" He's put you as a possible, but not top priority. Also, in regards to the upgraded membership stuff...it may be a mistake that he checked off only upgraded members, but it is commonly used by the ladies to discourage the hundreds of emails they get and to do some filtering. It also filters out potentials who are not interested in wasting their money on the upgrade. For some reason, especially the ladies, upgrading seems to give them the false idea that the quality of suitors will be better....NOT. 1
Author OVO07 Posted August 2, 2016 Author Posted August 2, 2016 Well the msg didn't get through cause of his filter. But yeah I added him, so he knows I'm interested. I'm obviously attracted to him, but I don't think he's the conventional gorgeous guy who would get tons of msgs. So it seems a bit odd if he did mean to filter out. Anyway not a lot I can do! It's a shame , but I'm sure I'll be over it by tomorrow haha
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