Tonight's internet date

[SevenCity]

Please don't do coffee, lunch or anything like that. If you want to keep it shorter, then meet up for a drink in the evening. Coffee is too casual and it automatically starts things off going in the friend zone direction, whereas, a drink is more intimate and something you do with a romantic partner.

 

Good advice!

[CryForNoOne]

I don't want to make if sound like I have a bunch of rules really. I do play it by ear.

But unless it was a kind of "thanks, can't wait to do it again" rather than a lukewarm kinda thanks, I wouldn't really count it. I'm looking for someone who.is interested. Im not going to chase low interest girls.

 

So for $h!ts and giggles I just went back and looked at my most recent first dates that I paid for dinner. Both thanked me at the time I paid the bill and bought the round of drinks when we went for a nightcap afterwards. They didn't thank me by text afterwards. Should I have never texted them again???

[SevenCity]

So for $h!ts and giggles I just went back and looked at my most recent first dates that I paid for dinner. Both thanked me at the time I paid the bill and bought the round of drinks when we went for a nightcap afterwards. They didn't thank me by text afterwards. Should I have never texted them again???

 

No, try to get returns on your investment. But think before you get serious, and if you do, post back in a year and tell us how caring or selfish they were.

[Toodaloo]

I agree, joseb. If you paid for dinner she owes you a thank you regardless. Any woman who sits silent in such a situation is sort of ghosting herself.

 

The best thing is to simply keep the conversation going if you're interested, and don't worry about gender crap. So antiquated.

 

What if she paid for dinner...

 

Basic manners cut both ways...

[Shining One]

Please don't do coffee, lunch or anything like that. If you want to keep it shorter, then meet up for a drink in the evening. Coffee is too casual and it automatically starts things off going in the friend zone direction, whereas, a drink is more intimate and something you do with a romantic partner.

I agree with leogirl too. I think drinks is a perfect first date...esp for online dating.

Exactly! Coffee meets are for serial daters who are meeting 100 women a week and finding something wrong with all of them because the unicorn they are looking for doesn't exist.

 

A guy who takes you out for a drink is putting time into getting to know you. Plus a coffee date is the most unromantic setting ever, total friend-zone.

I'm guessing none of you have ever had a guy consume $50+ worth of alcohol at your expense on a first date and tell you he's not interested afterwards. Go through that a bunch of times and you'll probably reconsider the "meet for drinks" first date.

What if she paid for dinner...

 

Basic manners cut both ways...

This goes without saying. The person on the receiving side of the generosity should reach out and thank the person on the giving side. I can count the number of first dates women have paid for on one hand, but I reached out and thanked each one of them.

[Robert]

Since half of this thread is unrelated to the thread starter's situation, we'll close it up for now. If they would like it reopened to add an update, they can request that via the 'Alert Us' button on this post.

 

Thanks,

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