I promise I wasn't snooping! Potential cheating?

[JewelD]

So are you telling me to break up with him?

 

See, the pictures are her evidence. Whereas with me, I have no evidence. 10 women he searches on Facebook, thats questionable... But I have not seen him have any messages with them. (I checked after lol I know) His phone he does not even use. It's collecting dust lol. We are always together unless we work.

 

In her situation, she has her proof! I don't have any. I thought this facebook thing is proof, but it's not valid. According to bachdude, it could be curiosity. Thats what I mean by that. I didn't see any friend requests on these women or messages or anything else. Just that.

 

In my defense, I don't want to assume he is downright cheating because of these searches. There are two sides to a story, & like what bachdude said, it could be sheer curiosity. Although I don't agree that he has to search 10 other girls lol! But it doesn't seem valid enough to leave him. That's absurd. He has never gave me the inclination that he is cheating on me until recently, but I could be wrongly accusing him.

 

He doesn't abuse me, & the only thing that is an issue is this. All relationships have their problems right? I feel like it would be absurd to deem it without having all the information. I have accused him of something else one time (not anything pertaining to cheating) because of my gut feeling, only to be wrong. That's why I'm being open. If I saw a nude pics though, OOOH that's a different story. There's no room for him to justify, nooope.

 

You're doing mental gymnastics to convince yourself of this. Something is obviously wrong if you're cleaning the house to make sure he's satisfied and he snaps when you bring things up to him.

 

Maybe he's not cheating, but you're having gut feelings for a reason. He's obviously not making you feel secure in this relationship.

 

Maybe you're still holding onto his past. Or maybe he really is cheating and you don't want to believe it. Trust, if a man wants to cheat, he will find a way. Yall are not attached at the hip, it's very possible.

 

All relationships have their problems, but relationships with these kind of problems usually don't end well. I know, I was in one. I didn't get "solid" proof until 3 years in. and by that time, he admitted that all of the times I thought he was doing bs, he really WAS! That's why I feel it doesn't matter what proof you come across, if you're with someone who makes you feel like you can't trust them, get out. You're the one in charge of how much you decide to put up with.

[bachdude]

Like what you've said, I think it's my own insecurities about his past, honestly. It just doesn't help due to the current situations that make me question his loyalty. I'm sure if I were to date someone else with a different past, I wouldn't draw this conclusion right now. I have only been with one other guy & one sexual partner, so I guess I'm a little bit insecure with his past...

 

In regards to you checking up on your ex GF, it had nothing to deal with you wanting to get back with them right? I guess my concern is that he has searched 10 other beautiful women. No men just strictly women. It makes me think he misses those one night stands days, you know? I have never had a one night stand, so I wouldn't know lol.

 

If I do catch him in the act of cheating, I have no problem in leaving him. I'm just conflicted if this is something to be worried about is all. I am opening to hearing his side, as there are always different sides to a story; just not black & white. As to why I am not quick to end this relationship with him, UNLESS I do catch him in the act.

 

Thank you.

 

Gosh no, I wasn't looking to get back with them at all! In fact, I'd rather have a root canal!

 

Look Ellejay, I've read your posts about him and I really don't see where he is cheating. And why would he stay logged onto FB if he had something to hide in that account knowing you like to use his laptop??

 

You will always have women who will forever label a man a cheater if they cheated in their past. I'm just not seeing it here. People grow up and want different things in life. And guys can mature a lot from their early 20s to late 20s.

 

He seems pretty open with you so far and from what you describe he has been a good boyfriend.

 

You just need to decide if you can really trust him. It is clear you do have some trust issues with him and no one will blame you for having them.

 

But at this point I think a lot of people here are overreacting and are swift to judgement.

[JoeSmith357-1]

I guess all the posters here have tried, found guilty, and hung your boyfriend.

 

Exactly. I see zero, let me repeat, ZERO evidence of any wrongdoing here...

 

He looked at a couple girls posts... so what?

 

I assume you checked messages while you were there and found nothing. I also assume he hasn't added any new "friends" on facebook lately?

 

I also have to assume you snooped his email? And found nothing?

 

I think you are probably paranoid.

[bachdude]

Actually we still have sex everyday

 

Unless he is taking viagra, I doubt he, even as a young man in his mid 20s, would be able to get it up with you after sleeping with a co-worker or student before coming home! You would see a decline in interest!

