SevenCity Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 Op - champagne problems huh? I hate to say this but you really sound like a woman. Boo hoo - a hot girl was excited and texts me too much. And to carry the woman thing whats up with the subtle hints? Why not "ha ha - great. I've got to get back to work so I'll see you Saturday!" She very well may be an attention whore but she's also hot and you should bang her as a result.
Author CryForNoOne Posted July 28, 2016 Author Posted July 28, 2016 Ladies, you mean to tell me if a guy texts you a 100 times continuously throughout the day and you barely respond, -- The mature, saavy women on this boards have responded to threads regarding this scenario and have told those women to run for the hills This is over the top, especially for a 44 year old woman. I thought I was reading about a 20 something . . . and even then it's a bit immature and too much innuendo for where you are in the dating scenario. Usually, when guys come on this hard and fast, they burn out just as fast. Women who do this are attention-seekers and/or desperate. Exactly. She's in her 40's and said she was a bikini model, won hot legs contests etc... She clearly works out all the time and still looks great, but she's not young anymore. It's like because I wasn't wrapped around her finger, she just started getting neurotic about getting my attention. I found it extremely unattractive. I've got plenty of options right now as far as women go. Admittedly none as as gorgeous as she is, but it's not the only thing that matters to me...
deadparrot Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 Wait, you sent a sexually-suggestive text first, then when she does the same you get turned off? Why the double standard? I understand where the constant texting gets irritating, but my guess is she got worried by your lack of silence and overcompensated.
BikerAccnt Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 Really? Am I way off base here? I haven't cancelled yet. "OMG I'm such a character!!! You see my new profile pic?" Who says that??? We're not 19. I'm 44 and she's about my age... Some people are characters! The woman I started dating just 3 weeks ago texts me all types of weird ****. (she's 48 and I'm 55) Most of it hilariously funny in a stupid way. She may just really be into you. Or, nervous about the date. You may not be off base, but you don't really know here yet. Don't base first impressions off of a texting style. I don't sense needy, just a goofy sense of humor and taking you up on your word to text anytime.
BikerAccnt Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 It's actually been almost 100 texts. Those were just the start of each convo. I don't know. I have a job and can't text like a teenager all day and all night on a Wednesday... Oh, I just saw this.. 100 texts? In one day? YEah, tha'ts too much, when I said I got texted silly ****, I meant maybe at most 2 or 3 times a day. 100 is a bit much.. that would be off putting.
winny Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 To each its own. If I am enjoying a conversation with someone.. I dont really care how many texts who sent. I have told entire stories over texts to guys n gals and they respond back accordingly. I am a chatterbox in real life and my texts are same way. My friends who know me for years expect lot of stories from me whether we are talking face to face or over text. But yes... I wouldnt text someone who is not responsive... thats boring... and I would immediately take the hint and most probably would never text with them or meet them even... I dont like people who dont have funny interesting stuff to talk about.... on text or in person.... also I am very fond of instant messengers. When I am getting to know someone new... it is essential for them to like me for who I am in real... I cannot put on a act and try to be someone different... I would be myself.... which includes long text conversations... if a guy or new friend doesnt like it... then we are just not going to get along.... but then I guess most people in my generation love texting so I do always have lots of people to chat with and text with.
Author CryForNoOne Posted July 28, 2016 Author Posted July 28, 2016 Wait, you sent a sexually-suggestive text first, then when she does the same you get turned off? Why the double standard? I understand where the constant texting gets irritating, but my guess is she got worried by your lack of silence and overcompensated. SHE initiated the sexually-suggestive texting not me and it turned me on. It DIDN'T turn me off. The needy and attention seeking texts the next 12 hours did...
winny Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 It's actually been almost 100 texts. Those were just the start of each convo. I don't know. I have a job and can't text like a teenager all day and all night on a Wednesday... I read the original post again and it doesn't look like you responded to her messages or responded briefly.... I am not sure but I am confused how it were 100 text messages from her..... Can you please post some other text messages apart from what you have posted here... sent by her... which sounded needy to you?
sunshine2 Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 If you told her to "massage" you anytime she took that as its okay to text you anytime. I say still go out with her and see how it goes, Im not sure this is an indication of neediness. The thing that turned me off is the sexual innuendo's so soon in the conversation. But hey, if that turns you on, whats the problem? And I agree 100 text must be combined with your replies. Just tell her "I need to get back to work, see you tomorrow" and leave it at that. Don't reply to her if she keeps texting. She will get the hint.
biker23 Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 100 texts. Means you responded. Just nicely say you are busy and will be away from your phone. Talk tomorrow. This seems way overblown 2
Author CryForNoOne Posted July 29, 2016 Author Posted July 29, 2016 So call it off and don't go out with her then. I'll bet you a hundred bucks you'll still go out with her. OK I owe you one hundred bucks. It's a free reggae concert at the beach. I'd go anyway, and too late to get another date. If you had really bet me $100 I'd have taken the cash instead tho 1
Popsicle Posted July 29, 2016 Posted July 29, 2016 OK I owe you one hundred bucks. It's a free reggae concert at the beach. I'd go anyway, and too late to get another date. If you had really bet me $100 I'd have taken the cash instead tho I was for real, now pay up! (PS-I'm from LA) 2
Lois_Griffin Posted July 29, 2016 Posted July 29, 2016 I met a drop dead gorgeous lady on Saturday and very subtly Facebook friended her in front of her date. . So you're saying she was on a date with someone ELSE and you two lowered yourselves to this sleazy activity? You got what you deserved. Decent women don't disrespect the person they're with. And if you DO take this hot mess out somewhere, don't be surprised when she's handing her number out like candy to every guy on the way to the ladies room. smh. 1
Lois_Griffin Posted July 29, 2016 Posted July 29, 2016 That's not what happened. I'm a lead singer in a rock band and they approached me after a show. It was a friendly meet and greet but I picked up on subtle eye contact and body language from her and we innocently friended each other Facebook so she could follow the band. No, that's exactly what happened. LOL...'innocently.' 1
Author CryForNoOne Posted July 29, 2016 Author Posted July 29, 2016 how was the date? I had a good time but I don't think I'm interested. She has a great sense of humor and is a fun person. Very insecure though as she asked me what I thought about her outfit and a few other tells. But she had positive energy and wasn't conceited at all. Just too much of a space cadet for my tastes. She reads a lot and is really into conspiracy theories, the Illuminati, astrology etc... I just find all that stuff to be ridiculous. She was definitely into me, and was waiting for me to make a move, but I wasn't feeling it. She asked for a hug at the end of the evening and I obliged but was relieved when it was all over. There's nothing worse than that feeling of someone waiting for you to make a move and you intentionally holding back. I could have gone just for the sex, but I've already got a FWB.
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