Did I do the right thing ending it? I already miss him, was/is there any hope?

[S7182]

I'm 15 and my boyfriend and I were only dating for 2 weeks (I've known him for almost a year however) We got along so well, and he was perfect but I went on vacation, and the day I left he went to a party, posted a picture with some girl, then ignored me that night and the next day. This was so abnormal for him I was really concerned.

 

The next day I texted him asking if everything was ok and got nothing, i saw him on social media and knew he got the message, so I got really bad anxiety and texted him quite a few times, just trying to get him to talk to me, but I was still getting ignored

 

Finally the next day he told me something had happened at the party he didn't want me involved in, and he couldn't talk bc he had no data and was in Canada(the part about Canada was true, but he could've just told me what happened to begin with)

 

For a week after that everything went back to normal after that, but he seemed a little less crazy about me. We planned on hanging out the day I got back, & he cancelled saying his mom said no.

 

That night something happened & I was really upset & needed to talk to him. I kept telling him I wasn't ok & I needed maybe 10 mins to talk to him on the phone, but he was too busy playing xbox, finally he just told me to chill, and went to bed, wouldn't even listen to me. This was Friday. I couldn't get over what happened.

 

I tried to explain to him what was going on but he would just say there's nothing to be upset about. I kept trying to get him on the phone to talk but he still wouldn't call me. He told me "I'm calling someone else right now" both times I called him. I tried to forget it but it seemed like all the effort from him was gone, I tride to make plans to see him but he basically ignored me on that too. I tried talking to him about it, telling him things weren't the same anymore, & I was going to breakup with him. He didn't understand why it wasn't just ok & I kept trying to tell him it was bc he wasn't the same, I didn't see the effort anymore, & that things weren't good like they were in the beginning.

 

Instead of offering to change he just called me crazy & we've been fighting about it. I tried to drop the subject again & see if things would go back to how they were, but he still wasn't putting in effort anymore.

 

This morning I told him it was over, & he told me the last few days have shown I'm crazy and he was having deja vu of another girlfriend who was too needy & we fought but I finally said "I need to make sure I say this and you know we're really done" & he said "say what" & then I didn't respond so he said "Goodbye Sarah."

 

Was I right to dump him? I still have feelings for him but I didn't think I had a choice, I need someone who's going to treat me right. I don't know what to do, I miss him and already want to beg for him back, I want things to be how they were, but I don't know how I could or could've got him to change

Edited August 2, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[sugarpuss]

Do yourself a favor and promise you won't initiate contact with this dude. I know it hurts, I know you want him back, but it's already gotten pretty ugly so stay away. You will thank yourself later.

 

It'll be hard for a while but remember, you JUST broke up with this guy. Go out and do something fun that you like doing! You have A LOT of years to find someone!

 

P.S. I'd say you're definitely justified in dumping him, especially if you told him you need to talk and he's like sorry girl gotta play XBOX instead. He's a jerk.

[sooshi]

You did the right thing, Sarah. You deserve to be with someone who will treat you well, communicate with you respectfully, and who deeply cares for you.

[Mira222]

I'm so proud of you Sarah for being strong enough to end this. He sounds like a dickhead to me am sorry. Don't you ever get back with him !! You'll miss him every now and then but he doesn't deserve another chance at all, you deserve all the love and respect in the world, you deserve to be treated like a princess, so why settle down to someone who doesn't even care about you?

Know your worth dear, know your worth and act according to that. He's not the one for you. And trust me you'll get over him and someday your prince charming will come. Don't rush things you're still young.