[Weezy1973]

Where there's smoke there's fire. I'm not saying he's definitely cheating, but you noticed a marked difference in his personality and then along with the Facebook search, something is up. The reason a lot of people get away with cheating is that their partners don't want to believe it so they'd rather ignore the evidence and explain it away.

[Dis]

So are you telling me to break up with him?

 

See, the pictures are her evidence. Whereas with me, I have no evidence. 10 women he searches on Facebook, thats questionable... But I have not seen him have any messages with them. (I checked after lol I know) His phone he does not even use. It's collecting dust lol. We are always together unless we work.

 

In her situation, she has her proof! I don't have any. I thought this facebook thing is proof, but it's not valid. According to bachdude, it could be curiosity. Thats what I mean by that. I didn't see any friend requests on these women or messages or anything else. Just that.

 

In my defense, I don't want to assume he is downright cheating because of these searches. There are two sides to a story, & like what bachdude said, it could be sheer curiosity. Although I don't agree that he has to search 10 other girls lol! But it doesn't seem valid enough to leave him. That's absurd. He has never gave me the inclination that he is cheating on me until recently, but I could be wrongly accusing him.

 

He doesn't abuse me, & the only thing that is an issue is this. All relationships have their problems right? I feel like it would be absurd to deem it without having all the information. I have accused him of something else one time (not anything pertaining to cheating) because of my gut feeling, only to be wrong. That's why I'm being open. If I saw a nude pics though, OOOH that's a different story. There's no room for him to justify, nooope.

 

What I was responding to was you saying you would leave only if you had "proof"....Thats never a smart move

 

In your case...you have 3 or 4 justified reasons to not trust him....and trust is huge hun.

 

When I was with my ex...I never trusted him...part of the reason for that was because I always had this gut feeling he was hiding something

 

As Jewel said...we have gut feelings for a reason...they're there to protect us...never ignore them

 

You may not have "enough" proof to believe he's cheating but your instincts speak volumes

 

You will probably go forward with the relationship because you dont have enough evidence to break it off...but pls believe me....when you start to suspect your SO...and the trust starts to break down...its only a matter of time before its over

[katiegrl]

What I was responding to was you saying you would leave only if you had "proof"....Thats never a smart move

 

In your case...you have 3 or 4 justified reasons to not trust him....and trust is huge hun.

 

When I was with my ex...I never trusted him...part of the reason for that was because I always had this gut feeling he was hiding something

 

As Jewel said...we have gut feelings for a reason...they're there to protect us...never ignore them

 

You may not have "enough" proof to believe he's cheating but your instincts speak volumes

 

You will probably go forward with the relationship because you dont have enough evidence to break it off...but pls believe me....when you start to suspect your SO...and the trust starts to break down...its only a matter of time before its over

 

Are they truly "gut" feelings though?

 

Or is it fear mixed in with a bit of paranoia due to past hurtful experiences?

 

Be careful with that cuz it's easy to confuse the two.

[katiegrl]

Since there is ZERO evidence of cheating or him even talking to other women... my guess is he was (is) curious and enjoys looking at pics of beautiful women.

 

Perfectly normal IMO. He's a man after all.

 

Women enjoy looking too FWIW.

 

Human nature.

 

You know, I said this (below) to a friend the other day who experienced the same thing with her bf.

 

I have a great job that I absolutely LOVE.

 

However, I still get curious sometimes and look at the classifieds.

 

Note I have NO interest in finding another job I am very happy here.

 

Just curious to see what else is out there.

 

It is human nature to be curious guys and to look. Whether it's women, men, jobs or whatevs.

 

OP cut the guy some slack. At least until you have some solid evidence.

 

Don't allow your past hurts and dissapoints to interfere with an otherwise great RL with a great guy.

Edited July 27, 2016 by katiegrl

[miranda11]

He probably isn't cheating on you, but i think he is taking you for granted.

 

I am a woman, but honestly I don't exchange phone numbers or google my old hot mates or potential mates on FB if I am commited to someone.

 

Your guy is considering you the 2nd best and 2nd option untill something better comes along.

 

I wouldn't be anymore with someone who has a need to jerk off his collegues on FB or gets turned on by their photos while he lives with me, thats gross.

 

I think that sooner or later he will find something better and dump you.

 

For now it's all ok. You split bills, you cook, clean, he is bloody blessed.

 

Man who wants a future and is serious about you doesn't do what your BF does secretly.

 

I am doing what he does when I am actually not into a guy really much, but he is okay when I can't find someone better. Since I am 30 I know how to back off and call things off because I now what I want in life now. If someone doesn't completes me enough and makes me search further subconsceusly or consceusley, I leave to be fair play.

