LookAtThisPOst Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 I saw an article that talked about certain ways a relationship is doomed...there was a list, but I've seen this mentioned SEVERAL times in regards to using the bathroom in front of each other. Like the guy goes to do a #2 in front of the g/f brushing her teeth. 1. Is this really a turn off and/or dealerbreaker or ... 2. Is a good thing, because you're so comfortable around each other, this actually proves the credibility of the relationship. Thoughts?
Gloria25 Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 I saw an article that talked about certain ways a relationship is doomed...there was a list, but I've seen this mentioned SEVERAL times in regards to using the bathroom in front of each other. Like the guy goes to do a #2 in front of the g/f brushing her teeth. 1. Is this really a turn off and/or dealerbreaker or ... 2. Is a good thing, because you're so comfortable around each other, this actually proves the credibility of the relationship. Thoughts? Sadly, a lot of people will agree with #2 (no pun intended ). But, I'm sorry, while I believe that walking around all uptight isn't cool - at the same time, when you cross the line and there's no boundaries, it kills the romance. There's a saying "familiarity breeds contempt". And, I think when you act so laxed and just let it all hang out, you're gonna lose certain romance in your RL. Think of it. If pooping/peeing is a "normal bodily function and you should do it in front of others"...Ok, then at work put the bathrooms at your desk then. Squat and poop/pee on the subway, in the street, etc. Thing is, we have "social mores" - in other words, proper conduct around each other, and that doesn't stop just cuz that person is your gf/bf/SO. 7
SevenCity Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Sadly, a lot of people will agree with #2 (no pun intended ). But, I'm sorry, while I believe that walking around all uptight isn't cool - at the same time, when you cross the line and there's no boundaries, it kills the romance. There's a saying "familiarity breeds contempt". And, I think when you act so laxed and just let it all hang out, you're gonna lose certain romance in your RL. Think of it. If pooping/peeing is a "normal bodily function and you should do it in front of others"...Ok, then at work put the bathrooms at your desk then. Squat and poop/pee on the subway, in the street, etc. Thing is, we have "social mores" - in other words, proper conduct around each other, and that doesn't stop just cuz that person is your gf/bf/SO. I couldn't agree more with this post. I don't even think it's appropriate to talk about it "I'm gonna take a #2". By behaving this way it completely kills romance. I feel the same way when guys fart in front of their girls. If you're hanging out with the boys, sure, but in front of your SO I think this crosses the line and shows you've lost respect for them and no longer feel they are special by exposing them to the locker room antics you would expose to your friends. 1
lana-banana Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Some things need to be private, period, and bowel movements are one of those things. Lock the damn door. And I agree you should always try to be considerate of your partner. You can accept that farting and similar stuff will happen, but try to limit it as much as possible. Always be thoughtful. That said, my boyfriend occasionally pees while I'm showering and it's no big deal. I have a friend who was visiting his now-fiancee when he came down with norovirus, and ended up crapping his pants in his sleep (!!!). They discovered it when they woke up. Her reaction? To help him with the laundry and make sure he was well-hydrated with Gatorade. He says that was the moment he knew he would marry her---just because she was so calm and rational about something so mortifying. 5
Arieswoman Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 I am really amazed at this, because no-one with the sense they were born with would want to be within 100 yards of my H when he is having a cr@p 5
MrBump Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Peeing whilst your partner is brushing their teeth or in the bath is fine, but doing a no.2 should always be a solo venture. 5
SevenCity Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Some things need to be private, period, and bowel movements are one of those things. Lock the damn door. And I agree you should always try to be considerate of your partner. You can accept that farting and similar stuff will happen, but try to limit it as much as possible. Always be thoughtful. That said, my boyfriend occasionally pees while I'm showering and it's no big deal. I have a friend who was visiting his now-fiancee when he came down with norovirus, and ended up crapping his pants in his sleep (!!!). They discovered it when they woke up. Her reaction? To help him with the laundry and make sure he was well-hydrated with Gatorade. He says that was the moment he knew he would marry her---just because she was so calm and rational about something so mortifying. That's completly different. That's a medical issue and she handled it the way a partner should. I think the op was referring to your so walking in to take a dump while you're doing your makeup because "what's the big deal?" 3
azlightsout Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Sadly, a lot of people will agree with #2 (no pun intended ) lol ---------- my ex wife used to 'blow it up' all the time - she didn't care who was in there 1
jen1447 Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 This is one of those areas where there's a distinct double standard for me.
