Ash_cad Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 Hello Everyone So I dated my Ex for almost 4 years. We had an amazing relationship we were so close and we went throw alot together, Traveled the world had lots of good memories and our fair share of fights like normal couples. Jan 2016 we moved together to another country far away from home together and we were having great time everything was good. every couple of months she goes and visit her family for 10 days or so. Last Trip we had a small fight over her not letting me know about something and the fight escalated me saying some hurtful things to her and the fight went big and we did everything wrong that you can think of for 2 months of fights.. One day we talk about things the day after me saying sorry and begging ( never done that before with her) the next day love and things working out.. every mixed signals you can think of.. she later said she went on a date but they end up talking about me and she left crying. so many mixed signals that left me so confused. here is the bottom line where we at right now I do love her and want her back. She do love me and she says I just wanted to grow myself and love myself. She is not dating or looking to date at all for now. Everytime i start NC she starts messaging me with a different story to make me answer . One day she is sad because something happened. Another day she sends me explicit Pictures showing me how she lost lots of wight and she looks amazing now.. in the other hand I know she is being partying, Drinking, Smoking weed and talking to lots of guys and according to her they are all friends! I dont know what to believe or how to read those cards anymore so many confusion and having a hard time with NC. however she is starting the conversations all the time. and I have been trying to play it cool and answer later not right away but once we start talking i get emotional and feel she is just using me or keeping me on a Limbo. Many times i Corner her and she says its over, Im not moved on or over you and still love you but I dont see us getting back together and its over but she keeps talking to me sometimes just like old times sharing her daily moves, Pictures, flirts .. and sometimes just plain cold. here is my question... I want to start a real NC but should I let her know that I want cut ties or just Vanish on her and ignore her for a good month let her deal with her emotions ?... This time I want an NC for me to MOVE on or she comes back saying lets fix this and move forward .. no more breadcrumbs and heartaches What you guys think I should do ?
aloneinaz Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 Not to sound to harsh my man but you need to find your pride and self worth and stop letting this ex play you like a piano. If you're broken up, you owe her no explanation for going silent. People aren't stupid. When an ex stops responding, they get they want no further contact and want to move on. So, I'd put her on full ignore. BLOCK her number or change your phone number. Block her on all social media. Don't let her have any avenue to keep contacting you to stroke her ego. Vanish like a fart in the wind. NC works. It helped me heal and move on to find someone 10 times better than my last crazy ex. It's time for you to worry about what's best for you, not for an ex you were not compatible with.
Author Ash_cad Posted August 3, 2016 Author Posted August 3, 2016 Not to sound to harsh my man but you need to find your pride and self worth and stop letting this ex play you like a piano. If you're broken up, you owe her no explanation for going silent. People aren't stupid. When an ex stops responding, they get they want no further contact and want to move on. So, I'd put her on full ignore. BLOCK her number or change your phone number. Block her on all social media. Don't let her have any avenue to keep contacting you to stroke her ego. Vanish like a fart in the wind. NC works. It helped me heal and move on to find someone 10 times better than my last crazy ex. It's time for you to worry about what's best for you, not for an ex you were not compatible with. You are right its been 2 days so far and she didnt stop attacking me with Text messages here is an update.. ever since I went silent on her she sent Random Pics ( her cat, Her room Then a picture of her when she was 5) no clue what she is trying to do.. Didnt respond and Then I have a mutual friend with her on Instagram ( we are not connected on Ig) so she saw me made a comment on one of her pic.. not even something flirting just normal comment and she went crazy as follow - How cute (attached the pic) -cant control your self eh -make me look like a fool -should go meet up with her she is your Type -send me my books back this about to get dirty and I want to finally get rid of you. we said we are friends but you are making me look like a fool ( I dont even know how am I making her a fool! she is all over IG making likes and talking to guys "friends" and she goes out and party and god knows what happens") Then kept ignoring her and she started messaging my Whatsapp as she saw me I was online - Ignoring me lol -cool -go offline 15 minutes later - blocked me ? -oh you are still online -still ignoring me - Cool and she went to sleep after I guess Now do I responded or keep ignoring her ? I had the urge to tell her we are friends as you claim so don't worry about what I do.. You are doing lot worst than me leaving a comment! And I'm no longer interested in chit-chating with you! we are not friends Or just ignore her? its seems she is getting really mad about it lol again the idea here heal/ Move-on/ Maybe if she comes begging and want to fix this ill make her work for it So again its breadcrumbs but an Angry breadcrumbs and I have no clue how to respond to it Can someone share some Ideas Thanks
Blanco Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 Can someone share some Ideas Best idea is to re-read aloneinaz's post.