 

I know people get bored when that pass a year or two in a relationship, but still...If you think someone is your good option you don't have needs to look at other places

 

What I would do if I were you...I wouldn't be like "I saw your FB searches by mistake" thats childish.

I'd say to someone, I really like you but I don't think we have a future togethere since you have a need to look at other places e.g. facebook or stuff and jerk off another women. So I am gone, I won't be someone's second option especially since you used to cheat on someone before, I don't think you are ready to settle down. I am sorry but I don't want this in my life and living in doubts also is no life, so I am gone. Good luck finding someone else and thats it. I won't be someone's 2nd best, good luck finding someone who will make you happy sexually and in other fields, I guess we are not a good match.

 

I'd move the next day and be gone...

Edited July 27, 2016 by miranda11

[katiegrl]

 

I am a woman, but honestly I don't exchange phone numbers or google my old hot mates or potential mates on FB if I am commited to someone.

 

Your guy is considering you the 2nd best and 2nd option untill something better comes along.

 

I wouldn't be anymore with someone who has a need to jerk off his collegues on FB or gets turned on by their photos while he lives with me, thats gross.

 

 

Where did OP say he has exchanged phone numbers with anyone? I must've missed that.

 

Considers her the 2nd best option until someone better comes along? Pure speculation, there is zero evidence or even a suggestion that is how he feels.

 

And now you've got him jerking off to the photos?

 

Is there another thread somewhere from OP that I haven't read?

 

Cause again there is no evidence that these things are or have happened.

 

OP, TALK TO HIM. Communicate. Do not accuse, just discuss your concerns.

 

Calmly, rationally.

 

If he gets super defensive or attempts to flip the script back on you, then THAT is cause for concern.

[miranda11]

Since there is ZERO evidence of cheating or him even talking to other women... my guess is he was (is) curious and enjoys looking at pics of beautiful women.

 

Perfectly normal IMO. He's a man after all.

 

Women enjoy looking too FWIW.

 

Human nature.

 

You know, I said this (below) to a friend the other day who experienced the same thing with her bf.

 

I have a great job that I absolutely LOVE.

 

However, I still get curious sometimes and look at the classifieds.

 

Note I have NO interest in finding another job I am very happy here.

 

Just curious to see what else is out there.

 

It is human nature to be curious guys and to look. Whether it's women, men, jobs or whatevs.

 

OP cut the guy some slack. At least until you have some solid evidence.

 

Don't allow your past hurts and dissapoints to interfere with an otherwise great RL with a great guy.

 

If you do have a good job which you love and get payed enough you wouldn't look at the ads. It's simple.

 

People grow and change their needs.

 

Eventually you will apply for some better and cooler job and leave? Wouldn't you?

 

When people are satisfied they don't look at other places. He is not satisfied with her, neither are you with your job.

 

 

You can see yourself in your company for the net couple of years or maybe untill pension, but you always question yourself what if... what if??

it's normal...everybody does. But once you are fulfilled, you don't do it. You focus on progress and future in your career or your love life because you have no time and are to busy to look at other places because you want to give yourself as much as you can with what you have and grow together with your bf or company.

[katiegrl]

If you do have a good job which you love and get payed enough you wouldn't look at the ads. It's simple.

People grow and change their needs.

 

Eventually you will apply for some better and cooler job and leave? Wouldn't you?

 

When people are satisfied they don't look at other places. He is not satisfied with her, neither are you with your job.

 

 

You can see yourself in your company for the net couple of years or maybe untill pension, but you always question yourself what if... what if??

it's normal...everybody does. But once you are fulfilled, you don't do it. You focus on progress and future in your career or your love life because you have no time and are to busy to look at other places because you want to give yourself as much as you can with what you have and grow together with your bf or company.

 

No dear but appreciate your attempt to get inside my head, and know what I am thinking and feeling better than I do.

 

AGAIN, I am very happy here this is without a doubt the best job I have ever had.

 

I also look at apartments for rent even though I LOVE LOVE LOVE where I live.

 

People have curious minds.... maybe you don't, fine.

 

But don't presume to know what goes on in the heads and hearts of others, no offense but that is presumptuous and arrogant.

[miranda11]

Where did OP say he has exchanged phone numbers with anyone? I must've missed that.

 

Considers her the 2nd best option until someone better comes along? Pure speculation, there is zero evidence or even a suggestion that is how he feels.

