Thought I was over it now this

[sleepycat]

I have a massive crush on someone in my friendship group we have had a few dalliances in the past but not in a while (talking months) he always made it clear he wasn't interested in me that way which was upsetting but I accepted it, I deleted him from facebook to try and get over it but stupidly kept messaging-just friendly banter mostly. Then we had a major falling out he told me to fk off and blocked me, this was in May. I sent him a birthday card in June and saw him briefly a couple of weeks later when he said thanks for the card, but that was it. No other contact until yesterday when I get a message saying I have news me and (another person in same group) are seeing each other. I'm just so upset Im trying to fathom why he cut all contact (so surely would be thinking I'd be trying to get over it) then just bring it up like that and to make matters worse It is her birthday soon where loads of us are going out now I'm not sure whether to go or if by not going it will show I have an issue with it.

Edited August 1, 2016 by sleepycat

[bummer]

Don't go.

 

You have too much emotionally invested with this man and he said fairly bluntly awhile back to "leave him alone." I would respect that. Try NC for a few months to try to recenter your focus on you and build a healthy attraction for someone new who wishes to reciprocate.

 

Seriously, don't go. You don't need the negative stimulus of seeing him with her.

[Satu]

You need to get this guy out of your system.

 

You can make that a lot easier by implementing strict no contact.

 

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block him on everything.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect messages through third parties.

*Unfriend delete, and block him on social media.

*No monitoring of him on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people you don't want to know anything about what he's saying or doing.

 

Don't go to the event.

 

 

Take care.