is my co-worker attracted to me too?

[iamsweetasalways]

I know this a topic that I am sure has been asked a lot so I apologize in advance. I have worked with my male co-worker for 5 years now. and out of those 5 I would say I have been attracted to him for 4 of them. I am a very shy person who has never went after what she wanted thats something i wish i could change but alas the fact is thats just how i am. Out of these 5 years that we worked together i was the receptionist for 4 of them and during that time we would Flirt (or atleast what i think was flirting) but now i am not so sure, because i have changed positions in my job and we dont have as much of a chance to interact like we did..

 

he would tell me that my hair color looked good on me, or that he liked my sandals.. or just say things to bring me into a conversation that he was having with someone else..he still does this but not as often. and one day on the phone after he had called me he said "and is there anything i can help you with" and it wasnt what he said it was how he said it, even my female coworker that knows how i feel about him said she has caught him checking me out.. and i have caught him a couple of times looking at my chest..I know he is shy to a point.. but while hes talking to me he always smiles at me. I feel really silly asking this but I am not sure how to take him. we are in separate buildings so i dont see him everyday and i think thats why our interactions have slacked off. and i dont really think i have given him any indication that i am interested in him.. the fact is i feel like a blubbering fool when he is around...

 

What is your take on him? I am 32 and hes 41

Edited July 28, 2016 by iamsweetasalways
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[preraph]

He doesn't sound shy to me. He's 41, a grown man. If he wanted to ask you out and felt comfortable doing that to a subordinate at work, he would have done it by now. All guys look at chests, whether they're interested or not, by the way. Guys do a lot of looking.

[dpass]

He doesn't sound shy to me. A shy man wouldn't even engage in conversation or send out random compliments like that.

 

If he was interested, he would have done something about it by now. He could be attracted to you, but he may be a smart man and not want to date within the work place. Never date someone you work with, even if you don't see them daily. If it ends, it won't end well.

[GunslingerRoland]

Yeah, he sounds attracted to you. It also sounds like he made a conscious decision a long time ago to not push it too far since you are coworkers... seems like a smart decision after all.

[preraph]

From one woman who's been through the misery, there's a billion guys out there. Choose one you don't work with. Or at least wait until one of you leaves the industry.