 

And now you've got him jerking off to the photos?

 

Is there another thread somewhere from OP that I haven't read?

 

Cause again there is no evidence that these things are or have happened.

 

OP, TALK TO HIM. Communicate. Do not accuse, just discuss your concerns.

 

Calmly, rationally.

 

If he gets super defensive or attempts to flip the script back on you, then THAT is cause for concern.

 

No! you think it isn't some kind of OCD to have a search in FB for just females?

 

Hey! My FB search is about companies, hot guy, best friend who moved away or whatever....

It's not about men and men, and HOT men!

 

It's like my e bf that textes me after years hoping he would get laied. Meantime he divorced and has a new gf, yet he likes all my pictures, comments and texts me. I ignore him.

 

People do somethings for a reason. If someone is having just chicks in his FB search a dude is either too young and single or too horny.

 

Nobody has in their google of fb search just men or women if they are in commited fullfiling relationship and are too busy living their wonderfull lives. Come on!

And he cheated twice... brilliant match! Seriously.

 

People don't change...

[miranda11]

No dear but appreciate your attempt to get inside my head, and know what I am thinking and feeling better than I do.

 

AGAIN, I am very happy here this is without a doubt the best job I have ever had.

 

I also look at apartments for rent even though I LOVE LOVE LOVE where I live.

 

People have curious minds.... maybe you don't, fine.

 

But don't presume to know what goes on in the heads and hearts of others, no offense but that is presumptuous and arrogant.

 

I don't care but then you are wasting your time on irreleveant things and people like you are never satisfied with what they have, you can convince yourself you are happy, but you look for a new job and apartment once in a while. What for?

 

Waste of time... I look for an apartment or a job or google hot men when I am not satisfied with my own things in life and have extra time to waste life on things I want to change, but I don't.

 

In life you are either confident and happy with what you have and focus on more important things and spend 5 minutes on smoking a cigarette in a park doing nothing then googling for an other job or an apartment.

 

If something is missing you spend time doing irrelevant stuff and waste your time.

[katiegrl]

 

In life you are either confident and happy with what you have and focus on more important things and spend 5 minutes on smoking a cigarette in a park doing nothing then googling for an other job or an apartment.

 

If something is missing you spend time doing irrelevant stuff and waste your time.

 

Thanks so much for your words of wisdom miranda. Much appreciated.

 

However, I hope you don't mind... and despite your great advice.... I will continue being myself and doing things that I enjoy and give me pleasure even if it's five minutes searching the classifieds while on a break. For no other reason than simple curiosity.

 

You do you, I do me... okie doke?

 

Thanks a bunch!

Edited July 27, 2016 by katiegrl

[miranda11]

It's okay, but people are different.

 

When I start to do thing like you do in your breaks I question myself

 

1. Am I satisfied and why am I doing it?

 

2. I cave and think of my life and consider is it what I really want in life or not?

 

3. I make a change and stop or I tell everybody to **** off and move away and find a new job

 

Point.

 

I don't have OCD don't the same thing over and over again like 10 FB searches of hot girls or men. Everybody has a phase, but doing something constantly is an indicator you are not satisfied with your own life.

 

Doing something for a month ot two is fine, but doing something over and over again is a red flag that something is wrong. Some people admit it, some lie to theirselves.

 

In this story which is which thing. IDK, but regarding these 10 FB searches over and over again from her BF makes me think she is not the one for him. And he is a type of guy that cheats on his gf because he is never satisfied with none of them. Period!

 

One day he will find someone and stop searching his FB or whatever.

 

I dont think they are a good match.

[bachdude]

He probably isn't cheating on you, but i think he is taking you for granted.

 

I am a woman, but honestly I don't exchange phone numbers or google my old hot mates or potential mates on FB if I am commited to someone.

 

Your guy is considering you the 2nd best and 2nd option untill something better comes along.

 

I wouldn't be anymore with someone who has a need to jerk off his collegues on FB or gets turned on by their photos while he lives with me, thats gross.

 

I think that sooner or later he will find something better and dump you.

 

For now it's all ok. You split bills, you cook, clean, he is bloody blessed.

 

Man who wants a future and is serious about you doesn't do what your BF does secretly.

 

I am doing what he does when I am actually not into a guy really much, but he is okay when I can't find someone better. Since I am 30 I know how to back off and call things off because I now what I want in life now. If someone doesn't completes me enough and makes me search further subconsceusly or consceusley, I leave to be fair play.