azlightsout Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 This is one of those areas where there's a distinct double standard for me. why is that ? are your bowel movements deadly or what ? lol 1
preraph Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 It's just so not sexy. I believe in being comfortable enough that in an unusual circumstance you can deal with bodily functions (like when your spouse is taking care of you when you're ill or elderly or wanting someone to accompany you when you're camping) but that boundaries and just simple politeness and consideration are very important if you want to keep any kind of attraction. That kind of stuff is very parent/child, and any counselor can tell you a parent/child relationship is an immediate buzzkill sexually. There are men who will say they have never looked at their woman the same after witnessing childbirth, can't get the image out of their head. I can understand that. Guess it just depends on the person, but I say when in doubt, lock them out. I had a bf who I first realized I had to break up with him when not only did he follow me from room to room but also to the restroom. Now, if I'd been brushing my teeth and he'd had an "emergency" No. 2 and come in, that's more understandable, but in which case I'd have taken myself to the kitchen sink to rinse. 2
Woggle Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 I am glad there two bathrooms in our house. I have heard her farting late at night though and it didn't make look at her any differently. Everybody farts. 4
Tayla Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Well my darling grand daughter who just turned three said one day, Mimi you can shut the door .i am a big girl now and I'll even wash my hands.So please leave. i was so proud of her! i'm sure she'll have no problems saying that to her mate. She is learning discretion in private manners . 4
The_Onceler Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 My ex actually said this about NOT pooping in front of each other: That is one of the main reasons we are breaking up - you are too uptight! Too uptight? Too uptight? It seems to me that there is a LOT of daylight between 'too uptight' and 'pooping together'! 3
preraph Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 Yeah, watching people poop is for nursemaids and mommies and after the age of about 6, that's even creepy. 1
Gloria25 Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 lol ---------- my ex wife used to 'blow it up' all the time - she didn't care who was in there Umm...and I wonder why she's an "ex"? 3
carhill Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 There was a time when I thought that such acts by exW were some harbinger of intimacy. Nah, it was more of me being a viewed as a roommate rather than a husband. No modesty. No tension. Just drop the kids off at the pool, wipe and flush. Nice
bubbaganoosh Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 There's a time and a place for everything. It's one thing if my wife or girlfriend (I'm single) has to pee or I have to pee and go while their doing their routine but if you have to have a BM then that's when the line is drawn and the door is shut. 1
Taramere Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 My ex actually said this about NOT pooping in front of each other: That is one of the main reasons we are breaking up - you are too uptight! I'd be like "oh I'm terribly sorry about that. I'll try to be less uptight in future. Next time we go out for a walk together, I'll take some poop bags with me so that you can just stop in your tracks for a number 2 the moment the urge grabs you - no matter where. If you maintain eye contact with me as you go, I can alert you to any predators or enemies in the vicinity while you're in a vulnerable position, Mr Happy-Crap." 2
todreaminblue Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 when i look to rent a house i look for my own bathroom...and i look for a house with a separate toilet....i dont think brushing your teeth while your partner does a poo...is necessary......for a happy healthy relationship.......its just nah...i would wait to brush my teeth......and still love the guy the same...i dont need to hear grunts or smell poo to be happy and in love.and my teeth can wait..and if it were the other way around...unless i was busting(i would probably throw him out of the bathroom...like a lob)..before i did one....because if he were to stay..the poo would be scared to come out...i dont poo in front of guys or people in general...and i havent had a guy do a poo with me in there....with a gas mask on either.......deb
JustGettingBy Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 I could see being comfortable with it on the off chance that an 'emergency' happens (when you gotta go, you gotta go) but I would never go out of my way to 'test' it. Also, it would depend on how well they know each other for some people as well.
mikeylo Posted July 31, 2016 Posted July 31, 2016 After being married for so long, everything goes and nothing bothers.It feels like home ! An old uncle told me in my young days, treat your woman the best you can when you are young and healthy, because when you are old, she is the one who would do everything that no one would ever do. 1
Els Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 Poop? Hell no. Close the damn door. We're a lot more lax about pee though. I mean, when you think about it, if you're in a public swimming pool chances are at least ONE person has peed in it while you were in... 1
MuddyFootprints Posted August 1, 2016 Posted August 1, 2016 The longer you are together, the less it matters. We had a conversation earlier today about the birth poop. Once you witness/experience that, I think you're pretty much ready to be exposed to anything. Giving birth was the death of mystery here.
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