Toodaloo Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 The only living thing allowed in with me when I poop is my dog. Even then its only because she will go into panic mode if she doesn't know where I am and she also keeps my feet warm while I am reading the paper... Emergency poop yes. But as a general rule. Somethings are better kept private... 1
Got it Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 No. Just a big no. I have not "used the bathroom" in front of anyone since I was a young child. I have been married twice and both marriages bathroom happens were kept separate and respectful. Ugh, gross.
Art_Critic Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 No. Just a big no. I agree... why.. I mean it's bodily waste ? I'll go the bathroom while my wife is in the bathroom but the toilet is in it's own room separate from the bathroom and she will do the same but no thanks on having the ability to watch her or vise versa.. that would be more of a taboo thing if you are into that, IMO... As far as being able to do it or fart in front of each other.. there is no reason in a relationship to be rude or disrespect the other unless it is just an accident and those do happen but we put up with those because they are not done on purpose or to be rude. You don't do that with others so why with your spouse.. I will leave room for the couples who have to share a bathroom and get up at the same time.. sometimes times and schedules would have to collide and someone would have to leave or turn their head...
Mr. Lucky Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 I will leave room for the couples who have to share a bathroom and get up at the same time.. sometimes times and schedules would have to collide and someone would have to leave or turn their head... If they can't schedule their life together in way that doesn't gross each other out, don't have a lot of hope for their marital future... Mr. Lucky
RecentChange Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 We have been living together for 15 years. Pooping in front of each other? Hell No! Those who say it's just waste. Yes. Smelly. Nasty, unhygienic waste. I don't brush my teeth while pooping, I wouldn't expect anyone to share the same air space and brush their teeth while pooping! I'll dash in and pee while he is in the shower (and vice versa) - but otherwise we so not share the bathroom while relieving ourselves. If I am brushing my teeth and he has to pee - I step out, find another sink in the house and declare the bathroom all his. I don't really want to smell pee when I am brushing my teeth either. 1
Shanex Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 No I don't do that. And need some privacy when using the bathroom whatever I am doing there. Though, on a different note I don't mind to take a shower together (not a bath).
jen1447 Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 You're all a bunch of poopaphobes and pee-aphobes.
Shanex Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 You're all a bunch of poopaphobes and pee-aphobes. Is that an attempt at derailing this thread to ''golden showers''? Nudge nudge, wink wink say no more.
jen1447 Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 Is that an attempt at derailing this thread to ''golden showers''? Nudge nudge, wink wink say no more. Well yeah there's that , but on topic, while I'm not exactly on the muscle about this I am a little surprised at the extent of the vehemence and revulsion here at the prospect of experiencing your partner's 'carbon footprint.'
SwordofFlame Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 Girls don't fart nor do they poop. I would like to keep believing that. Thanks.
thecrucible Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 Bodily functions don't bother me too much. I've worked with children in the past and had to help them on the toilet so I've learned not to be too easily grossed out. Saying that, I don't think I would poop or pee with my guy in the room cleaning his teeth or whatever. I'm not embarrassed by bodily functions but maintaining a bit of privacy and mystery doesn't do any harm. I also appreciate it if a man is more discreet with farts as I don't appreciate toilet humour. Saying that about mystery though, I've never lived with a guy but have heard tales from gfs dealing with things like washing scatty underpants. That would take a lot of mystery away too.
seren Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 We have been together for over 30 years and Neither of us have broken wind in front of each other never mind go to the toilet. We aren't prudes, it's just what we were taught were good manners, neither of us burps in front of the other either. 1
Art_Critic Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 You're all a bunch of poopaphobes and pee-aphobes. nah.... when you have a kid all the phobe gets driven out of you... Our family is a toilet humor type of family, right now as we speak there are a couple of fake poops floating around the house that get used for laughs on occasion.. My son was going to take one to school this morning... But having toilet humor and thinking it is funny or having your child poop in front of you doesn't cross into pooping in front of your spouse.. IMO...