 

I know people get bored when that pass a year or two in a relationship, but still...If you think someone is your good option you don't have needs to look at other places

 

What I would do if I were you...I wouldn't be like "I saw your FB searches by mistake" thats childish.

I'd say to someone, I really like you but I don't think we have a future togethere since you have a need to look at other places e.g. facebook or stuff and jerk off another women. So I am gone, I won't be someone's second option especially since you used to cheat on someone before, I don't think you are ready to settle down. I am sorry but I don't want this in my life and living in doubts also is no life, so I am gone. Good luck finding someone else and thats it. I won't be someone's 2nd best, good luck finding someone who will make you happy sexually and in other fields, I guess we are not a good match.

 

I'd move the next day and be gone...

 

Wow, some people have a pretty wild imagination!

 

If a GF said that to me, that i was jerking off to FB, simply because I had done some FB searches, I would think good riddance!!!

[miranda11]

Wow, some people have a pretty wild imagination!

 

If a GF said that to me, that i was jerking off to FB, simply because I had done some FB searches, I would think good riddance!!!

 

Yeah and you are FBing women just women on your FB? Why?

 

You can have in your search history NY Knicks, or NYSE... dude doesn't use his phone, yet he searches for other women. Thats amazing.

 

Yeah I search on my FB male friend constantly and stalk them and I have only them in my search, because I like to keep on my eye and check if they are fine.

 

Give me a break. No one is stupid enough. Someone doesn't need to be a chater to break up, but it's sure and indicator that you are living with a person who thinks you are their 2nd option.

 

I could never be with a guy who is googling his women on his FB and stalks just women on FB and is not interested in anything else then stalking other women, sorry but thats a pervert behaviour.

[introverted1]

Waste of time... I look for an apartment or a job or google hot men when I am not satisfied with my own things in life and have extra time to waste life on things I want to change, but I don't.

 

Ok, this is a tangent but maybe it's relevant.

 

I'm with Katie. Looking is fun. I enjoy going to open houses even though I love my house and have no intention of moving. I just find it fun to see other houses, get ideas of how to decorate, just see what's out there.

 

That may not be your thing, but that doesn't mean it's not a thing.

 

Similarly, some people search out old flames (or flames they wish they'd had) and see what they are doing now.

 

If this guy is cheating, the proof is not in his FB searches.

[Dis]

I can attest to the fact that katiegrl just likes to look around the internet for the simple fact that it she enjoys it....not because she's unhappy. People are curious creatures...many of us like to browse....nothing wrong with that...our curiosity does not translate to sadness or dissatisfaction

 

I will stand by my intitial point that I think the OP's bf isnt to be trusted....given his history with cheating and defensiveness when questioned...I dont see this turning out well

[miranda11]

Ok, this is a tangent but maybe it's relevant.

 

I'm with Katie. Looking is fun. I enjoy going to open houses even though I love my house and have no intention of moving. I just find it fun to see other houses, get ideas of how to decorate, just see what's out there.

 

That may not be your thing, but that doesn't mean it's not a thing.

 

Similarly, some people search out old flames (or flames they wish they'd had) and see what they are doing now.

 

If this guy is cheating, the proof is not in his FB searches.

 

I am not saying the dude is cheating, all I am saying when I search for old flames or whatever, I know I am not happy with what I have in my life right now, so I stop or move on and find something that satisfies me and stops me from looking further.

 

Some people are perfectionist and are never satisfied with what they have, so what? I won't date a perfectionist who only has a pattern of searching porn or women and is so shallow that he doesn't search for some different things in his internet life.

 

To me is pathetic behaviour using FB and stalking your hot friends, why do f...uck someone does that? If he or she is only 20 or 26? and so called happy with their lives?

 

Aspiration from time to time is a good thing but doing just something in repeated sequences is bloody sick behaviour and indicator something is not right?

 

My google search is not just men and men and men...It's everything, so is FB!

[miranda11]

I can attest to the fact that katiegrl just likes to look around the internet for the simple fact that it she enjoys it....not because she's unhappy. People are curious creatures...many of us like to browse....nothing wrong with that...our curiosity does not translate to sadness or dissatisfaction

 

I will stand by my intitial point that I think the OP's bf isnt to be trusted....given his history with cheating and defensiveness when questioned...I dont see this turning out well

 

Searching is fun from time to time, but searching for something on almost every break or doing it like OCD when your search box shows just women or apartments or jobs and nothing in between to me is an indicator that the person is unhappy and lying or is just lost!

