mg101 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 If 3 months after being dumped and blocked, what would you make of this email? It's on my heart to share this. I just want you to know I'm letting go of the negatives between us, the hurt and disappointments, and focusing on the good I gave and received and the lessons learned. It's been a difficult internal process to get here, but I'm thankful for it. In my anger and hurt, at first I just prayed for myself, but then I started praying for you as well - I prayed that God protect you, give you peace, lighten any load you may be carrying, fill any emptiness with abundance, and make you the best version of yourself you can be. I did this first thing in the morning and every night for over a month. I've prayed more these months than I have in years and that itself is another reason I'm thankful. And by praying selflessly, everything started shifting - from my feelings, thoughts and habits down to tangible things in my life. It's a work in progress, but God is good. I'll never know what your true intentions were in the relationship and many upsetting conclusions surfaced at first, but it doesn't even matter now to me. I chose to believe you are a good person at the core. We're all flawed and can only try to learn and improve in life. Everything happens for a reason. We had our time and, however brief in the context of a lifetime, I believe it was significant and will shape us both for the better if we let it. I truly do wish nothing but the best for you.
BC1980 Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 The email is very much focused on him. How he feels, what he learned, how he plans to move forward. For the most part, he's trying to paint himself as a person who has faced adversity (the relationship and breakup) but has picked himself up and moved forward in a positive way. He has taken what life has given him (since everything happens for a reason he says) and made something good out of it. I don't think it's malicious or that well thought out, but I think his primary motivation is to paint himself in a positive light TO YOU. It might help him move on if he feels like he lets you know that he wishes you the best and he plans to make something good out of what happened. Did he do anything particularly bad? It kind of reads like something a person would write who might have guilt and wants to set things right one final time. Like he wants to end on a good note. 1
hakuna matata Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Personally I am not entirely sure how your ex was as a person and to what degree his commitment is with God, but to me it sounds like he still having trouble with everything that happened between you. His intention is to relieve his own guilt about the break up by trying to make it sound like it was the best decision for him and praying to God for back up support on his decision. I believe in God too and I trust that he has a beautiful plan for everyone but maybe your ex should have kept that conversation with him and God to himself...
juniorrocha Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Apparently he wanted closure. After 3 months, he realizes how important you and your relationship was (is?) and he is telling you that. That shows he's not over you, but he's in the process of moving on and healing from the hurt it caused. If you choose to reply, keep it light and simple. I suppose he just wants things to be okay between you two. No mention of getting back together or that he misses you or would like to see you. It really seems like just closure to me.
frigginlost Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 Sorry, but I'm a pretty much back or white thinker when it comes to stuff like that. It's a load of horse crap. He's offloading guilt. He could have saved a tired arm of his polishing the tower he is putting himself on by simply saying, "I'm sorry and please don't blame yourself". 2
Zahara Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 I'm with BC1980 but it also sounds to me like he's passively putting the blame on you or somehow trying to provoke some sort of response from you in terms of maybe taking accountability for what he may believe to be wrongs that were done to him during the relationship. 1
Simon Phoenix Posted July 23, 2016 Posted July 23, 2016 You said in your last thread that he enjoys drama. That's all this is. You need to stop allowing him access to you.
LD1990 Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 I'd say that he crammed as many stupid cliches as possible into one pointless letter about how great of a person he is. The best reply - silence. Second best - "right back at ya" or "ditto."
cookiecrumbles Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 It sounds like they are trying to clear their own conscious and feel better about themselves
sandylee1 Posted July 24, 2016 Posted July 24, 2016 I'd ignore it and block him. He can wonder if you ever received it. What a load of nonsense. You're still very much on his mind.
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