Methodical Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 (edited) I've seen some compassion in this thread, like the post where the guy was sick and had an accident while sleeping. His gf handled the situation with dignity and grace. Kudos to her! But, the majority of ppl are staunchly offended at the thought of being exposed to their SO's poop in any shape, form, or fashion. A year or two ago, a friend and I were having a conversation about anal sex. I made the comment that if we were having anal sex and an unexpected event occurred, I'd jump up and run off, mortified. (I'll paraphrase her response bc I don't remember word for word.) Basically, she said no you wouldn't bc I wouldn't let you. We'd handle the situation, and then I'd really pound it out with you (sex, not poop, lol). She went on to say she would respect me more bc that would show I trusted her enough to drop my guard and set aside all vulnerability. At the time, she had no idea that I have Crohn's disease. I'm not in the habit of making grand announcements about my health, and without knowing the reason for my concern, her attitude and reassurance were almost breathtaking. Since then, we've discussed everything under the sun. I have no apprehension discussing anything from A to Z with her. Because of her attitude and reassurance (even w/o knowing the reason for my concern at the time), I gained a different attitude toward dealing with the disease. If someone can't handle the ups and downs that can creep up, they're not a person I want or need in my inner circle to begin with. A few weeks ago, I had plans with another gf. Low and behold, life reared its head and altered those plans. She wanted to know what was up, so I bit the bullet and told her. She's in the medical field, so I'm sure she would have eventually figured it out one way or another anyway. She was a champ and showed up on my doorstep about an hour later to keep me company and make sure I didn't need anything. While dealing with the temporary flare, she turned a crappy daily (no pun intended), into a not so bad day and we shared a few comical moments. Yes, in my case, there’s a medical issue at play that is beyond my control. Believe me; I would welcome never having to deal with gut issues ever again. This thread is a good example why. Let’s face it; most ppl would prefer not to be exposed to human biological functions, but that’s not always possible for some of us. Thank God some ppl are more relaxed and complacent when it comes to bathroom habits and aren’t easily offended. I'm not sure what the OP's article stated, but hubs and I have enjoyed a very active sex life, and as far as I can tell, my pooping habits never diminished his attraction toward me. Otherwise, we'd have divorced shortly after I gave birth to our son, which was when I developed the disease. Edited August 2, 2016 by Methodical 1
serial muse Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 I've seen some compassion in this thread, like the post where the guy was sick and had an accident while sleeping. His gf handled the situation with dignity and grace. Kudos to her! But, the majority of ppl are staunchly offended at the thought of being exposed to their SO's poop in any shape, form, or fashion. That's a bit harsh; I thought most people were just saying that they'd prefer privacy under normal circumstances, that's all - medical issues weren't the question. I, too, prefer privacy and have exactly zero interest in being nearby while my H is hanging out on the throne. But, you know, he was in a terrible accident a while back and when he finally came home from the hospital but was still bed-ridden I had no problem with being in charge of bed pans as long as it was necessary. Two different things. 3
GemmaUK Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 The poor guy who was ill is a different matter entirely! Both myself and my live in partner of 14 years had incidents when we were ill. I think though in all that time living together it was a rare thing we shared a bathroom doing different things - no pooping, peeing if absolutely necessary - maybe 3 times in 14 years (am guessing). It's not for me at all. Heck! Keep some things private without the other having it forced upon them!
Methodical Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 That's a bit harsh; I thought most people were just saying that they'd prefer privacy under normal circumstances, that's all - medical issues weren't the question. I, too, prefer privacy and have exactly zero interest in being nearby while my H is hanging out on the throne. But, you know, he was in a terrible accident a while back and when he finally came home from the hospital but was still bed-ridden I had no problem with being in charge of bed pans as long as it was necessary. Two different things. Yes, ppl posting in this thread have noted their tolerance and compassion toward temporary medical issues, but dealing with a disease with no known cure that can surface without warning is different. Especially if a person is repulsed by being near their SO while it's all happening . (For instance, hubs didn't sign on to deal with this, neither did I, but it didn't surface until after we had been married for a few years. It hasn't affected our attraction for one another at all. A side note: Some ppl say after watching their wife give birth, they lost interest; whereas others say they wouldn't have missed it for anything. Just goes to show how varied opinions and preferences are, imo.) We all know ppls preferences vary widely, and what is and isn't acceptable is subjective. My point is that there are some ppl who are more relaxed about the whole pooping concept w/o being privy to medical issues, and that doesn't make them a body waste pervert. I had more of a hangup dealing with this until gf #1 put it in perspective for me . I'm curious about the article. Do ppl find it repulsive or bonding? What was the sample size polled to gather a conclusion? Age range? Demographics? Etc. Since I don't have that information, I'm simply gauging ppls reaction to the initial question .