 

Katie could look for a new job or apartments once in two months, but if she is doing it everyother day then she is lying to herself or wasting time because she is sooo bored in her life.

 

Sorry Katie idk you or have anything against you. Just for me.... doing something over and over everyday or every otherday doesn't make any logical explanation.

 

If her BF had like one name, then his male friend or whatsoever.. I'd be like okay he is just a guy, who eventually is attracted to his female friends or whatever they are. But using FB to stalk just hot women as the author said...she said they are all hot. I'd be gone as a bullet from a guy like this. Not arugues, no talks...just my good perception that he is aspiring for something more then me and that eventuall he will find it, so I'd back off and move out.

[Dis]

Searching is fun from time to time, but searching for something on almost every break or doing it like OCD when your search box shows just women or apartments or jobs and nothing in between to me is an indicator that the person is unhappy and lying or is just lost!

 

Katie could look for a new job or apartments once in two months, but if she is doing it everyother day then she is lying to herself or wasting time because she is sooo bored in her life.

 

Sorry Katie idk you or have anything against you. Just for me.... doing something over and over everyday or every otherday doesn't make any logical explanation.

 

If her BF had like one name, then his male friend or whatsoever.. I'd be like okay he is just a guy, who eventually is attracted to his female friends or whatever they are. But using FB to stalk just hot women as the author said...she said they are all hot. I'd be gone as a bullet from a guy like this. Not arugues, no talks...just my good perception that he is aspiring for something more then me and that eventuall he will find it, so I'd back off and move out.

 

Ok hun, you've made yourself very clear. But you need to remember everyone does not think as you do. To each their own. Allow everyone to be different and unique.

 

Your comments regarding katiegrl are borderline insulting...get yourself in check hun

[katiegrl]

Ok, this is a tangent but maybe it's relevant.

 

I'm with Katie. Looking is fun. I enjoy going to open houses even though I love my house and have no intention of moving. I just find it fun to see other houses, get ideas of how to decorate, just see what's out there.

 

That may not be your thing, but that doesn't mean it's not a thing.

 

Similarly, some people search out old flames (or flames they wish they'd had) and see what they are doing now.

 

If this guy is cheating, the proof is not in his FB searches.

 

Thank you introverted! With this and many of your other posts, I am beginning to think we are kindred spirits!

 

I love going to open houses as well!

 

As well as searching old HS boyfriends, as well as other old friends and old flames, again just wondering what they've been up to... NO other reason.

 

I did this even while in a long term committed RL with my ex with whom I was very happy until it all went to pot (no pun intended) due to his excessive drug use.

 

He enjoyed searching the net as well!

 

To the OP, unless your bf is dead or living under a rock, he is always going to want to look at other women, beautiful women.

 

On the internet and off.

 

If you deny him this basic human need as a man, or make him feel guilty or accuse him of jerking off to the pics or worse, cheating.... he is eventually going to become annoyed turned off and leave. Period, end of.

 

I mean no offense by this, because I know many women feel as you do, but it is attitudes like yours that IMO have caused the rapid rise of commitment phobia happening today.... men hesitant to get into RLs.

 

Relationships have become suffocating, more like prisons rather than a safe haven to land with a woman (or man) who loves you and accepts you.

 

If you feel insecure or paranoid about him looking .... take steps to overcome and resolve those insecurities, because I guarantee you if you don't, they have the power to destroy any RL you have with any man.

 

You will have your man lying to you, hiding his feelings from you, is that what you want?

 

Embrace the differences. Don't fight them or try to squelch them.

 

JMO.

Edited July 27, 2016 by katiegrl

[miranda11]

Ok hun, you've made yourself very clear. But you need to remember everyone does not think as you do. To each their own. Allow everyone to be different and unique.

 

Your comments regarding katiegrl are borderline insulting...get yourself in check hun

 

Check in what?

 

To me is waste of time and life searching for things everyday which you don't want to fullfil.

 

I am rather outside my office for etra 5 minutes everyday, sunbathing, getting vitamin D then...Loosing 150 minutes which is 2 hours by month doing things or stalking people I don't actually care about anymore.

 

But some people waste their time doing things they don't need, It's not me to judge, but I am not that kind of person.

 

I dont care about abs of a guy I will never have because I am commited to someone else, I won't look at some ads I don't need now everyday!

 

I am rather outside enjoying life then wasting my life on irrelevenat things