Break,Break up,or Have Another Go

[adonios]

Now this whole expression on the internet thing is quite new to me i need someone else's opinion on this matter other then my dimwitted friends. here we go short and sweet.

my girl and i have been together 7 years. since we were 15 we are now 22 now ofcourse these 7 years have been the best i have ever lived we have been so many places so many things ect,ect,and i would not regret any of it

around mid last year sometime i cheated her since then things have been different but we have been slowly working things out the other night i tried to break up with her this did not work out well my conscious decision making was not there or i was doubting myself she said to me " are you just giving up and not trying " it clicked in my mind then and there maybe i was giving up but as i said im still unsure so we are on like a saughted out break or i dont even know what we are doing its been a week now she is waiting on my input heavly at ofcourse i love her like i mean this is wife material a + but there are thoughts popping into my head for the last few months about what its like to be with other woman what's it like to hit the clubs single , ect,ect im not to sure where im at. i still love her deeply but i want to get out there . have an input now this is an unfished post atm more will come after comments. but at this point we will let the comments roll

[elisalynn]

I think you are awfully young to be in such a long term relationship. You already cheated on her and are still daydreaming about being with other women and what single life would be like. I think you should break up, but that is pretty much my general opinion about young people settling into long relationships. There's nothing wrong with wanting to experience youth and dating; it can be fun and you will grow and mature (eventually, might take time) in ways you never would have otherwise. The freedom and independence that comes with not-being involved with a long-term partner at your age generally can only help your situation in life, if you look at it that way. It is important to learn some independence, have the freedom to make life decisions for yourself without having to compromise with another person, get new experiences, meet new people, etc. This is just how I feel when it comes to anyone your age. Life changes so quickly and who you are change so quickly in your early 20s; I generally don't think people should be too attached to the idea of finding a marriage partner until they know themselves a little bit better. Some of my best feelings in my early 20s were being independent and free of being obligated by anything or to anyone, even if that only lasted a brief while; it's exciting to have the world in front of you and to have no idea what you're doing.

Edited August 3, 2016 by elisalynn

[juniorrocha]

You're not sure about your relationship anymore and it's obvious here why: you're very young, you've been in a relationship for 7 years since you were 15, you want to explore. That's completely normal.

 

You're clearly not that invested in the relationship anymore, so I think you should talk to your girlfriend about it. I've heard of couples under similar circumstances that chose to break up and explore, then they got back together. Not a rule, and you shouldn't wait for each other, but it could happen if you love each other.

 

And, just to make clear, the single life is not that fantastic. I say it has its pros, but there are cons too. Still, you're young, I suppose it would be good for you to try it out. Better than regretting it.

[adonios]

thank you for the reply's you two i think ive just realised alot . thanks again.