Dente Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 (edited) About a month ago i ask this women out for drinks we work in the same building but i see her from time to time no we dont work together. She said sure the day of the date came and she cancel two hours before the date i was indifferent to her action and shrug it off. 3 days latee she gave me a hug and apologize for canceling and offer to reschedule. 2 weeks later i saw her and decided to give it another shot and she said sure again the day of the date I had to cancel because i got called by my boss that there was a huge emergency at work so 2 hours before the date i send her a long text and also apologize in person. She said no worries but with a cold answer and i thought she would want to chat a litte more but just kept walking. Probably ruined chances? I texted her that shes a gorgoues women and want to know her but our timing is off. I dont understand if this girl isnt interested then why agree just simply and nicely decline the offer. Edited August 1, 2016 by Dente 1
Satu Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 I don't know if ruined your chances, but she's not much interested in you.
Author Dente Posted August 1, 2016 Author Posted August 1, 2016 (edited) I don't know if ruined your chances, but she's not much interested in you. Just dont ask her out again and let it go? If she is interested she'll make it known? Edited August 1, 2016 by Dente
Zahara Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 I dont understand if this girl isnt interested then why agree just simply and nicely decline the offer. Some people have a hard time saying no. It's easier to say yes and then bail by canceling. Plus, you both work in the same building and probably felt that she had to accept -- didn't want things to be awkward. 1
Author Dente Posted August 1, 2016 Author Posted August 1, 2016 Some people have a hard time saying no. It's easier to say yes and then bail by canceling. Plus, you both work in the same building and probably felt that she had to accept -- didn't want things to be awkward. The building i work in is mid size i asked a couple girls out here in the building some said no kindly others said yes and had a great time. everyone is different. I think it could work out if you date someone in the building and dont make it akward or become needy.
Redhead14 Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 About a month ago i ask this women out for drinks we work in the same building but i see her from time to time no we dont work together. She said sure the day of the date came and she cancel two hours before the date i was indifferent to her action and shrug it off. 3 days latee she gave me a hug and apologize for canceling and offer to reschedule. 2 weeks later i saw her and decided to give it another shot and she said sure again the day of the date I had to cancel because i got called by my boss that there was a huge emergency at work so 2 hours before the date i send her a long text and also apologize in person. She said no worries but with a cold answer and i thought she would want to chat a litte more but just kept walking. Probably ruined chances? I texted her that shes a gorgoues women and want to know her but our timing is off. I dont understand if this girl isnt interested then why agree just simply and nicely decline the offer. She cancelled before the first date and then you cancel the next attempt? I'd say she thought you were passive-aggressively getting back at her for canceling on you . . . On top of that, you didn't ask her to reschedule for 2 weeks??? She offered to reschedule, you should have made those plans right then and there. She thinks your interest is low at best. 3
Zahara Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 The building i work in is mid size i asked a couple girls out here in the building some said no kindly others said yes and had a great time. everyone is different. I think it could work out if you date someone in the building and dont make it akward or become needy. Well, some people have different perspectives. I had the same thought as Red when I read your post -- funny how she canceled two hours before and then you canceled two hours before. Seemed like a tit for tat. So, in that long text, an apology in person and your text about how gorgeous she is -- anywhere in there an attempt or request to reschedule? A date/day/venue?
J21 Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 (edited) Take a stab and ask her out again. Worst case scenario she doesn't reply or says no--which is the exact same position you are in now with no date. At least you will get some sort of a closure. I think it was a mistake telling her she's gorgeous. I mean come on, you think she doesn't know that? You don't know her and she doesn't know you--She's probably thinking that you see her as eye candy and just wanted to get her in bed. Essentially, your reason of asking her out is "You're really hot, let's go on a date" and made that known to her. Edited August 1, 2016 by J21
Author Dente Posted August 1, 2016 Author Posted August 1, 2016 Well, some people have different perspectives. I had the same thought as Red when I read your post -- funny how she canceled two hours before and then you canceled two hours before. Seemed like a tit for tat. So, in that long text, an apology in person and your text about how gorgeous she is -- anywhere in there an attempt or request to reschedule? A date/day/venue? Yes i asked if we can reschedule for next thursday she said she couldnt because shes schedule to work late. I just told her to let me know when shes ever free because shes a gorgoues women and want to take the time to get to know her. But after that she didnt reply.