Author Ash_cad Posted August 3, 2016 Author Posted August 3, 2016 Best idea is to re-read aloneinaz's post. Doesn't Answer my Last Question! Angry breadcrumbs are new to me. and now she is also kind of stalking me I need translation to her actions
Elliejayde Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 It's annoying her that you're ignoring her. Your best bet is to block HER, then she can't see if you're online on what's app! Stop overanalysing her every move and concentrate on you
Author Ash_cad Posted August 3, 2016 Author Posted August 3, 2016 It's annoying her that you're ignoring her. Your best bet is to block HER, then she can't see if you're online on what's app! Stop overanalysing her every move and concentrate on you Nah I will let her crumble and stumble and dig herself in while just sit down and watch her break until she is back being sorry.. You have no idea what she put me throw in the last 2 months. And yes I need the ego boost for now as Im moving on.. No regrets
Blanco Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 Certainly sounds like the mature approach. Eye for an eye is a wonderful mentality to navigate through life with.
Author Ash_cad Posted August 3, 2016 Author Posted August 3, 2016 Certainly sounds like the mature approach. Eye for an eye is a wonderful mentality to navigate through life with. So Blocking her is not going to make it even harder? Everyone advice to use the NC .. what is NC is the art to break your partner to be sorry and come back asking to work things out! right ? and at the same time you are taking your time to heal and then make the call to take them back or not! not sure what Im doing wrong here
Blanco Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 NC isn't a game to get your ex back and I highly doubt you're actually doing much, if any, healing, since you seem to think that's the intended purpose. 1
RocketQueen Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 No contact is to stop yourself going mental wondering what she is doing or what her messages she sends you mean. You could go on forever wondering if her anger towards you means she hates you or that its to try and hide that she still has feelings for you. I have found the hard way that it very rarely means what YOU hope it means. Once she is blocked and has no way of contacting you, you have no need to worry what anything means. You don't sit wondering why they have or they haven't contacted you. At first it is totally gut wrenching but it does get better. And you feel stronger and more in control. I can't tell you how many past conversations have made more sense to me since going No Contact. Everything becomes clearer. Try it.You might be surprised. Good Luck. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 Nah I will let her crumble and stumble and dig herself in while just sit down and watch her break until she is back being sorry.. You have no idea what she put me throw in the last 2 months. And yes I need the ego boost for now as Im moving on.. No regrets That sounds petty and the odds of you being able to do that without cracking are very low. You've shown very little self-control to date -- you're going to fold like wet cardboard if you keep this up. Go No Contact and BLOCK. Actually heal instead of trying to make this a game. If she actually wants to reconcile with you, you blocking her won't stop her. But if her intent is to continue to mess with you/use you for moral support, you blocking her might actually get her to stop that. Either way, your current approach of half-ass No Contact isn't good. Sure, you aren't responding, but her messages are still getting through and they still have your brain in a loop, which is the same problem you've been having.
Redhead14 Posted August 3, 2016 Posted August 3, 2016 Hello Everyone So I dated my Ex for almost 4 years. We had an amazing relationship we were so close and we went throw alot together, Traveled the world had lots of good memories and our fair share of fights like normal couples. Jan 2016 we moved together to another country far away from home together and we were having great time everything was good. every couple of months she goes and visit her family for 10 days or so. Last Trip we had a small fight over her not letting me know about something and the fight escalated me saying some hurtful things to her and the fight went big and we did everything wrong that you can think of for 2 months of fights.. One day we talk about things the day after me saying sorry and begging ( never done that before with her) the next day love and things working out.. every mixed signals you can think of.. she later said she went on a date but they end up talking about me and she left crying. so many mixed signals that left me so confused. here is the bottom line where we at right now I do love her and want her back. She do love me and she says I just wanted to grow myself and love myself. She is not dating or looking to date at all for now. Everytime i start NC she starts messaging me with a different story to make me answer . One day she is sad because something happened. Another day she sends me explicit Pictures showing me how she lost lots of wight and she looks amazing now.. in the other hand I know she is being partying, Drinking, Smoking weed and talking to lots of guys and according to her they are all friends! I dont know what to believe or how to read those cards anymore so many confusion and having a hard time with NC. however she is starting the conversations all the time. and I have been trying to play it cool and answer later not right away but once we start talking i get emotional and feel she is just using me or keeping me on a Limbo. Many times i Corner her and she says its over, Im not moved on or over you and still love you but I dont see us getting back together and its over but she keeps talking to me sometimes just like old times sharing her daily moves, Pictures, flirts .. and sometimes just plain cold. here is my question... I want to start a real NC but should I let her know that I want cut ties or just Vanish on her and ignore her for a good month let her deal with her emotions ?... This time I want an NC for me to MOVE on or she comes back saying lets fix this and move forward .. no more breadcrumbs and heartaches What you guys think I should do ? ignore her for a good month let her deal with her emotions ?... What you guys think I should do ?... Block her immediately on every media venue possible FOREVER without notice . . . and if she finds a way to worm herself in, you don't respond in any way ever, even if she tells you she is dying. Breadcrumbs? -- Don't eat them, plain and simple. NO CONTACT MEANS NO CONTACT. It means you don't contact them and that you don't accept contact from them. Not no contact for a period of time hoping the person will change their minds. NO contact is for YOU in order to move on.
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