Wimenknow79 Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 We know each other for two years and have been friends. We didn’t talk for a year because he relocated and was in a relationship. I always had a huge crush on him and he knew that. We reconnected a few months ago after his relationship ended. We have been texting and flirting. He would text me in the middle of my dates when he saw me going out on Facebook. I finally asked him out. We spent the whole weekend together. It was a little awkward. He seemed half scared of me. He was just coming out of relationship. I asked him what the deal was. He said he didn’t want to rush things and wanted to get to know me because he rushed the last relationship. We never defined what we were though we both said we wanted to see where things went. It came out a little rude. In truth I got scared because I really care for the guy and I made the horrible mistake of running and not responding to that text. I even unfriended him. But in truth is because I was scared it was not going to work out and I would get hurt. I came back a week later. I apologized and told him what happened. He lied and said he went back to his ex and to leave him alone. I know he’s not back with her for a fact. He blocked me on facebook and unfireinded are mutual friend right after I contacted him. I then sent a text fully apologizing and accepting all responsibility. It was lengthy. This happened Saturday. He didn't block my number though. I know this is all my fault and I am not going to sugar coat it. Did he say and do these things out of anger and will he never forgive me? Is it completely over whatever it was.? I feel bad because not only did I hurt someone I cared about but a really good friend. Any thoughts on the situation would be appreciated.
HumanMachine Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 He's not interested in you, you came on way too strong.
Author Wimenknow79 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Posted July 27, 2016 prior to our weekend he said he liked me and always had and would love to see where this goes. Our mutual friend told me he really liked me. She also said he was really mad at me for pulling the disappearing act. Web were really good friends before this so I hate completely losing him. He has always been good about being friends with his exes except this recent one. I know I cant make him forgive me. I feel bad about it.
Mario2109 Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 I would get super mad if I was him!! You had no reason to do that, if he likes you like you said you have not lost him yet.. Just try to find a way to meet him in person and be completely honest with him. I am pretty sure you at least will get him back as a friend. Good luck
Author Wimenknow79 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Posted July 27, 2016 He lives a ways away. He is a sensitive guy that is kind of awkward in the dating front but I did really like him. I think that is why I ran. We both have been in bad relationship. He has not responded to my text messages. So I stopped texting but I did fully apologize and accept responsibility. My friend said just give him time and see what happens. I know I was a complete idiot and feel horribly.
Mario2109 Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 He lives a ways away. He is a sensitive guy that is kind of awkward in the dating front but I did really like him. I think that is why I ran. We both have been in bad relationship. He has not responded to my text messages. So I stopped texting but I did fully apologize and accept responsibility. My friend said just give him time and see what happens. I know I was a complete idiot and feel horribly. You just have to ask yourself, is he the one you want to be in a relationship with? Because if you ran away it means that he is probably not the guy for you. However, that does not mean that you guys can't be friends.. Just give him time, stop blaming yourself and putting yourself down
Lois_Griffin Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 I'm assuming you're fresh out of high school since you're childishly posting on Facebook during your dates. Adults don't do that. This whole things sounds very childish with you running away and acting silly just because he told you he wanted to take things slow. Your actions don't even make sense. I know this is going to sound crazy and unorthodox, but do you ever actually communicate with him NOT via text or Faceook or Twitter or Instagram or any of those other ridiculous venues? I mean, like humans USED to do? Try that. 1
Author Wimenknow79 Posted July 27, 2016 Author Posted July 27, 2016 I do care about him a lot. He could be the guy for me. No I'm not out of high school but seeing how I acted I can see why you would think that. In a different city I had feelings for him but he started dating someone and I had to watch him with her. Then he moved and I had to watch him leave. I was hurt. All I can say is I got scared and I ran. I know it makes no since but that is what happened. We are both 35 years old. I had to initiate flirting with him and asking him out because he was to scared too. We have done most communication by text messages but we texted all the time. I did try calling once this Saturday to talk to him but he did not answer me though I can't blame him. I know I have done all I can do. I guess the ball is in his court if he ever decides to talk to me again.
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