Author Dente Posted August 1, 2016 Author Posted August 1, 2016 Take a stab and ask her out again. Worst case scenario she doesn't reply or says no--which is the exact same position you are in now with no date. At least you will get some sort of a closure. I think it was a mistake telling her she's gorgeous. I mean come on, you think she doesn't know that? You don't know her and she doesn't know you--She's probably thinking that you see her as eye candy and just wanted to get her in bed. Essentially, your reason of asking her out is "You're really hot, let's go on a date" and made that known to her. Yes you're right it was a mistake telling her that. But i just wanted to ressaure her that it wasnt her that i cancel and im interested but it was due to my job.
Author Dente Posted August 1, 2016 Author Posted August 1, 2016 Im just going let it go and learn from the lession shes probably not interested and if she was she would be more enthusiastic to want to meet up.
Zahara Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 Yes i asked if we can reschedule for next thursday she said she couldnt because shes schedule to work late. I just told her to let me know when shes ever free because shes a gorgoues women and want to take the time to get to know her. But after that she didnt reply. Ok, then time to let it go. If she's interested, it's easy enough for her to reach out to you.
kendahke Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 About a month ago i ask this women out for drinks we work in the same building but i see her from time to time no we dont work together. She said sure the day of the date came and she cancel two hours before the date i was indifferent to her action and shrug it off. 3 days latee she gave me a hug and apologize for canceling and offer to reschedule. 2 weeks later i saw her and decided to give it another shot and she said sure again the day of the date I had to cancel because i got called by my boss that there was a huge emergency at work so 2 hours before the date i send her a long text and also apologize in person. She said no worries but with a cold answer and i thought she would want to chat a litte more but just kept walking. Probably ruined chances? I texted her that shes a gorgoues women and want to know her but our timing is off. I dont understand if this girl isnt interested then why agree just simply and nicely decline the offer. She was probably interested up until the moment you cancelled 2 hours before the second date. I agree with others that it looks like passive-aggressive punishment for her cancelling the first date. Also, telling her you want to know her because she's gorgeous is a bit off-putting. Her looks are the only reason you're motivated to ask her out?
Author Dente Posted August 1, 2016 Author Posted August 1, 2016 (edited) She was probably interested up until the moment you cancelled 2 hours before the second date. I agree with others that it looks like passive-aggressive punishment for her cancelling the first date. Also, telling her you want to know her because she's gorgeous is a bit off-putting. Her looks are the only reason you're motivated to ask her out? No not her looks she is a bueatiful women all women are i just have a high level of attraction and her personality is great overall shes a good women. But ya i probably made her lose interest but hey if shes interested she'll contact me if not its not but most likely i wont ask her again. Unless she brings it up but probably wont. Edited August 1, 2016 by Dente
ExpatInItaly Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 Yes i asked if we can reschedule for next thursday she said she couldnt because shes schedule to work late. I just told her to let me know when shes ever free because shes a gorgoues women and want to take the time to get to know her. But after that she didnt reply. OP, that's kind of a turn-off. I know you were trying to compliment her, but it sounds like you hardly know her. It comes across a little sleezy, for lack of a better word. 1
Author Dente Posted August 1, 2016 Author Posted August 1, 2016 OP, that's kind of a turn-off. I know you were trying to compliment her, but it sounds like you hardly know her. It comes across a little sleezy, for lack of a better word. Yes i agree with you it was kinda creepy and not confident to send that thru text. But you learn. Shes not interested ..but least i ask instead of wondering .. Letting this one be and i wont act that way for next time. Just been out of dating for a while lol
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