Author CiaoBellaaa Posted July 30, 2016 Author Posted July 30, 2016 I think it is entirely possible he is knocking himself out to take care of everything before he sees you. And he might be figuring all the texting isn't necessary since you will need something to talk about once goes to all the effort to see you! I wouldn't worry about the texting. Very good point, tying up loose ends... I've been a little sheltered so I have kind of forgotten what it's like to make a big trip. Such great reminders, thank you so much for your perspective. Exactly about the texting too...good advice, thank you!
joseb Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 OP, I get your appeal to the heart about any human contact being good, even it it's only virtual, but unless you are stationed in Antarctica or on a desert Island or something surely there must be people you can actually meet close by? 1
Author CiaoBellaaa Posted July 30, 2016 Author Posted July 30, 2016 OP, I get your appeal to the heart about any human contact being good, even it it's only virtual, but unless you are stationed in Antarctica or on a desert Island or something surely there must be people you can actually meet close by? Sure. Yeah. I guess there are people around i could meet. But the reality is that, without getting too personal, i kind of do live in an urban antarctica. So the question is do i really want to bother with the people in my vicinity? The answer is no. Make that a hearty hell no. Additionally i will not be here much longer so the distance really is shortlived and actually works for my situation right now. I have a very unique situation, cannot expound. Id rather be alone forever than settle for low quality, closer. And i understand the mystery element of not having met. Totally get that. But honestly i dont even care if hes overweight or hairy or is a mutant human with special powers. He might come off the plane and look like the the Hulk. I dont care. The beauty of this that works to my advantage is that i get to know whats in his heart vs his appearance, and although from what ive seen aesthetically, he is attractive, but his intangibles trump physical. And who is perfect anyway? I dont expect him to be Adonis, his heart really has won me over. It all boils down to...sometimes there is this one person who fits us like the missing puzzle piece. I would like to explore this and see what the universe has in store. The others just have no business in my puzzle.
Vado Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Making conclusions before you guys ever met? I mean, com'on. Texting is no substitute for dating.
Author CiaoBellaaa Posted July 30, 2016 Author Posted July 30, 2016 Making conclusions before you guys ever met? I mean, com'on. Texting is no substitute for dating. Conclusions dont speak to womens' anxieties and said conclusiions are not. They are nothing but feelings of fear of getting hurt. Probably in this case unjustified. Sadly past has taught me some lack finesse/integrity. But who hasnt been hurt... I am human (lowers my head in shame).
Vado Posted July 30, 2016 Posted July 30, 2016 Conclusions dont speak to womens' anxieties and said conclusiions are not. They are nothing but feelings of fear of getting hurt. Probably in this case unjustified. Sadly past has taught me some lack finesse/integrity. But who hasnt been hurt... I am human (lowers my head in shame). Are you saying that you first have to trust someone before you can meet him? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Before you can trust someone, you first have to meet him (a few times). Especially the first time, meet him in a public space, so you don't have to worry about, you know what I mean, right?
Author CiaoBellaaa Posted July 30, 2016 Author Posted July 30, 2016 Are you saying that you first have to trust someone before you can meet him? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Before you can trust someone, you first have to meet him (a few times). Especially the first time, meet him in a public space, so you don't have to worry about, you know what I mean, right? I am not saying that i dont trust him - on the contrary I absolutely trust him. This has nothing to do with trust. If i couldnt trust him then i would not have allowed him in my life. I think this has more to do with getting a handle on my own anxiety and just learning how to navigate the ins/outs of such connections. Also i realize that with relationships there is always a risk. Im okay with that because the ROI is greater than the risk involved. I was merely acknowledging i am not perfect. Sometimes people struggle with anxiety and it has nothing to do with any one person nor is it projected on them. This is my own lion to tame.
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