KamaKyzie Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 There's this girl I like who texted me she's had a bad day and is a mess. I replied "What's up?" and got back something about not to worry she's talking to some other guy about it and doesn't want to tell me. When I read this the blood rushed to my head and I replied "Whatever" and haven't spoken to her since. I just feel offended that she doesn't feel comfortable telling me about this and reacted accordingly. Am I overreacting? Was it a mean reply? I'm tempted to retaliate by taking selfies with hot girls on snapchat and uploading them on my story (I'm a good looking guy and know many girls who would do this with me). She's the first girl I've really let my guard down for in a while and reading this was a slap in the face. I've turned down countless advances from many girls as I really like this girl. What do you think of my idea? Is it mean? Was my reply mean? I'm sorry, but I don't pander to ANYONE and if she wants to play this game, I can play it much better than she can. I used to be a player before I met her and dropped my guard for her and I'm starting to think it was a mistake. I do genuinely care about this girl. I would just like an objective perspective from others. Thanks again.
joyful Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 it was not the most polite reply, but i am not sure if that matters. you have a crush on this girl and seem to be conducting a relationship with her in your head. it doesn't sound like anything mutual is happening between you.
Cherryz Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 I understand your reaction. It sounded mean what she texted you without consider your feelings. Even thou she told you clearly what she thinks. Dont know how close or how the friendship that you were building with her was or how long... Also since you say you are social with many girls. But it looks like she dont feel same as you feel about her or want her too now. Maybe if you asked or said like auch that hurts i thought we had that connection. It may have be a more open convo were you could have get more clarity why she feels like that. But either way,I think you better move on.
Zahara Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 (edited) She texted that she's a mess and having a bad day and you replied, "what's up?" She just told you "what's up". Maybe she felt your response was a little indifferent/cold rather than hearing a compassionate "I'm sorry to hear that, what happened?" Or maybe you could have picked up the phone and called her? Her response wasn't called for either. No, don't post pictures of yourself. These kinds of games only perpetuate the drama and immaturity. Just keep moving on. Edited July 27, 2016 by Zahara
Kamille Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 Her response to your question was immature. Why would she text you she's having a bad day if she doesn't want to talk to you about it? And why does she have to mention she's chatting with some other guy? Not a very classy chick this one. Still, do nothing. Your response was called for but you don't need to go any further and amp things up. You say you're a good looking guy. There are other women out there who won't purposefully try to make you jealous. Focus on them. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 There's this girl I like who texted me she's had a bad day and is a mess. I replied "What's up?" and got back something about not to worry she's talking to some other guy about it and doesn't want to tell me. When I read this the blood rushed to my head and I replied "Whatever" and haven't spoken to her since. I just feel offended that she doesn't feel comfortable telling me about this and reacted accordingly. Am I overreacting? Was it a mean reply? I'm tempted to retaliate by taking selfies with hot girls on snapchat and uploading them on my story (I'm a good looking guy and know many girls who would do this with me). She's the first girl I've really let my guard down for in a while and reading this was a slap in the face. I've turned down countless advances from many girls as I really like this girl. What do you think of my idea? Is it mean? Was my reply mean? I'm sorry, but I don't pander to ANYONE and if she wants to play this game, I can play it much better than she can. I used to be a player before I met her and dropped my guard for her and I'm starting to think it was a mistake. I do genuinely care about this girl. I would just like an objective perspective from others. Thanks again. Don't do this - it's very juvenile and desperate. It's also very transparent. Why on earth would you actually want to engage in game-playing and paint yourself that way? That's high school-level silliness. I don't think your text response was overly rude, but I also question what the nature of your relationship is with this girl. Are you just friends? Dating?
Scarlett.O'hara Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 I'm tempted to retaliate by taking selfies with hot girls on snapchat and uploading them on my story (I'm a good looking guy and know many girls who would do this with me) This is a terrible idea! It will make you look immature and weak, and for what? Because she felt uncomfortable opening up to you. If she was going through something upsetting, it is possible that she wasn't thinking clearly and wasn't sure who she could trust. Maybe she was even a little embarrassed after she said it. You say you genuinely care about this girl, but if that were true you wouldn't go out of your way to plot revenge for something so trivial. That is not the way to win a woman's heart, quite the opposite in fact. If you feel she was lying to make you jealous then you are justified in ignoring her, but if she is genuinely nice girl then you should give her the benefit of the doubt this once. Take some time to cool off and then consider the facts.
phineas Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 When a woman I'm not dating texts me about how she bad a bad day and is an e optional mess I usually ignore her. Im not into being an emotional tampon for someone just looking to unload on anyone. I'll let woman friends do it but if it gets too be a regular thing I dispense some tough love. Then they go find someone else I assume to cry to.
HumanMachine Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 You should definitely upload loads pics of you and hot girls - that'll learn her!!
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