SpiralOut Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 If one of us is showering, the other might pee before hopping in. It's no big deal since we can't see or hear it anyway. But for a #2, I do that alone with the door closed. Same for him. That's a line I'm not going to cross.
thefooloftheyear Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 I've got 3 full bathrooms in my house.....No excuses!!.....:laugh: TFY
hotgurl Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 No I don't poo or pee in front of anyone, well except for the cats and they don't really give you a choice. 1
Mrin Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 Dealbreaker for me. Hell, even going #1 is a non-starter for me unless circumstances require it.
serial muse Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 Yes, ppl posting in this thread have noted their tolerance and compassion toward temporary medical issues, but dealing with a disease with no known cure that can surface without warning is different. Especially if a person is repulsed by being near their SO while it's all happening . (For instance, hubs didn't sign on to deal with this, neither did I, but it didn't surface until after we had been married for a few years. It hasn't affected our attraction for one another at all. A side note: Some ppl say after watching their wife give birth, they lost interest; whereas others say they wouldn't have missed it for anything. Just goes to show how varied opinions and preferences are, imo.) We all know ppls preferences vary widely, and what is and isn't acceptable is subjective. My point is that there are some ppl who are more relaxed about the whole pooping concept w/o being privy to medical issues, and that doesn't make them a body waste pervert. I had more of a hangup dealing with this until gf #1 put it in perspective for me . I'm curious about the article. Do ppl find it repulsive or bonding? What was the sample size polled to gather a conclusion? Age range? Demographics? Etc. Since I don't have that information, I'm simply gauging ppls reaction to the initial question . Well, but you previously said "the majority of ppl are staunchly offended at the thought of being exposed to their SO's poop in any shape, form, or fashion" - which is a far cry from admitting that peoples' preferences vary or that medical issues--whether temporary or lifelong--are a different kind of issue. I maintain that most people - perhaps not all, but most - would be fine with dealing with poop in either temporary or lifelong situations with a partner. Doesn't mean they'd be thrilled, but I don't see that as a necessary condition for love. They'd rise to the task, though. I certainly agree that anyone who doesn't, or who is grossed out by childbirth for that matter, is being a big baby. But then, I have changed thousands of diapers at this point plus vomit and whatnot so it's pretty hard to put me off. But it's a different thing to just ask someone to just hang out while you're taking a dump. I don't need my partner to be present at every little moment of my day, so why would I set an arbitrary limit on love along the lines of "sit right there honey while I do my business or else you don't love me". I dunno, it's a bit manipulative. 2
Methodical Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 (edited) Well, but you previously said "the majority of ppl are staunchly offended at the thought of being exposed to their SO's poop in any shape, form, or fashion" - which is a far cry from admitting that peoples' preferences vary or that medical issues--whether temporary or lifelong--are a different kind of issue. I maintain that most people - perhaps not all, but most - would be fine with dealing with poop in either temporary or lifelong situations with a partner. Doesn't mean they'd be thrilled, but I don't see that as a necessary condition for love. They'd rise to the task, though. I certainly agree that anyone who doesn't, or who is grossed out by childbirth for that matter, is being a big baby. But then, I have changed thousands of diapers at this point plus vomit and whatnot so it's pretty hard to put me off. But it's a different thing to just ask someone to just hang out while you're taking a dump. I don't need my partner to be present at every little moment of my day, so why would I set an arbitrary limit on love along the lines of "sit right there honey while I do my business or else you don't love me". I dunno, it's a bit manipulative. For whatever reason, it seems like you want to distort my post . I also went on to say that I had more of a hangup with the situation until gf #1 helped put it in perspective for me. At no point did I say I want or need someone to hang out while I'm doing my business or I else I wouldn't feel loved. What I did say was that sometimes things beyond my control happen, and acceptance and tolerance have helped me cope. I'd prefer to not have someone hanging out while I'm doubled over in pain praying to die. Thankfully, those bouts are few and far between. Edited August 2, 2016 by Methodical
serial muse Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 For whatever reason, it seems like you want to distort my post . I also went on to say that I had more of a hangup with the situation until gf #1 helped put it in perspective for me. At no point did I say I want or need someone to hang out while I'm doing my business or I else I wouldn't feel loved. What I did say was that sometimes things beyond my control happen, and acceptance and tolerance have helped me cope. I'd prefer to not have someone hanging out while I'm doubled over in pain praying to die. Thankfully, those bouts are few and far between. Uh, I don't think so. You said a thing I disagreed with, and I explained why, that's all. Dropping it now.
MidwestUSA Posted August 2, 2016 Posted August 2, 2016 No I don't poo or pee in front of anyone, well except for the cats and they don't really give you a choice. Oh so true. Can't even shut the door. I've had two cats and a dog with me sometimes. That said, H comes in to pee in front of me, doesn't bother me, unless I'm brushing teeth. He has IBS, and, thankfully, keeps the rest of it behind a closed door. If a cat is stuck in there with him, it might be considered animal abuse, I'm not sure.
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