NIGHT1985 Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 I've been seeing someone for a bit over a month now and I realize that we just don't have the chemistry I need from a relationship. She's really happy and enjoying it, but I feel like our chemistry and communication levels are weak, to the point where we are kinda boring around each other. It was probably a mistake to start dating so soon when I'm having extreme difficulties letting go of my ex, but my friends and family suggested it was the best way of getting over her. Maybe they're right, but I know this person isn't right for me and I feel bad for letting go on for so long, I just felt like it would get stronger as it went on. The thing is, I've never been in a position like this. Usually I know quickly whether I'm gonna work out with someone during the early days of dating, so to cut someone off after a month-2 of dating for it not feeling right, is just foreign to me. She's also a friend of a lot of friends of mine, so I don't want this to bite me in the ass. Any tips to let her down easily?
Redhead14 Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 I've been seeing someone for a bit over a month now and I realize that we just don't have the chemistry I need from a relationship. She's really happy and enjoying it, but I feel like our chemistry and communication levels are weak, to the point where we are kinda boring around each other. It was probably a mistake to start dating so soon when I'm having extreme difficulties letting go of my ex, but my friends and family suggested it was the best way of getting over her. Maybe they're right, but I know this person isn't right for me and I feel bad for letting go on for so long, I just felt like it would get stronger as it went on. The thing is, I've never been in a position like this. Usually I know quickly whether I'm gonna work out with someone during the early days of dating, so to cut someone off after a month-2 of dating for it not feeling right, is just foreign to me. She's also a friend of a lot of friends of mine, so I don't want this to bite me in the ass. Any tips to let her down easily? You aren't doing her any favors by stringing her along. Be honest. Let her manage her emotions. It is what it is.
Author NIGHT1985 Posted July 30, 2016 Author Posted July 30, 2016 You aren't doing her any favors by stringing her along. Be honest. Let her manage her emotions. It is what it is. Oh I know. At this early stage, does it matter if I do it on phone or in person?
LoganJ Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 I was in a very similar situation a little over a year ago. I let that carry on for about 2.5 months before I finally ended things. She said she was obviously upset, but that she was most upset that I didn't respect her enough to just tell her how I felt. I would recommend ending things as soon as possible. There isn't some roundabout way of telling her. Just be honest and she'll appreciate it much more than if you let things carry on. 1
Gloria25 Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 (edited) I was in a very similar situation a little over a year ago. I let that carry on for about 2.5 months before I finally ended things. She said she was obviously upset, but that she was most upset that I didn't respect her enough to just tell her how I felt. I would recommend ending things as soon as possible. There isn't some roundabout way of telling her. Just be honest and she'll appreciate it much more than if you let things carry on. Agreed... I wish my current guy would have been upfront about wanting out instead of what happened today. But really, I was reading your other threads and wonder why you're giving up on this current RL when it appears that the ex that you're dumping her for doesn't want anything to do with you; and, it appears that you have an unhealthy obsession for this ex? Edited July 30, 2016 by Gloria25
Giggles666 Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 There really is no easy way to break up with someone. Think about it, how could someone you like break up with you and let you down easy? I would agree with many here, just be honest you'll save face and energy. Is what it is. 1
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