ThatMovieGuy Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 There's this girl I work with. We haven't slept with each other as the only times she has properly shown her interest is when she is drunk, and I have an aversion to picking up drunk girls. On several occasions she has said that she loved me however whenever we are alone together she says something like 'I'm tired' or some total mood killer. I would normally have made a move to go further but she asks other staff to wingman her, which is annoying as hell. I should probably mention we work at a hotel/bar together. Anyway I was on until 1 am and she finished at 10, however she stayed around with some other staff to have a drink. She came through at 12 and I could hear the staff in the other room cheering her on however the manager entered the room and nerves hit her I guess and she left without saying much. So I finish up and the staff and one of the hotel guests who is a regular were drinking together. We all had a drink and went up to his room, just chilled for a bit, 3am came and everyone decided to head off. She came up to me told me she loved me and kissed me, I asked if she wanted to come with me, but she declined. I came to work the next day and one of the staff who was sleeping next door told me that the regular and the girl had slept together. I feel like I've been cuckolded or become a side bitch/second best. I'm so pissed off that she would kiss me and tell me that, then sleep with another guy. The hell? What do guys think? What should I do, just move on? I want to know her reasoning behind that, because I feel that it is messed up..
Lois_Griffin Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 "Move on" from what? She's a tease who likes to screw with your head when she's drunk. There's nothing to "move on" from. 3
azlightsout Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 the only times she has properly shown her interest is when she is drunk, and I have an aversion to picking up drunk girls. Im not sure how old u are but My advise to u would be to NEVER date a drunk . I learned my lesson . I run from women who like alcohol. The headache just isn't worth it . Yes they are easy , yes they are fun , if thats all u want then cool - wham bam thank u maam. But as far as relationships go - avoid them . Plenty of sober / stable chicks running around .
winny Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Second best in what? Your value is in your hands. Never ever ask her again. Dont put yourself in a situation like this. Rise above it.
preraph Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Well, it doesn't sound as if you've ever stuck your neck out in the least and asked her on a proper date, so I don't know what you're mad about. Maybe she doesn't want to "just" sleep with you. Maybe she wants you to date her respectably because she does like you. Or maybe she is just a big drunk who tells a lot of guys she loves them to get laid when she's drunk. Some of her closest friends would know best about that.
ChickiePops Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 You weren't cuckolded, she's not your girlfriend. She's a flirt, that's all. Why not ask her on a proper date? If she says no, stop trying. 1
Omei Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 8I think she knows your interested but isn't herself. I used to have a friend with this behavior she just collected guys who fancy her and esp when she was drunk she would kiss them or say things they wanna hear and they would be on her line so she could ask for rides, money on her party nights and when they grew tired she wouldn't care she would just collect someone new some girls are just a teasing flirt.
CryForNoOne Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 Well, it doesn't sound as if you've ever stuck your neck out in the least and asked her on a proper date, so I don't know what you're mad about. Maybe she doesn't want to "just" sleep with you. Maybe she wants you to date her respectably because she does like you. Or maybe she is just a big drunk who tells a lot of guys she loves them to get laid when she's drunk. Some of her closest friends would know best about that. I seriously doubt that. She's just a tease. I've met plenty of women like this. If she liked him, she would have made a move when she was drunk. Guaranteed. Move on... 1
phineas Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 as was said, stop giving your attention to a tease.
thecrucible Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 I seriously doubt that. She's just a tease. I've met plenty of women like this. If she liked him, she would have made a move when she was drunk. Guaranteed. Move on... I agree. OP, you just need to see it for what it is and don't get so easily attached as you'll have to be wary of someone like that possibly taking advantage of your good nature. I know a girl like this in my social circles and she flirts with men every time she goes out but she is never very interested in them. You should flirt with some other girls - shows you're not beholden to her interest and you may come across a girl you like as much if not more than her. Sometimes good people don't draw the most attention to themselves. If she's around, don't always stay until the end. Go home when it's starting to go dead. If she has a big enough ego, she might think you're hanging on just in case you'll get somewhere with her.
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