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I have a strong attachment style. I know what the right thing to do is in theory but i continue to repeat the same mistake. These girls come on strong and I let my guard down to quickly and then i get burned.

 

*Dated this girl for 2.5 months. She d Chatted on the phone daily, always texted and asked for reassurance. Hung out 2-3 days a week. Decorated my condo and even bought a rug for my place. Setup a pinterest account together, went away for the weekend at the cottage. Asked for us to be exclusive after 5 weeks. She was extremely attractive jealous, anxiety, needy, high maintenance but she new she was gorgeous. She would pretend to be exclusive but when she was out with her friends she was single. I discovered after the fact.*

All of a sudden she went cold and distant and never gave me an answer. She tried to string me along for two weekd after she went distant. As much as I know she was wrong for me I'm having difficulty moving on? At a point i was getting fed up with her antics and incould hwbe very well ended it but i didnt. I shoukd have. Why don't i have the power like some not to get attached so quickly and move on? She easily switched off and moved on. We spoke a week after because i needed to retrieve my watch and she never told me why she just turned it on me, pretended to be upset with me . I still don't know why.

I made myself too available....I was just going with the flow and if someone shows a genuine interest i give them my time.

 

IM looking for advise to control this attachment and the ability to easily move forward. Amy help would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

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She got over you easily probably because she found someone better.

It's hard for you to get over her because you lost something.

 

In an example of why you can't get over her --

 

She : Got a slice of cake instead of a biscuit.

 

You : Lost the biscuit

 

Metaphorically speaking.

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It's normal to get attached to someone if we spend a lot of time with them that's why most relationships that start fast and furious also end fast and furious. It's better that when you meet someone you keep both your feet on the ground and go through the dating process step by step. You start with a couple of dates a week, you get to know the person and see their character, then you move to 3 dates a week, a weekend here and there etc.

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