BenDamage Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 I'm sure most of you have experienced this a few times after a break-up. This person that you used to hold in high-regards and spoke to every day, now only contacts you once in a while, very infrequently. That's what I feel is the most hurtful thing about a break-up; somebody that used to mean so much to you and you to them, now hardly wants to speak to you. Most of you on here already know my crazy story, but I'm not here to rehash it again. I'm just saying the most painful thing about this break-up for me so far has been the fact that she hardly speaks to me any more and I feel like I'm just not important to her any more. We used to talk everyday. She would be so excited to call me after she got off work because she wanted to hear my voice and tell me about her day and hear about mine. She would text me little love notes or quotes she had read that reminded her of me throughout the day and it would make my day to read them. That's all gone now and it hurts me to think that she's probably having those uplifting conversations/texts with her new boyfriend that she's with. He's the reason she smiles now and gives her her glow when that used to be my job. We have spoken a couple times, not often and I let her initiate contact; I don't call or text her. She wished me a happy birthday on Sunday which was nice of her. She was the first one to do so that day as well. I know she still cares about me and more than likely still has some feelings, but they're not strong enough for her to want to talk to me all the time any more and that's the pain I'm going through. I know I shouldn't want to hear from her and I should ignore her/block her and such but it's hard, y'know? As bad as it is for me, hearing from her makes me feel better. Knowing that she cared enough to text/call makes me happy because for a while when we had no contact I thought that I didn't mean a thing to her any more. Another thing that hurts is that her boyfriend doesn't like her speaking with me for obvious reasons and I feel like for the most part she's respecting his wishes and not talking with me, except for here and there. For instance, I took a really good picture of myself the other day and she 'loved' it on Facebook and she felt compelled to let me know she thought I looked good by texting me and telling me. I asked to meet up with her last Wednesday and she told me that she couldn't because 'he wouldn't like it.' It's painful to realize that she cares more about someone else's feelings and opinions more than mine when we used to be so close. I know that's the sad truth in it all, that I'm not the center of their world any more and I need to come to terms with it. Anybody have stories? Advice? It helps to get this stuff out and talk with people about it who understand what I'm going through.
ManyDissapoint Posted July 27, 2016 Posted July 27, 2016 I don't have anything to say that will help, but I am going through the same stuff. It's really hard. Look the thing is that you probably haven't met anyone good. I have been very unlucky and honestly apathetic towards dating. When I do meet a women who has potential, my thoughts about my ex go out the window. How messed up is that? It's when you're alone for long periods that negative thoughts take over. Don't be like me, be sociable.
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