livinglife2019 Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 I met this guy online, we chatted for a while got on well and he asked me out on a date. The date isn't until Friday. Now here is the twist, he texted me earlier to say he had some news. He informed me that he bumped into his ex who he still has feelings for and they decided to give it another go! I was a little annoyed but sure that's life, I have never met him so I was fine about it. He texted apologizing and I explained it was fine that he should forget about it and me. He then texted me back explaining that he wanted to be friends because he thought I was interesting and nice, and that he still wants to meet on Friday for dinner and drinks, his treat because he was feeling guilty. I'm not upset, annoyed or angry. I haven't met him yet, there are no feelings involved. I am a little confused on what to do and would love some advice before I confirm 100% that I'm going to go. Thanks. 1
kolleamm Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 What would be the point of going? What makes him a friend? A friend I like to define as someone whom I have a common interest with in things such as hobbies. He will likely use you for sex. 3
JewelD Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 Block him. There is no reason for you to go on a 'friend' date with a man you don't know who has decided to work it out with his ex. That's a waste of your time and nothing good will come of it. 5
Larryville Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 He didn’t “bump into” anyone only "politely" telling you is not interested, but instead of just saying that had to make up some BS. 2
Author livinglife2019 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Posted July 27, 2016 He didn’t “bump into” anyone only "politely" telling you is not interested, but instead of just saying that had to make up some BS. Larryville That was the first thing that popped into my head! What I cant figure our is why he still wants to meet me. Do you think he wants to meet to see what I am like? I kinda do and do not want to go. I kinda want to go because I want him to see what he is missing out on, which I know is a pretty stupid thing to do! 1
Omei Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 It will fizzle out even if you are friends his gf will not let a new female friend to come into the picture at this point. He would just be keeping you as a fall back girl trust me if they break up again he'd be asking you on a date asap, just slowly slip out of his life he made his choice. Unless you want a free dinner first lol 1
JewelD Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 Sex. That's why he wants to meet. He's obviously already ruled you out as a potential gf. Don't go. I can't imagine he will think he's missing out on much with a woman who goes out on a date with a man who said he's getting back with his ex. Regardless of how you look/act on the date, your presence alone screams "I'm desperate and have nothing better to do. I understand your expectations and I am prepared be used". 5
smackie9 Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 If he's giving his ex a go, and wanting to take you out on a date, what does that say? That says back up girl....just in case. Block/Delete. 3
gorf Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 his ex who he still has feelings for I have never met him so I was fine about it texted me back explaining that he wanted to be friends because he thought I was interesting and nice, and that he still wants to meet on Friday for dinner and drinks I am a little confused on what to do Thanks. What do you need to know? You already know what's going on right? Its the same old story: guy breaks with ex, still has feelings for her, they have feelings for each-other, you are monkey in the middle, you are the backup plan. Its a date, clearly. Met on pof, he set it up on a particular day in advance dinner and drinks. Its not a friends thing by any means, you know that. He doesn't want to be friends. Do you really want to be his orbiter backup plan AND get involved with him and his so-called ex? On a side note, I agree with JewelD last post 1
Redhead14 Posted July 28, 2016 Posted July 28, 2016 I met this guy online, we chatted for a while got on well and he asked me out on a date. The date isn't until Friday. Now here is the twist, he texted me earlier to say he had some news. He informed me that he bumped into his ex who he still has feelings for and they decided to give it another go! I was a little annoyed but sure that's life, I have never met him so I was fine about it. He texted apologizing and I explained it was fine that he should forget about it and me. He then texted me back explaining that he wanted to be friends because he thought I was interesting and nice, and that he still wants to meet on Friday for dinner and drinks, his treat because he was feeling guilty. I'm not upset, annoyed or angry. I haven't met him yet, there are no feelings involved. I am a little confused on what to do and would love some advice before I confirm 100% that I'm going to go. Thanks. explaining that he wanted to be friends -- He wants you to be in the "wings" in case being with ex really doesn't work out . . . back burner . . . place holder, fall back. 1
mortensorchid Posted July 29, 2016 Posted July 29, 2016 Don't bother with this guy. Move on and don't meet him, he'll let you down even if you are "friends". Because even if you do meet him on Friday that's the last you will ever see / hear from him.
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