I walked in on him....

[NewLeaf512]

OP

 

I am sorry you are in a terrible situation. Based on the information you have provided it seems unlikely you are in the EU.

 

You need specialist legal representation. If you have American citizenship, call the consulate and ask for their advice assistance as a matter of urgency. Please do not rely on information from the Internet or advice from anyone else who is not legally qualified in your country of residence.

 

My heart goes out to you.

[sandylee1]

I know what I'd do.

 

I'd tell this serial-cheating POS that your father's health has taken a turn for the worse and that you and the children need to go visit him the US as soon as possible. I'd get myself out of that third-world hell hole you moved yourself into just to please this worthless lying sack of crap and I'd do it with a smile on my face right up to the minute I got on the plane.

 

Then I'd get back here in the states and find out how to divorce his worthless ass PRONTO and get full custody of the kids.

 

That'd be a REAL cold day in hell I'd stay a freakin' prisoner in some country I wasn't even BORN in just to please some douche canoe who has the morals of an alley cat.

 

I'd be SO done with this guy. So done.

 

Lois,

 

I just love the directness of your posts sometimes.

 

OP - how can you possible wish to reconcile with a man like this? He's lied and cheated from the beginning and he's used you to bear his children.

 

I do hope you aren't in the middle east or any Arabic speaking country like Morocco or Libya, because women are second class citizens there and children 'belong to the man'.

 

The same applies with some other African and Asian countries. If that's the case, play dumb, keep him semi sweet and get your finances in order.

 

Copy all the evidence and keep it safely. No way should your eldest choose to stay with him, especially after what he said about her.

 

Make plans to return to your home country.

 

Your marriage is a big lie. Your husband has been leading a double life. What's the point in carrying on.