I'm Lost. I don't know what to do. Please help/share thoughts and opinions etc..

[mydogpeanut]

Hello all. I'm just looking for help/opinion/what ever. My live-in boyfriend and myself have been together for a little over a year now. Living together for almost a year now. He has two kids from a previous marriage. I love these kids so much. Think they are great. Ok that was the background. Now for my dilemma....

 

About 3 months ago he accused me of cheating on him which I didn't. He accused me of cheating on him with girls cause of something he found on my computer at home one night while I was out with my best friend. But I didn't do it. Then he accused me of sleeping with my best friend (also a girl) but that wasn't happening either (she's since moved to a different state so he's stopped with that). I'm just not into girls like that and have explained that too him. I was so hurt by this. I couldn't believe he was serious about any of. We after many days of fighting agreed to just drop it (once he realized I wasn't cheating) and move on. I figured I wasn't ready to throw the relationship away over that. Well then he goes through ALL of my stuff. Including an e-mail address that I still have but almost never use. He changed my password on me and everything. I still over looked it as I had nothing to hide. Well then today he calls me up while I'm at work and out of the blue tells me that he feels that I've been acting like his kids are a burden on me as of late???? I have NO idea where this came from. We are all going on a "family" trip in a week to Disney (which I planned and have been paying for). I've made sure the kids have enough clothes and what ever else for this trip. I have baby sat the kids numerous times when there mother needed it etc... So I'm just confused as to where this is coming from. And also when ever I go out with my friends (which is so infrequent) he gets mad and we always end up in fight. Now I simply can not live with this much drama in my life. I just am feeling lost right now. Any help/advice/thoughts anyone out there could give me would be greatly appreciated.

[Cwazydude]

Can anyone say Control freak? This guy needs to calm down. His problem is that he has a need for power, and a will to dominate you, and when you do something that YOU want to do he freaks out and his crazy mind comes with with wild stories.

 

You have been going out with him a year and whatnot, but this guy needs to change otherwise i suggest you kick his ass on out.

[outdated]

It seems to me like he's trying to catch you in something that doesn't exist as a precursor to leaving. Some people need to make their SO out to be the bad person in order to feel better about themselves when they leave. I'm not saying that this is the reason, it could just be a control issue, but it seems like strange behavior for someone who claims to be committed.

 

He may also be cheating himself. A lot of cheaters will try to shift the focus of their situation to keep you off the trail so to speak. Once again, not sure if this is the reason either, but maybe something you should look into.