sarah999 Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 (edited) I've never really been with anyone before so I'm not quite sure what to do here. I've known him for over a year as friends and for the past couple of months, we've gotten really close and we are now together and crazy about each other. His bday is coming up, and I'm not 100% sure about birthday etiquette. Am I supposed to choose a restaurant or should I let him choose? I assume a fancy restaurant, and I should treat him? Normally we go dutch or we take turns treating each other to balance things out? What about cake, am I supposed to buy a whole cake for him or just have cake at the restaurant as dessert? And the gifts I bought roughly equals what he gave to me for my birthday. I'm just trying not to go way over the top in case it becomes weird. (We both make good pay so money is not an issue.) Any other tips are welcome! Edited August 2, 2016 by sarah999
smackie9 Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 What does he like? Some men love a home cooked meal, some men love a good steak. You could take him out for dinner and have cake at your flat with you serving wearing sexy lingerie.
scooby-philly Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Every guy is different. As Smackie said - some want a quiet meal at home, others want a bash. If it's a big one - 25, 30, etc then it may be up to his family/friends to plan if you're only going out for a short while. Otherwise, I'd ask friends of his you know/met what they think. Or a sibling or his mom. I think no matter what, a decent guy will enjoy whatever you do and if you start the day/event "if this isn't what you wanted, just enjoy and then we can talk about what you do want" - a la some guys are not that easy to read.
Dis Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Try to celebrate his birthday on the same level in which he celebrated yours. Dont out do him or his ego will be wounded What kind of guy is he??? If he likes to go out...def take him out for dinner and drinks....and yes you pay for everything If he likes to stay in...cook him one of his favorite meals. I like smackie's suggestion, get him a cake and sing happy birthday in lingerie. You could give him a bj too...I've never met a guy who didnt like bjs Try to come up with the male equivalent of how he celebrated your birthday Best of luck hun and have fun with it!
Bialy Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 What does he like to do on his free time? Everyone is different. I personally don't know anyone guy who would really want a fancy expensive dinner. Sometimes the simplest things are nice. If he's just a meat and potatoes type of guy, why not make a nice dinner at home? If he is into the outdoors, get him a gift along those lines. If he's into video games, get him something along those lines. Does he want to see a movie? Maybe take him to see Star Trek if that's his thing. It really depends.
SevenCity Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Try to celebrate his birthday on the same level in which he celebrated yours. Dont out do him or his ego will be wounded What kind of guy is he??? If he likes to go out...def take him out for dinner and drinks....and yes you pay for everything If he likes to stay in...cook him one of his favorite meals. I like smackie's suggestion, get him a cake and sing happy birthday in lingerie. You could give him a bj too...I've never met a guy who didnt like bjs Try to come up with the male equivalent of how he celebrated your birthday Best of luck hun and have fun with it! Don't give bjs because it's his birthday. Give them to him because you love him. Anything sexual outside of a threesome with another woman should be regular - not only for his birthday.
mortensorchid Posted August 4, 2016 Posted August 4, 2016 Ha ha ha ... I've wondered the same thing about how to celebrate a man's birthday - as in a man I'm seeing rather than one who's a friend. Here are a few codes about it: 1) Presents - Give him something simple like a sweater or a hoodie. It's easy to go over the top with this (ex. jewelry). Or something he really needs. Years ago I was with my 3rd serious bf and he said he needed a new bathrobe because his was falling apart. I got him one for his birthday. 2) Food - If he wants dinner in, eat in. If he wants it out, eat out. But make sure you know how to cook otherwise you'll be calling out for pizza. And a home baked cake is nicer than anything store bought. If you know how to make good cakes. But make sure he WANTS it. One year I baked a cake for someone and he did me the courtesy of blowing me off and I had a cake I baked for him and ended up eating it with my neighbors - he threw a tantrum about turning a year older. Talk about lame. Needless to say, we aren't together anymore. 3) Sex - Something fun that you've never done before. I did this for one of my bfs on his birthday last fall. Without getting too graphic, he was very happy.
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